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I tried to be funny when @elasticpoodleâ came to visit and the game decided to punish me for my sins.Â

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is this what the kids are listening to these days?
Took me a while to identify what in the world the other brass was till I realized it wasnât.
Someone even transcribed it!
jesus god someone transcribed this i canât believe it
(for those of u who are new to my house: my cousin is the one playing the chair)
Transcript for the hearing impaired:
TOOT scoot scoot TOOT scoot scoot
I love this so much
They often swap đâ¨
Letâs just all agree that this is an OFFICIAL behind the scenes footage, okay?
The thing is, it is. I donât know if OP knew that, but this is. Actually what happened.
âSo, Kojirouâs crossdressing. Setting aside that time the Rockets dressed gyaru for a moment, when we were making the Rose of Versailles-esque Musashi & Kojirou, we were going to have Musashi wear the (Marie) Antoinette outfit, but it didnât seem like a good fit. Then we tried it out on Kojirou and were like, well, that looks about right. So thatâs where Kojirouâs crossdressing odyssey really began.â
This is an actual pokeani character designers account. This. Literally happened with these exact outfits đ
Mission failed
Ummm. Abort.
The yawn is what kills me. âOh. Yeah, i was gonna take a nap. So sleepy honkshoo.â
This is a really good example of appeasement behavior in cats.Â
The kitten wants to play, but stops because the older cat has their ears back. Kitten backs down to show a loss of interestâ at that point, you can see the older cat blink slowly. This is one of the ways cats demonstrate trust and understanding.  The kitten turns away, to further cement a lack of interest in playtime at the moment.Â
The kitten lies down slowly, occasionally looking to the older cat for more approval. Finally, the little yawn at the end isnât to go âiâm sleepyâ, but rather as a calming signal. Cats consider sleeping to be a communal activity. By settling down and imitating the older cat, the younger cat is displaying âyes, I understand Now Is Not Playtime, weâre cool, right?â
The thought of having to navigate this is very stressful to me
going to school in Japan as an undercover cop and having my cover blown within seconds
adult giant owl among Japanese elementary students: they would not have noticed me being different were it not for my stumbling over personal pronouns

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I maintain that Hey There Delilah by Plain White Tees is a 450% better song if itâs about a guy whoâs lost custody of his daughter
Literally every lyric has so much more Energies if itâs sung to a child Iâm gonna die on this hill. âHey there, Delilah /Donât you worry about the distance /Iâm right there if you get lonely /Give this song another listenâ and âHey there, Delilah/ I know times are gettinâ hard /But just believe me, girl / Someday Iâll pay the bills with this guitar / Weâll have it good /Weâll have the life we knew we would / My word is goodâ like? Heâs trying to get his daughter back? Idk if sheâs with the other parent or in foster care or what but itâs So Much I have a lot of feelings about this. The repeated promises, âIâd walk to you if I had no other wayâ and âIâm right there when you get lonelyâ when, like, obviously, heâs not, and heâs just sort of desperately hoping that she still understands that he loves her, and that she doesnât feel abandoned. And then, âDelilah, I can promise you /That by the time that we get through / The world will never ever be the same /And youâre to blameâ thatâs so fucking sweet? Thatâs such a sweet thing to say to your daughter. Romance is over. Noncustodial parental love songs are where itâs at.Â
Thereâs a reason lots of good parents say to babies stuff like
âYouâre excited to go to the park!â
âOh, it makes you mad that we canât go outside.â
And then when the babies get a little bit older the parents can say
âYou seem upset. Are you sad?â
âAre you excited that gramma is coming over today?â
Which lets the kid (who is learning to utilize speech) respond with yes or no, which may prompt more questions, like
âSo you arenât sad, are you angry?â
âYes, does it make you happy when gramma is here?â
And then, finally, when the child is learning to use language in a more complex way, the parents can say,
âHow does it make you feel?â
âWhy are you feeling like that?â
And itâs all about teaching emotional awareness. I really reccomend using the process on yourself. Learn to ask, âam I happy?â âAm I sad?â âAm I anxious?â
Then practice identifying, out loud or on paper if you can, âIâm happy.â âIâm upset.â âIâm sad.â âIâm anxious.â
Final step: âWhy am I feeling anxious? Iâm still thinking about that awkward conversation earlier.â âWhy am I happy? Itâs such a beautiful day outside.â âWhy am I sad? None of my friends are responding to my messages.â
It really helps you notice patterns (âIâm more likely to be happy when Iâm around this person.â âWhen I havenât eaten, I often feel angry.â âIf I donât plan ahead, I get anxious.â) which is the first step in avoiding things and people that are bad for you and encouraging things and people that are good.
Basically donât forget that youâre just a baby who got more complicated.
