Look, trans girlies, I am y'all's biggest fans. I'm AFAB queer, I feel like I'm in drag no matter what I wear and being a girl always felt "icky" until I met you. The trans community taught me that being feminine could be fun, desirable, and even aspirational. That concept rocked my world. Yes, I did in fact need to get a spinnier skirt and I no longer needed to cringe when I thought back to liking pink when I was five.
But.
This whole "trans girls have periods too" thing.
You're fucking killing me here.
Not as much as the TERFS kill me, the TERFS can all go directly to hell on a bullet train that is filled with spiders and careens off the track into the side of a mountain before plunging into the fiery pits.
BUT.
A big, shapely, badonadonk dumptruck BUT....
As someone who had DECADES of heavy periods where the bleeding was so fucking incapacitating that some days it made more financial sense to skip work and just sit on the toilet and bleed instead of having to change expensive overnight pads every 10 minutes (and get accused of doing drugs in the bathroom)? Where I've bled through the maternity pad, the pants, and ruined someone's hastily-loaned sweater? Where I was visibly anemic and had low blood pressure all the time and probably a little closer to death than was strictly ok but everyone pretended it was fine because "a little blood isn't going to kill you" and "periods are natural just deal with it"?
If no one ever told you, "Period" means blood in a clinical setting. It always, always, always means blood in a doctor's office. It did back when I began menstruating in 1996, and it hasn't changed now that I'm in perimenopause here in 2026. They always ask me about my period, and they always mean "blood". Nothing more, nothing less.
Are you, self-made ladies taking hormones, having hormonal cycles that involve the hassles of a flip-flopping sex drive, cramps, mood swings, the whole kit and caboodle of mental and emotional symptoms associated with estrogen? I wouldn't doubt it for a second. Estrogen is one hell of a drug.
Your symptoms while on estrogen are 100% valid. All of them.
I. Would. Never. Take. That. From. You.
But.
If AFAB ladies try to get cute with their doctors about what counts as a period? We literally get yelled at. Or treatment just stops and we're told to stop wasting the doctor's time.
When the doctor asks, "When did your period start?" that NEVER includes cramping beforehand, it's asking for the day and time the blood hit the panties. Mentioning cramping is not relevant, and we get yelled at because they're not asking about cramping symptoms, they're asking about the period which is always ALWAYS referring to the blood.
When the doctor asks, "How heavy was your period" they are asking for tampons or pads per day or per hour. Responding with how bad your cramps were? More irritation from doctors because your PMS is not your period. You might even get accused of not being cooperative and they ask you to leave.
The last day of your period? Not asking when the cramping or brain fog stopped, they are asking for the day the blood stopped staining the panties No other answer suffices, because they are asking about the blood, because the cramping and brain fog lifts on day 3, the the bleeding can last for another week or two.... or three.... Or just never ever stops and the only moment you know your next period has started is that the flow gets heavier.
If an older lady mentions that she's started her period again, as in her uterus is shedding blood, that means she has cancer. If she's having PMS symptoms again, that's a different diagnosis.
If this is starting to sound like some medical PTSD? Dingdingdingdingding!
"I don't understand why some women get so upset"
IT'S THE FACT THAT YOU'RE CLAIMING TO HAVE AN EMBARRASSING, DEBILITATING SYMPTOM THAT HAS CAUSED REAL MEDICAL, EMOTIONAL, FINANCIAL, AND PSYCHOLOGICAL HARM TO THE COMMUNITY THAT YOU WANT TO BE ACCEPTED BY.
AFABs have enough trouble trying to get doctors to believe us when we talk about excessive bleeding, especially when we present as tomboyish, because I guess tomboys are supposed to have very light periods and a lot of doctors still stick to this "you are not presenting feminine enough so I diagnose you as a liar who is afraid of a little blood no go out there and stop being a little bitch about it or grow some tits or something".
Now, if you will, consider the seismic harm that reverberates through this fucked-up system when trans women begin boldly saying, "I, too, am having my period". And when someone asks, "You're bleeding?" the answer is, EVERY FUCKING TIME I've seen the exchange in the wild? The answer is evasive wordplay. Very carefully chosen words. The answer is never "Oh, it's PMS but not blood". Every single time it's "I have monthly cycles like any other woman". And that leaves a LOT of people who already have a VERY shaky understanding of female anatomy CONVINCED that trans women are bleeding monthly.
And what kills me?
Girlies. My treasured femmes and thems.
The queer community is already having trouble with people calling us "delusional" for being queer. They (WRONGLY) call you mentally ill for being your actual gender. They want to throw you, and me, in camps to de-program us from "delusions".
It it really the right time to start shouting with your entire chest that you are experiencing a non-existant uterine lining shedding event on a monthly basis?
We are playing with fire here.
We can call it a cycle. Or moon time. T-period. The good 'ol female hormone rollercoaster. We're a creative bunch, we can figure out a word for non-menstruating female hormonal cycle.
Just, please, I am begging you.... Can you stop trying to shock and annoy the bigots by saying you're having periods and menstruating when that is clinically not what's happening?
I don't even understand what the goal is here. Is there some kind of award conferred on bleeders that no one ever told me about? Did you swallow the TERF bullshit about "you'll never be a woman unless you bleed like a woman"? Is it aspirational, hoping for the day uterine transplants are real and until then.... Fake it till you make it???
I don't fucking get it, it hurts my brain, it triggers my medical PTSD to hell and back, it triggers my PTSD about being gaslit, and it makes me fucking afraid that this weird obsession with INSISTING on having a symptom you don't is gonna be the tipping point where they're gonna throw us ALL in camps for acting crazy.
Because I know that if I came to my doctor saying I was ejaculating and then I played stupid word games while medical staff tried to figure out if I really thought I was creating sperm in my body and then they were coming out of me when I orgasmed despite never having had testicles, they'd put me in a 72 hour hold and I think a lot of you don't appreciate how buttfuck insane it sounds to be claiming you're having symptoms associated with an organ you have never possessed.
IT'S. NOT. WORTH. IT.
COME. UP. WITH. A. NEW. WORD.
A BETTER WORD.
FUCK.
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