Seriously, Why Were All The Good Names Taken?

I'll start.

Mine is that: Stolas will take Blitz at his word; that he doesn't do relationships. And that all they can be is an occasional hookup.

And that this will probably blindside Blitz's besotted simp butt, when they do start sleeping together again.

Too fast while taking it slow

@durbinfan13 "I’m not sure if they’ll jump right into sex again cuz I would think blitz would have taken what stolas said to heart about how he ‘makes everything about sex’"

🙂 I agree that Blitz has probably taken it to heart that, and is currently actively working to stop making everything about sex with Stolas.

But Blitz has been keeping his claws to himself for a while now.

Over a month, and it will probably be at least two, or more by the time of session 3 starts.

Blitz thinks that Stolas knows that he loves him.

I think that because of that Blitz thinks they've been dating since Mastermind, when Stolas moved in.

So from Blitz's perspective they've been taking it slow together.

But I don't think Stolas knows anything about that, because Blitz is allergic to defining a relationship.

"Who knows what stolas is thinking now, cuz they never talked about their relationship". I'll give you my best guess on what he's thinking.

Stolas doesn't think the man his in love with ever would want to date.

Not just date Stolas, he likely thinks Blitz doesn't want a relationship with anyone. Only casual sex.

Because Stolas thinks Blitz turn down the idea of a relationship with him hard twice.

The first time as mocking romantic roleplay, that Blitz did as part of the "anything" to keep Stolas happy, and their "bargain" going.

The second time Blitz boasted about breaking the hearts of anyone dumb enough, to try asking for something serious with him.

That people asking to date him is what makes Blitz end things with them.. (Which is why I think Stolas might assume anything sexual between them is only a hookup).

Stolas almost certainly believes this is what happened between them during Full Moon.

Stolas doesn't know that Blitz became none functional after their not-a-break-up, and nearly tanked IMP.

As far as he knows Blitz was perfectly fine without him, because Stolas doesn't think Blitz had feeling for him.

"risk his life to save his". Oooof ok, I don't think Stolas is still assuming it's the big romantic be all gesture, that he correctly identified it as when it happened...

I think he's started over thinking it, and assuming the worse, by the time they got home.

Because Stolas has the same self loathing issues that Blitz has, thinking all love and care he receives has to be earned.

That it's conditional and proportional to things he given them.

That it's something that has to be constantly topped up to deserve being treated well. (Like Blitz and his conditional unconditional support card).

That people don't actually like him for him, it has to be a fake act they put on.

And well, Blitz has been extremely nice to him since the trail.

The issue with Blitz savings Stolas' life, is because they really haven't talked at all about Striker's attack;

Stolas still doesn't know what made saving him from Andy different.

So Stolas is most likely he's going assume the difference is that he saved Blitz's at the trial.

Blitz kinda accidentally reinforces this daft idea too.

With Stolas even bringing it up when they get home that they are square, so Blitz shouldn't feel guilty.

So, in a position where Stolas thinks Blitz hates romantic relationships, only likes sex with no strings,

mostly knows Blitz enjoyed sex together,

and thinks he has to continue to earn his place if he doesn't want Blitz to start blowing up at him again... (Similarly sort of position Blitz was in start of the deal).

Even that Blitz is ok faking a romantic relationship in during roleplay exchange for sex...

...😔 Yer this what I mean by Blitz can be a 100% sure that he's doing it right, and talking it slowly and dating.

When Stolas can assume it only a hookup, with a man who isn't able to love him back.

And I mean sure Stolas wasn't up for anything; but a romantic relationship before, turning down Blitz 3 or 4 times just in Apology Tour.

It just things have changed quite a lot since then, like lossing his kid, his home and previous job.

Could any of us really blame the guy for wanting comfort and fun; with the man he's in love with after that?

And the answer is, we don't.

The unhoused people who come here seeking refuge 99% of the time understand that they will be kicked out if they misbehave.

The people you have to watch out for are Jessica, who only came because the kid she didn't want had to visit for a homework assignment and she just *needs* to yell at her child for asking to borrow two books or stay an extra five minutes, or Michael, who came in to look at porn on our computers for whatever fucking reason, or Karen who just wanted to come by to throw a fit that the particular book she wanted was checked out and harrass our staff about our collection being too limited.

And we did what we could to help. He was incredibly kind and patient despite his obvious anxiety and stress, more than most able bodied, housed patrons are to us under much less dire conditions. I liked knowing that we were the first place he came.