Not sure how to articulate what you are feeling? Try starting at the middle and working your way out to the more specific feelings!
this is what happens when you name your pokemon before you know what it evolves into.
she still baby thoâŚ
Have a soundcloud of beats
https://soundcloud.com/nikhil-raman-411560507

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the worst thing yzma did in emperorâs new groove is hating on kronkâs spinach puffs. everything she did to kuzco is understandable because heâs been a dick to her so many times, but kronk is an innocent
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in case y'all wanna follow these playlists
Heady bros
white dudes who look like they like rap
basic 20-30s
30+
quiet ppl
POC
fucking hipsters
WM early 20s
early 20s fem
there are many other gems on this dudeâs account
This is the guy
lyft driver has WM 20s on until i try talking to him then he switches it to the gay bops playlist
if someone does the âfine, youâre right, iâm clearly a terrible person, iâm satan, iâm the worst person alive, i should just dieâ thing in response to criticism of their harmful behavior, they are trying to manipulate ppl and flip the situation around so that they look like a victim
stop tolerating this in 2k17 tbh. like really and truly, if you or your friend thinks this is okay pls call the hotline on the bottom of the screen and learn how to take responsibility for your bad behaviorÂ
The bad thing is I do this on a regular basis. Not because I want to manipulate people, but because thatâs actually how I feel. Iâm bad at receiving concrit. I canât say that everyone who reacts this way feels the same as I do, butâŚnot every case is like that.
have you considered that, regardless of your intentions, reacting in such an exaggerated way would make it very difficult for anyone to criticize you or tell you that youâre harming people with your behavior? iâm not interested in searching out peopleâs motives, i donât really care why someone does or says manipulative things. being unable or unwilling to simply apologize and not make it about themselves is a solid indicator that a person is not interested in being held accountable for their bad behavior, and people, especially the injured parties in question, shouldnât have to tolerate it.
take responsibility for your bad behavior 2k17 tbh
Okay, life lesson time.Â
When I was in my late teens and early 20s, I kept getting involved with people who would say, âOh, Iâm a bad personâ any time I brought up ANYTHING that was the least bit of a disagreement.Â
Like, âPlease donât leave my X on the floorâ would get, âOh, Iâm a horrible person!â
HEREâS WHY THIS IS A HUGELY PROBLEMATIC BEHAVIOR, and if you think Iâm calling you out and you think youâre about to shut down, take a breath, remember that this is about learning, and keep reading.
What is important is what happened after. My boyfriend might say, âOh, Iâm just an awful boyfriendâ and instead of him acknowledging the BEHAVIOR and working on fixing it, heâd get me trying to buck him up for the next half hour, telling him he was a good person. The behavior that started it all would not change.
Well, things led to things and I went back home to live for a while, and found that the same exact thing was happening⌠with my mother.
And then I learned about pattern arguments. Pattern arguments are the ones where you keep having the same nonproductive argument over and over again. They donât all follow this pattern, but this is a really common one.
The trick?
BREAK THE PATTERN
First you have to know what the pattern is. In this case: 1. Grievance 2. Self deprecation 3. Ego stroking So, with my mother, we started in on one of these, and she said, âI guess Iâm just a terrible mother.â And instead of reassuring her, instead of derailing the issue and letting it go⌠I said, âWhen you say that, it makes me wonder how terrible a daughter I could be that you would think you were a bad mother. We have this conversation this way over and over, and the problem that I have always gets pushed aside in favor of trying to make you feel better. When youâre willing to have a real conversation about this, Iâm happy to talk to you, but Iâm bored with this argument, so Iâll see you later if you want to really talk.â And I left the room. Now, my mom is a reasonably self-aware person, and does a lot of hard emotional work, and so she got it, very quickly. 10 minutes later she came out and found me, and we had a real conversation about whatever the hell the issue really was, and we have literally NEVER had that particular pattern argument again in 23 years. Boyfriend came to visit. I was upset about something, he started in on the âIâm just a shitty boyfriendâ thing⌠and my response? âYep. You are.â His jaw dropped. He blinked. And I said, âLook, thatâs what you do. You say shit like that and it means you donât have to change your behavior, and Iâm tired of the pattern we have where I tell you something isnât working for me, you tell me youâre terrible, and I spend half an hour making you feel better. Iâm tired of it and Iâm not doing it anymore. If youâre willing to have an actual conversation about this, and not just the same old argument, Iâm game. But this thing we do where you talk yourself down and I butter you up? Is boring. And Iâm over it.â We also did not have that argument again. (The relationship finally ended for real a while after, but it ended in a grown-up way, and not with a ridiculous meaningless fight.) When you knock yourself down, the gut instinct for the people around you is to pick you up. But that means youâre not pulling your weight in the relationship. Youâre making them do the work and youâre not actually hearing them. So that brings us to another point:
How to deal with criticism
Okay, so if youâre not going to knock yourself down when someone says something negative about you, what DO you do? We donât actually train people to take criticism well. But it is an art and a skill and NECESSARY to finding emotional stability in the face of a critical world.
