new!

it's also worth considering the health risks of putting chemicals on your body, especially on your eyes:

@staff crack down on the pornbots, threats, etc

other mature/nsfw content is always marked properly with the content labels (at a bare minimum, some of it shouldn't even exist or be on here tbh)

polite discussion between women who disagree becomes the norm

mainstreaming of basic feminist principles again

tackling misogyny in fandom spaces

women are encouraged to hate each other and compete for men's approval and attention. they are also discouraged from listening to older women, who are painted as "hags"/"ugly"/"problematic"/whatever is needed to brand them as untouchables.

Living under the patriarchy absolutely does decimate your self-esteem by teaching you to prioritize men over yourself. That your worth as a woman is inherently less than a man's and depends on how you look and what you can do for them.

BUT WHAT IT TEACHES ISN'T EVEN TRUE IN THE SLIGHTEST! YOUR WORTH AND VALUE IS NOT CONDITIONAL OR LESS THAN!

I think that it's very important for every woman to learn & do, but especially het/OSA-women, because time and time again I see women bend over backwards and sacrifice themselves for the bare-minimum & horrible ass partners (and hell this doesn't apply to just partners either) because they think they don't deserve any better and that their needs/wants don't matter.

what i am tired of seeing is people mocking the effects of hormones (ie making fun of tif voices) or implying all tifs are stupid for buying into trans ideology (good for you that you avoided our fate, but many of us transitioned due to some combination of trauma and internalized misogyny. i would just hope for more empathy from fellow feminists)

we should be trying to help tifs where possible, i haven't met a single tif who wasn't deeply vulnerable in some way. making fun of them for falling into gender beliefs can come across as victim-blaming. i think some radfems assume most tifs fall into the "transtrender" type but to be honest, i think any woman trying to distance herself from her femaleness is struggling with misogyny.

if we really want to help tifs then we can:

inform them about the health effects of binding/hormones/surgery

inform them about other ways to resolve dysphoria

talk to them about gender stereotypes, beauty standards, misogyny

clear up misconceptions about gender critical beliefs (eg. "woman = adult human female" doesn't mean you have to give birth or conform to beauty standards etc.)

meet them halfway; many of them won't want to give up their beliefs about gender, but still might want to advocate for themselves within trans spaces.

helping them to feel like they are allowed to set boundaries based on their sex, and be part of female solidarity generally.

just generally have calm discussions with them wherever possible

you are free to block anyone who is being abusive, i'm just saying that in generally the way we talk about tifs is important.