We have so many people like this who come in everyday. Many are quiet and keep to themselves, but sometimes they talk to us.

They tell us about how they're taking a few courses on a scholarship they applied for from our library's computer at the local community college to get their diploma. Or ask about a manga or dvd or book we might have to help them pass the time.

One woman, who comes in daily with her tattered walker always says hello to me and likes to work on the new jigsaw puzzle with me when we set one out.

So like, treat unhoused people like people. Treat disabled people like people. I don't want my library to feel like the only safe space in the world, but I'm glad it can be one of them.

"In the middle of a "forcing party" where friends and I are forcing one another to do the things that we've been avoiding.

So far: [bullet list] A passport has been filed for; An inbox has been zero'd; A personal website has been created; & more.

none of this absolves doctors of the truly horrendous things they say and do to patients, but it's important to acknowledge that rather than every doctor being coincidentally a bad person, there is something specific about this field and career path that gives rise to such high prevalence of ableist attitudes

I do not believe the vast majority of people go into a helping field because they’re secretly evil bad abusers. Some do. But most don’t.

And then I get legions of people who are like "Ah, so you're okay with people DOING BAD THINGS?" No, I'm explicitly against that

"Ah but if they DID THE BAD THINGS, it's because they were THINKING ABOUT IT and WANTING TO DO IT." Correct. The problem is the doing

"Oh, so you think NO ONE who EVER thought about doing bad things has EVER done a bad thing??" No. I'm sure many of them did think about it beforehand. I'm sure many also did not. It's the doing that's the issue

"So you want me to be COOL with PEOPLE DOING BAD THINGS" No. The doing is the problem. I also don't expect you to be cool with anything, I don't know you or care about you and nobody is owed any particular emotional reaction

"YOU WANT ME TO LOVE PEOPLE WHO DO BAD THINGS" Not really no

"YOU WANT ME TO KISS PEOPLE WHO THINK HARMFUL THOUGHTS ON THE MOUTH" Not really no

I think people also often forget that power dynamics don't always fully favor the customer, and sometimes power dynamics can be tilted in the favor of the customer service worker and subsequently abused. Able bodied customer service workers can be, and often are, ableist to disabled customers. White customer service workers can be, and often are, racist towards customers of color. Customer service workers who are men can be, and often are, sexist towards customers who are women. Customer service workers who are non-immigrants can be, and often are, xenophobic towards immigrant customers. Shall I go on? That's obviously not an exhaustive list and I could very well go on.

When I worked retail I had a co-worker scream at a little old lady and kick her out of the store because she spoke to him in a language he didn't speak. I saw her face as she was leaving and she looked so shaken up like she was about to cry. I've overheard so many of my co-workers calling customers racial slurs behind their back. Once again, I could go on, but I feel like my addition here is already getting long enough.

This really is were they're disabilities bugger them both over. Their written fuck ups take any small misunderstanding they have; and multiplying and magnifying them.

That definitely cause of so so many communication issues with with Stolitz. Leading to them not talking in person about alot of things because of miscommunications via text.

Stolas knows Blitz is a mile a minute speaker, but him being to being extremely terse via text makes Stolas badly misread him.

Thinking Blitz is angry or annoyed at him, because he can't hear his tone, or see Blitz's expression to try and guide him.

Blitz's writing style is nothing like his speech pattern with Stolas.

And Stolas writing style also isn't a good match for his speech. Stolas over explains to the extreme to try not not be misunderstood. And is unfortunately misunderstood for not sounding like himself, sounding like he's trying to downplay events instead of apologise.

A good example of them clashing is when Blitz is being cute and happy about coming over saying, "Lyke olways!"

It's exactly how he pronounces it when telling his daughter she looks perfect. So Blitz is being cute with Stolas.

But Stolas comply misreads it as Blitz not wanting to see him.

"If you don't feel like coming, that's ok! I'm sure I can do without it for one month. :)". Assuming seeing him longer that day is something to be endured.

Because Stolas has the same self loathing issues that Blitz has. No one can actually like spending time with him. It's all got to be because of what he can do for them, not who he is.

Despite Blitz being so very very up for sleeping together that night. (He even holding hands for miles, and was dieing to leave Stolas breathless).

And this is how Blitz felt about seeing Stolas most nights really.