I see it as a flow chart, but since the flow chart I made for it ended up in a book that I donât own the copyright to (not a big deal) Iâll write out the decision tree here instead: 1. Someone offers criticism (constructive or not!)
2. Listen and think about it without immediately trying to defend yourself. You can say, âOkay, I need a moment to take that in and think about it because I want to understand it.â Or something else appropriate to the situation. It is okay to ask for time to think in most circumstances. Most people will appreciate that you are thinking about their words instead of immediately getting defensive or counterattacking. Think about whether what they are saying is valid, might be valid or is not valid.Â
3A. If it is valid, then you have a choice. You can try to fix the behavior or you can acknowledge that it is a valid criticism but decide you arenât likely to fix it. Start by acknowledging the validity of the criticism, and then say what youâre going to do to fix it, or say that itâs valid but it isnât something youâre willing (or possibly able) to change, or say that itâs a valid criticism and youâll need to think about possible solutions. They may have a suggestion. Taking it or not is also a choice.Â
3B. If youâre not sure itâs valid, but it might be, tell them, âI really need to give this some more thought.â or âCan you tell me more about this? Iâm not sure I understand the issue well.â  Or âIf you can point me at some reading material or search terms, Iâd like to study this before I decide what Iâm going to do.âÂ
3C. If you know it is not a valid criticism, STOP a moment, and look at WHY they are making it. This is where Active Listening can be very helpful. âI hear you saying that X is a problem. I donât see it that way right now but Iâd like to understand better why you do.â Or if you think they donât have enough information, âI hear you saying X, but my understanding of the issue is Y. Hereâs what I know about it if youâre ready to listen.â If theyâre just looking for a fight, tell them youâre not interested in fighting, and disentangle yourself.Â
4. If the criticism is something you are going to listen to and take action on, tell them what kind of action youâre going to take. If itâs something youâre hearing and thinking about, tell them that. If itâs not something youâre going to do anything about or itâs just wrong, thank them for their input and move on.
Literally never is it going to be helpful to say, âOh, Iâm just a terrible person.â Thatâs very much like a nonapology-apology in terms of how unhelpful it is to any conversation. Itâs kind of worse because it actually expects emotional labor from someone who is already having to bring up something unpleasant with you. Think about what they say Decide whether youâre going to do something about it Do the thing, or tell them youâre not going to do the thing. Donât demand emotional labor from other people when you were the one who messed up.Â
Apologize if appropriate. This is all predicated on the notion that youâre talking to someone who actually wants to communicate and isnât just an asshole on the attack. Because seriously, the whole âIâm a terrible personâ thing? Boring as fuck. Knock that shit off. Maybe you are. Maybe you arenât. But take responsibility and have a little self-respect and donât make others pick your emotional dirty towels off the metaphorical bathroom floor.Â
Yeah, I want to reiterate all of the above, because I feel like the top post doesnât do an especially good job of conveying that mostly when people do this its not on purpose, its generally because theyâre feeling real distress.
Its just that it doesnât matter.
If every single criticism of you ends in an emotional crisis, you become uncriticisable, and its unbelievably difficult to deal with someone when you can ask them to stop doing something, or to fix something.
9 times out of 10 when someone asks you to stop doing something, or fix a behaviour, its not that big a deal, they were a little upset, they said something about it, and a quick apology and not doing it again, or even just making a sincere effort to do it less, and theyâll probably not even think about it again.
And yeah, it can feel really, really bad to realize youâve upset someone, even if its only a little bit. But it is unbelievably difficult to maintain a relationship with someone who makes all their feelings your problem. Not because it means youâre evil, or abusive, or being deliberately manipulative, but because most people just donât have enough emotional energy to process for two. They just donât.
This would have been amazing to have when I was 16 and an arsehole, but thank God for the people who helped me break that behaviour.
the cha cha slide in full metal armor
âsliiide to the leftâ
*indescribably loud screeching of metal against asphalt*
âone hop this timeâ
*clonk*
âtwo hops this timeâ
*clonk clonk*
âeverybody clap your hands!â
*clankclankclankclankclank*
Ask and ye shall receive ft. my drunk ass Any other requests? Send âem my way!Â
⌠apparently they now have a youtube channel filled with doing shenaniganry in armor.
Including the chicken dance
And the YMCA.

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The thing about Qrow!dad theories is that its a win either way. Either we have a protective but often absent father entrusting his daughter to his teammate, who raises her as his own with love and care, OR we have a protective blond father who entrusted his youngest to his teammate to train and mentor. And both treasure the memory of her mother. Like... there should be no heat on this theory, because its adorable and tragic for both Tai and Qrow either way.
âWhy should LGBT spaces cater to trans and non-binary people?â
âThatâs the T, cis.â
There are multiple puns and multiple social statements in those four words. Itâs too powerful.