Call me Mr. Ambivalence

The number of people I've had to witness talking to myself and others about how transhet people aren't valid, unsafe, how we're traitors to our queer peers, how we don't belong at pride, how we shouldn't have pride because "ew straights".

It's really fucking exhausting. And I'm not even straight! My husband is, and he feels the same way, so I know I'm not alone here. I've heard this from several people now. I hate it. I hate how I and others are seen as lesser just because we're attracted to, married to, or dating people of different genders than us.

You can't help that you're gay. Transhet people can't help that they're heterosexual. Why is this so fucking hard for people to understand? What the fuck do you think happens to the gays and lesbians who transition and are now straight trans women and trans men? You sure as fuck accepted them then, why not now?

And that's not even including aspec heterosexuals, but that's not my community so I won't speak on that.

I've said this a few times now, but I'll say it again: the trans community and wider queer community has a heterophobia problem.

"yes!"

"so nobody in an oppressed group was ever happy!"

"no, some of them were sometimes"

"oh so the oppression wasn't real then!"

"no, it very much was and needed to change"

"but...if they were happy..."

"humans find ways to be happy in even bleak circumstances. it's kind of a defining trait of humanity. they had to live their lives in the world as it was, even while fighting to change it, so. yeah. they made happiness for themselves the way everyone does, even now with the problems we have today. there were good things in their world, too, alongside the bad. even some things we could learn from now, though definitely not their macro-level social attitudes!"

"...ohhh you're a shill for conservative values and you wish you lived back then! got it!"

4 year old me: why must we do this

Fantastic old woman in the leopard print coat: "Why yes, my tooth IS real silver! Nobody ever asks me that. Do you like cats?"

lake inferior

lake normal

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i put them on my front door and anytime it opens they ring. that way if i think someone has broken in or i see someone who isn’t there i can think back to if the bells have rung, and if they haven’t i can assure myself it’s not real. obviously it’s not fool proof, like if you are prone to auditory hallucinations, but it has really helped me calm down in time to avoid major psychotic breaks. it’s a real lifesaver

I want to go to this exact point and run around it saying “I’m in Sweden!” I’m in Finland!” “I’m in Norway!” until I get tired

They even made a circle there which tells you in which country you are