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As I feared, facemeetpalm was kept marked as an NSFW blog which makes me unsearchable and my posts invisible to anyone that doesn’t already follow me there soooooo…

I will be predominantly on this blog from here on out. Thanks to all of you that have already followed me over <3

As I feared, facemeetpalm was kept marked as an NSFW blog which makes me unsearchable and my posts invisible to anyone that doesn’t already follow me there soooooo…

I will be predominantly on this blog from here on out. Thanks to all of you that have already followed me over <3

Art By IG: @vskafandre

me every month: 

Anyway, I hate to be callous but that’s just your body telling you to hurry up and get pregnant. Of course birth control also makes them not as bad, depending on what kind. Of course you find out that there’s more kinds of birth control than there are types of oil, which is a pain. There are more period blood containment things(yes, tht includes tampons, pads, cups, etc.) than there are types of oil according to my dad who actually knows his shit about the oil,saying there’s like 4 types.(Yes, talking about motor oil here)

“I’m Chinese I don’t speak any-”

“‘Cause if you do, I’ll sleep with you right now.”

Here are the main parts:

In the author’s experience, the 1-2-3 fingers ‘preparation’ thing that we all know and love (and happens in 99% of fics) isn’t done by gay men. It’s important to be relaxed and go slow, then take a minute to adjust - but the idea of ‘stretching’ with fingers isn’t recognised. (According to the author. There’s some fighting in the comments. He adds that written fingering is hot - it shouldn’t be wiped from fanfiction by any means - but it should instead be embraced as a pleasurable sex act of its own, rather than a mandatory stage of all anal sex ever.) 

Anal sex without preparation and lube isn’t actually going to cripple you. It’s commonly done, especially by long term partners, and frankly it can be part of the appeal.

I’m so guilty of this. I’m sorry, End Game Myc, I didn’t know. Continuing sex after the bottom has come is generally very unpleasant and uncomfortable. It’s also seen as bad etiquette and very selfish.

Cock rings don’t stop you coming. They prolong an erection, sometimes even after coming.

The prostate isn’t a ‘press for pleasure’ button. It doesn’t produce an immediate shower of stars. Like all sexual pleasure, it builds gradually and needs sustained stimulation.

Coming after two or three tugs of the cock shouldn’t be written as ‘standard’, even if the character has been on the edge for a while. It generally takes longer. Ten seconds is given as a ‘minimum’.

Male orgasm isn’t really heat - it’s pressure - and it’s located more in the groin than in the belly.

The slit at the end of a man’s cock isn’t that sensitive. The frenulum (underneath the head) is the sensitive bit. There’s also no large vein on the underside of a penis, and it certainly doesn’t swell up.

Apparently we can make more of a thing out of pre-come. It’s normal for there to be loads of it. (Hurray?)

There’s more discussion, personal experiences and arguing in the comments. 

Anuses don’t so much “stretch” as “dilate.” And if you’re experienced, you have some control over the muscle. I’ve even had anal sex without lube, and while I wouldn’t necessarily recommended that, it was not particularly painful and I certainly didn’t bleed or anything. There’s such a thing as rectal mucous. It’s not at all like vaginal lubrication, but a rectum isn’t totally dry. It definitely helped that my partner was uncircumcised (which will be true of most UK/European characters) and we weren’t using condoms. Foreskins reduce friction and condoms add it, so, I wouldn’t recommend unlubricated anal sex except in those circumstances.

I think that all depends on experience and preference. Personally, I prefer to be fingered. I had a boyfriend in high school that tried to dry entry my ass all nice and slow like—nope. Being fingered, personally helps me get relaxed and greases the wheels so to speak. Dry fucking is all fine and well, if you’re into that, but my own personal experience is that lube can be generously applied or lightly applied to achieve more or less pressure/friction, but there’s no good reason to go without aside from preference. The muscles of the anus ARE more sensitive than those of the vagina, you CAN hurt yourself if you aren’t careful, but I’ve never read a fic where a bottom walked away crippled, I feel like that’s an exaggeration of what most fics describe as a mild tenderness. Or, maybe y’all are reading some weird ass shit. I don’t know.

I mean, I know, OP and article writer say not to stop the fingering but honestly, just because something isn’t necessary every time doesn’t mean you have to skip it.

Fingering is a great way to get a lover worked up; my husband loves it. The prostrate is a gland, it swells over time with stimulation and arousal, and I’m always happy when there’s a post going around sharing this knowledge. There’s a whole generation of folks that grew up with American Pie and think it’s a button thanks to Stifler. Lol.