But Stolas just can't tell that from that "K" he gets back when Stolas brakes their hookup date.

Confusing the heck out of Blitz. Feeling like his feeling are being played with, as he get jerked around because his smaller and his time is less important.

Giving Blitz lots of mixed complicated feelings. Because sure he wants to see Stolas, but Blitz was also hating that he was falling for the guy. So less contact now, with the option of seeing Stolas more later kinda was what he wanted.

The deal gave Blitz a sense of security that Stolas wouldn't end it out of the blue. Because Blitz assumed if he was doing what Stolas wanted then Stolas would keep him around.

And they still haven't talked even a little about how blindsided Blitz felt by the crystal.

And a lot of that comes from them both misunderstanding eachother over texts. With Blitz really really struggling to find and get the words out.

So often resorting to sending Stolas funny meme. Hoping if he can make him laugh, then Stolas will stop being upset with him. And they can get back to normal.

Or like how Stolas misreading Blitz "y?" has massively snowballed, into something they're both given up trying to talk about, because of their disabilities.

Making Stolas fucking up for a second time after Ozzie's, as he attempted to talk it through, appears to go nowhere.

Stolas knows that their night went of the the rails and was trying to talk about it... Stolas: "next time you come over, maybe we can talk about what happened at Ozzie's?"

He just knows that it did, and Blitz is upset with him for trying to treat the 'date' as a date at the end. Leading to Stolas still thinking he's coerced Blitz into something he's never been ok with.

And to Stolas describing himself as a monster, thinking there whole sexual relationship has been something Blitz never wanted.

Because Blitz saying all they have is "you wanting to fuck me"; sounds like he's saying that they have never had mutual attraction.

This communication fuck up just doesn't stick if Blitz was freely able to express himself in writing. Or if Stolas is better able to judge tone without facial or vocal ques.

But because Stolas' is austic and Blitz is dyslexic, Stolas' attempt at clearing this up, and apologising go deeply wrong.

He is just not able to interpret correctly Blitz's is limited in his response of "y?"

And Blitz gets back an extremely difficult wall of text, that is a dyslexia's nightmare to pars out.

"I'm sorry! Nevermind, it's not a big deal. i was just worried about you. you seemed very upset and you took off so fast. but maybe I read too much into that, I'm glad if that's not the case. I wasn't upset either, I just wanted to make sure you weren't and obviously you can handle any stupid joke a clown can make. Asmodeus can be very invasive in his humor, but i thought it was pretty funny myself. what he said about me at least, I enjoy being the subject of jest. maybe you can say mean things to me too next time you come over."

Having Stolas backtrack into insulting Fizz, and clowing, Blitz's former career. As well as appear to side with Ozzie's mockery; that all that they can be together is a kink, that ruins Stolas life.

And then asks Blitz to say mean things to him, because Stolas would be willing to put up with emotional abuse if he got to spend time with Blitz...🤦 (Again another example of self loathing, and assuming the other needs to be given something to put up with them).

Stolas doesn't know what's made Blitz upset, but was at least a little close thinking that it was about what Fizz and Ozzie said. (Even if it's actually about being hurt how Stolas appears to have rejected him in public).

Asmodeus: ♫"Wooo! My dark lord, how the mighty do fall. ♫You used to have a smoking wife, a kid, you had it all♫You sold your life for a thrust!"♫.

Blitz has a history of assuming he makes everyone he knows lives worse. And Stolas seemed to agree with that, that it was done only for sex.

Especially cus from Blitz view, Stolas appears to have given up things Blitz would kill for; a hot partner and a daughter who adores her dad, and is happy to show it.

Blitz doesn't know the marriage was arranged or that Stella was abusive. He just knows she's hot enough to impress the Sin of Lust. When he's getting dragged by his ex for his sexual prowess.

Blitz doesn't even clear to the reason why Stolas hide behind a menu... Because he does like the idea of hurting his kid. And Blitz just showed him this is what to do this when the MC making you feel uncomfortable.

They can't communicate well over text together, because of clashing neurodivergencies they haven't been able to talk any of this out. And this leads to them giving up trying to talk about some things in person.

Leaving this all unresolved since Ozzie. I can't wait to see them start to talk bits of this out in season 3.

Cus at least with them both in the same place, they've got like half a hope unpicking some of this mess.

Because I'm sure if someone asked who dumped who, both would say the other did it. (And I have metaphorical popcorn 🍿 waiting on that day).