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Rule of thumb: In every oppressed group, the women are having a worse time of it. This is due to a concept called "misogyny", which intersects with everything

equating womanhood to submissiveness is so laughable to me. My first moment of conceptualization of gender was seeing my mom's fury, courage, and fearlessness in protecting me. The worst thing you can do when backpacking is get between a mother bear and her cubs. There is no feminine urge to get abused or being a sweetiepie or whatever the fuck the stockholm syndrome princesses over at Tiktok are posting about

“The thing in goddesses is that they are women of power. They are not all these fluffy Barbie images. The only other images we get in pop culture are fluffs, airheads, and morons. .. having goddesses that do stuff, that take care of themselves is enormously important. And they do exist in mythology and thank scholars that they’re coming out so that we as women do have an archetype. It is a feminine energy to pick up the frying pan and bash somebody in the head who is trying to get in your house. It’s not a feminine archetype to stand in the corner and go, "Eek, eek, I’m a helpless idiot.” Women do not actually come from a brain-freeze as we would be led to believe from watching Barbie dolls." -Shell, interviewee for Kristy S. Coleman’s book, Re-riting Woman: Dianic Wicca and the Feminine Divine (2009) (p. 82)

I hate to say this, but we cannot reclaim femininity. The right wingers who say “submitting to a husband is feminine energy” and the left wingers who say “I like acting out porn about female submissiveness therefore I am a woman despite my dick and balls” are one and the same. Sorry

can someone just tell me who this is, like use an actual name i have no idea what the fuck is going on and i can’t pretend i do anymore

her name is hannah hays. she’s a porn star who has brain damage from a bad car crash she was in during her teenage years and she’s currently being taken advantage of by porn directors and her “”””””manager”””””. she has a like, emotional support lizard that she takes on set and they hold it hostage to get her to do certain things. she’s fairly active on twitter and occasionally posts things that shed light on her mistreatment but it’s usually deleted very quickly. 

yeah i watched an interview with her and when she mentioned the car crash she immediately started tearing up and clearly has PTSD like plain as day and that alone tells me that she’s not emotionally capable of coping with how traumatizing porn is and people still want to pull this shit bc they cant comprehend the fact that women in porn are taken advantage of. 

apparently showing concern over a mentally disabled woman being exploited = ableist

The people defending this are evil. If you defend this exploitation you are an evil person. I’m no longer interested in mincing words. You’re a bad, morally bankrupt person if you defend this.

My overly feminist and annoying hot take is that I think societies obsession with anorexia and "thinness" is inherently related to pedophillia. This isn't the normal idea of thinness is related to an affinity for children, I'm talking the entire goal of anorexia in mainstream ED culture is just pure pedo shit. I can really only talk about my experience with anorexia but it's so common in online and in person spaces to want to look like a child. I would measure my waist against my younger sister who was seven when I started. There's a whole culture of comparing yourself to anime lolis, posting pictures of children's legs to try and showcase the desirable thigh gap... I would avoid talking to my own sister, whom I love more than anything in the world, because I hated seeing her be thinner than me so much. This is such a niche experience but I refused to watch Demon Slayer even though my best friend was obsessed with it because I was so jealous of Nezuko's body. The 12 year old child. I know so many girls whose body goal was just "me in third grade" or worse, they started in the third grade. I had this girl I genuinely looked up to because of her weight who started having an ED in the the first grade and was 70 pounds at 11 years old. Another random experience is that I didn't watch wreck it ralph for a few years, despite genuinely liking the movie, because watching Vanelope van Sweetch be skinny because she was a child in a world full of food I wanted to eat was so triggering for me. Everything is pedophillia when you're goal is to be a child.

You’re right. Anorexia can cause delayed periods or no periods at all, less or no body hair, smaller boobs, less muscle, etc. There are only two reasons to promote it, attraction to prepubescent girls and/or wanting women too weak to fight and protest.

if porn is so legitimate, they should have no problem with it being regulated like any other industry.

By the way, the fact that so many men are unable to conceptualise sex without the brutalisation of women is the very reason why I don’t want to have sex with them.

why do so many males sincerely believe not getting laid is a human rights violation

Because it's the one area of their lives where women have some degree of power over them. They don't face discrimination for being male in employment, housing, socially, or any other aspect of their lives. The scenario women are most likely able to deny men something they want is with sex.

the funny thing about the stereotype of a predatory lesbian is that it's quite literally the opposite. the number of times i've had women switch up and suddenly become flirtatious and tactile the moment they learned i was a lesbian is more than i can count, and i don't think that's a coincidence. there's a performance of desirability here, a great comfort in the knowledge that, although they can feel desirable through you, since any reciprocity on your part would automatically paint you as the troublemaker, they do not have to feel unsafe/out of control with you the way they might with a man, so they can act however they want, be as active as they want and feel as powerful as they'd like, without worrying about consequences. that's the more common dynamic. not the reverse.

it's an unpleasant thing to experience but an interesting one to think about, because you can tell through those interactions that lesbians to them are both not women (and therefore masculinity-adjacent enough to get an ego boost from flirting with in a way that doesn't shatter their confidence in their heterosexuality) and undeniably women (and therefore not as dangerous or threatening as men). they get to put the lesbian they are flirting with into the role of a man (by projecting perceived sexual aggressiveness onto them), while actually taking on the role of the man (the initiator, the invasive and impolite one) themselves. it's escapism through the degradation of the lesser other.