Unashamed Good Omens Pirate

Over fifty years of data show a peak in PFAS (also known as "forever chemicals") content in seabird eggs in the 90s, followed by a decrease as regulations went into effect. The most recent findings show a 70% decrease of most common PFAS.

(5th of June)

Starting point: is the sexual content queer (m/m or f/f)? yes -> she's a fujoshi & a dangerous fetishist. no ->

is it an erotic romantasy novel? yes -> booktok goonslop porn addict. no -> is she having sex in real life?

yes -> with her own boyfriend? yes ->she's not a girls' girl, kill her. no -> catering to the male gaze / pick me behavior

Back to is she having sex in real life? no -> is she literally just dressed sexy? yes -> catering to the male gaze / pick me behavior. no ->

is she over 30? no -> she's been groomed by the zio pedo epstein class :( her brain isn't even developed!!! yes -> Hag!!!!!!

This homeless person is making me uncomfortable. Should I call [a man with a gun]?

My neighbor is having a loud party. Should I get [a man with a gun] involved?

There are some teenagers skateboarding. Do you think [a man with a gun] would get rid of them for me?

The big difference between me and a cop, from my point of view, is that a cop has the mandate from society to 1. Confront people who are involved in some kind of conflict and 2. Function as the point of contact for enforcing the law, which might include telling someone they have to alter their behavior or face consequences like being arrested.

And, like, I'm pretty conscious of how acting like I did have that mandate would be seriously wrong under the law as well as common sense and basic ethics.

My neighbor is having a loud party. The established civil law says that they're in the wrong for this and I'm in the right. I ask them to quiet down. They refuse. Now I wish to have recourse to the civil law, which says there's a limit to how much you can disturb your neighbor with loud parties and they're clearly on the other side of it.

Add to this the fact that Qualified Immunity has been dramatically expanded in recent years to the point where it can be difficult to prosecute police officers even for fairly clear violations of Constitutional rights and you have a situation where officers are primarily trained with firearms and have little outside incentive not to use them.

My perception is/was actually that comparatively little of that training is on firearms or any kind of combat at all versus other procedure and stuff.

I agree QI is a massive problem, but also have a fair amount of skepticism of many left wing narratives of police problems esp since maybe 2023. On the other hand I'm really disgusted by how the Supreme Court seems to have a very limited view of the 4th Amendment rights and related issues, which has supported police in being presumptuous.

My major trad opinion here is that American law as it stands now is too restrictive of ordinary citizens, allows police terrible presumptuousness, and gives fewer options to resolve conflicts outside of the system (which was a major load-bearing part of many traditional legal systems.)

But it meant that we had absolutely no help or support when we were trying to work on the relationship in ways that *did* value my autonomy. There's basically no advice for people who want to try to make a relationship where there's a big desire gap work that isn't "well you should just have sex anyway" or "just break up lol". And that sucks!

Just after giving birth, during a family crisis, during a mental health episode, during health problems, during stressful periods at work

There are a lot of times when one person is horned up and raring to go and the other has no interest

And the solution often presented is that the person who is going through something should just put out because they are the problem instead of like...finding ways to engage in non sexual intimacy to reaffirm closeness

An asexual person is going to get 10x the amount of pressure and blame put on them and no advice on how non-sexual intimacy can help their relationships and if they get that at all it will only be to sell it as a bridge to sex they don't want.

I really hate the selling of intimacy as only equaling or facilitating sex. Intimacy comes in many forms and should be explored more by every couple as a non sexual act. And it the given importance it deserves. In fact I would argue if we as a society put more value on non sexual intimacy more relationships would be happier and healthier

And also you're right that while this post is specifically about the asexual experience, these problems affect everyone; desire gaps, whether temporary/circumstantial or ongoing, affect many if not most long-term relationships. And the solution needs to reaffirm bodily autonomy and compassion for everyone, not just carve out a specific exception for ace people. Too frequently I see people and institutions that, even when they're attempting to be affirming, essentially say "Well this is what a committed relationship Needs To Look Like . . . unless you already id as ace I guess" instead of allowing their general idea of what relationships can look like to expand and become less prescriptive.

"Absolutely positive," says Grace.

"You've never even kissed?"

"Nuh uh. Nope."

Dubois joins in, saying, "But if she asked you to... say... get your arm surgically attached to hers. Would you?"

"...huh???" says Grace, raising an eyebrow.

"Well, would you?" asks Yao.

Grace looks thoughtful. "Like. I mean. If it was pertinent to the mission, then..."

I'm begging you. Everything's changed! It's only the two of us! We're the only ones left! Just let me in!