Peace In Simplicity

Yes I'm going to make this post. I understand that there are a lot of anxious people out there, and for some of them picking up the phone it's scary. I have written notes when i have to call my doc/the pizza place...so... So! picking up the phone to ask for help, to a hotline can be even more scary, I got you lovely people.

REMEMBER that the person on the other side of the phone will help you trough ALL THE TIME, and guide you trough the process of getting the help you need. Trust them, it's their job. This is an example of a conversation:

S.Hotline:Hello I'm Kia this is the S.H what has you reaching out? Person: Hello...I'm Zee I'm not feeling well... SH: Hi Zee, can you tell me more about that? P: I'm overwhelmed...feels like...(+ description) SH: Ok Zee,I understand that what have you tried to deal with it? P: X, Y, Z ... SH: How about we do W? Want to try with me? This is an example of providing a fast solution to lower the stress like breathing exercises. Then they'll proceed to ask you few questions about your sui.thoughts/past attempts/frequency of the thoughts or events/medications. They'll ask if you're alone, if you want to call someone (with their help) if you're willing/unwilling to stay safe, if you are willing to talk to a professional, if you have special needs and if you're willing/unwilling to stay safe.

If you call a hotline they won't send someone to your house immediately. They'll send someone only with your consent, OR if you're a danger to yourself/others (unwilling to stay safe). However, sending someone to your house, without your specific request/consent is an unlikely outcome.

THIS IS THE LIST OF HOTLINES YOU CAN CALLand there are also therapy chats.

prewriting, for me, serves two functions: one, to stave off writer’s block and get me hyped up to write, and two, to make sure the tone of my writing stays consistent. i know we’ve all encountered that problem where we’re writing glorious purple prose, take a five minute break, and come back unable to write sentences more complex than those in a picture book. prewriting is, in essence, any refresher of your wip that you look at before you start writing. my prewriting agenda takes about 15 minutes, and it goes like this:

This is a list of tips I give myself every time I start a new project. All of these come from my experience in finishing 90-100K fiction books, but they might not apply to you! Don’t take these too rigidly. They’re here to inspire, not regulate!

Read your outline before writing every chapter, or even every scene

Make sure you remember every oc’s features (eye color, height, strength, past,)

Your second draft exists to add details, scenes, correct major plot holes, and generally fix bigger issues

Your third draft, however, exists to fix the rhythm

Your fourth draft is probably needed to fix issues you didn’t know of after your CPs tell you about them

Read books similar to yours as you write, you’ll need them as examples and as comp titles when you query

It’s totally normal not to know your characters perfectly before and while your write your first draft, you’ll get to know them along the way

However, by the last draft, you must know them like they’re close relatives

Originality stays in subverting tropes, inventing new contrasts, and worldbuilding

Love this book more than anyone ever will and don’t regret it

Set yourself a timer to write, but don’t get frantic if you don’t every everything done in that time span

Be kind to the character that is the most like you

Save the villain, and never kill the softest hero

Sufference has a cost: the reader will pay the highest of it

But your characters, too, will. Pain always has consequences

The right kind of music will help you write better. Don’t hesitate to look up “glorious music” for your villain entrance

You’d better make your love interest kind to your main character

Whoever invented the autosave needs a pay raise. Download every draft once it’s finished, and save it in Google Drive, Cloud, or whatever USB key you have.

1. Make up your mind to do things differently. Make the decision to turn this thing around. You have all the power you need, and you can make this work for you.

2. Decide to only work on one habit at a time. That focuses your mind, and your will to succeed.

3. Design a plan that is attractive and rewarding. If the pain exceeds the gain then you may not persevere. There must be something that’s enticing to make it seem worthwhile.

4. Nuke your negative thinking. You know that things will be tough and you’ll be tempted to give up – but plan in advance so you can push through trying times. For example, imagine how you’ll feel when you are living differently, and you’ve broken with the habit, and are basking in success.

5. Know the worst times of day, and the times you struggle most. Then come up with a plan so you cope better with those. But … make sure your ideas work, and are attractive enough, as it’s hard to keep on going when we’re low on energy.

6. Keep it simple. A harsh or complex plan can be too hard to implement. But making simple changes feels much more doable. (Also, remind yourself “it’s easy; this is something I can do.”)

summer days ☀

2021-07-10

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