omg donāt piss me off. when your child is unable to effectively communicate and has self injurious behavior and will need lifelong 24/7 care the problem is not you āwanting them to act neurotypicalā
is this somewhat applicable to some parents of autistic kids? sure, i guess. but the framing of the issue once again excludes people for whom autism is a serious disability as well as their families
im serious, you might as well say, oh, youāre upset that your child with a terminal illness is suffering pain and wonāt live very long? letās reframe this! maybe the problem is the value youāre placing on things like ābeing aliveā and ānot being in painā
not that trying to change your mindset is never a good way to deal with unchangeable circumstances, but this is straight up gaslighting mothers of disabled children