unpopular opinion maybe but if you're a woman yes you can absolutely blame other things and other people for your trauma. yes you can do the work to heal and to forgive yourself and build the life you were meant to have yadda yadda but yes you can also be pissed off too. you can be enraged at your abusers and wish them a horrible death. you can gripe about how misogyny from other people have hurt you and set you back in life, because its true. if femaleness was never hated in the first place, the world would look different right now, with damn near all women would be thriving instead of merely surviving. don't give me that shit that women self-victimize or pity themselves in a world that already hates us from birth, and fuck off that we have no right to be angry at everything that got in our way of our overall happiness in life. you wanna direct that energy at someone, direct that at your local male misogynist who delights at hurting everyone around him and have the gall to see himself as the ultimate victim somehow.

This post was so healing to read. Part of healing is acknowledging the role of misogyny and liberating ourselves from the wound of shame and self-blame that the world imposes on survivors so that the abusers will never face consequences. Because if victims were to respond to the violence, cruelty, and sadism with rage and like force in order to free ourselves and restore our dignity, sense of safety, and empowerment by seeking recourse and real justice the dominant group would not be able to continue extracting benefits from targeting their victims. Under patriarchy all females are victims to male violence, cruelty, and oppression and the level of cognitive dissonance required to understand trauma and understand that misogyny exists without thus declaring males as the source of female trauma is something that women are gaslighted into constantly.

The problem comes when they decide trans women, who are women, don’t count as women.

This isn’t a “decision”, it’s a biological fact. Being born with a penis makes you different from biological women. And women don’t want to share these spaces with trans identified males. There’s no ifs, no buts, no asterisks to this policy. Women deserve single sex spaces without question, because it’s about protecting a population that has always been vulnerable to male violence, not about protecting the feelings of biological males.

If you read "Women deserve single sex spaces without question, because it’s about protecting a population that has always been vulnerable to male violence," and read "trans women don't deserve anything", then that's your illiteracy talking

Whole ass men are out here saying “I personally identify as not being a threat and should therefore be allowed in spaces with extremely vulnerable women” and not only do y’all believe them, but you really act like women who don’t just take their word for it and still have boundaries are heartless monsters. Get a fucking grip

"trans women feel unsafe with you too" then why do they keep invading our spaces? Clearly they don't feel all that unsafe.

bush haters always have that soulless look in their eyes

it’s kinda funny in a sad way that there was that research paper years back that found that lesbians are most likely to be victims of homophobic abuse by the various people in their lives (such as their parents, relatives, friends, coworkers, etc) but everyone decided to interpret it as if it were saying that lesbians are the most likely to abuse each other and then used that false info as a way of furthering the homophobic abuse against us 🙃

No way a straight woman just reblogged this post claiming I’m being “heterophobic” and a “class traitor” (not even sure which class I’m supposedly betraying lol) by pointing out what the results of this study actually found 😭😭😭😭 you people are CRAZY!!

Especially when you account for severity of the violence and abusive relationships that end with murder, it's fucking ridiculous to claim that lesbians are more abusive than straight men.

As a society we're reluctant to call fathers out for what they are, which is usually the biggest threat to their own children. The way society values and protects fathers at all costs, comes at the cost of child abuse.

And the legal system backs this up as well; I’ve seen dozens of cases where there is a father in a custody battle who is abusive/negligent and 9/10 times he’s still going to get at least partial custody because “kids need a father.” The socially constructed necessity of having a “father figure” is prioritized over the physical wellbeing of children constantly, and the fathers usually get away with it because we see them just being with their kids as being beneficial to the children’s development regardless of how destructive the father actually is

I work in a criminal court and I can confirm. The crime of child sexual abuse is overwhelmingly the crime of fathers and stepfathers abusing their own daughters. Anecdotally, in the two years I've worked in criminal law, every child sexual abuse case I've seen was either a father, grandfather, or stepfather. InVoices In the Night by Toni McNaron, she and other feminist scholars theorize that incest is in fact the primary way that patriarchy is enforced in our society. As she said: "We believe that there is not a taboo against incest; merely against speaking about it… if we begin to speak of incest, we may realize its place as a training ground for female children to regard themselves as inferior objects to be used by men, as training that females cannot trust other females (our mothers usually didn’t stop the behaviors and often passively acquiesced). Incest is an early and very effective behavioral training in powerlessness and subservience."

The hypothetical potential net positive added by the presence of a father figure in general is not more valuable than the enormous risk of harm that can be mitigated by ensuring the absence of a bad one

realizing that the online sphere and especially tumblr is NOT a good sample for ‘what everyone thinks’ is so, so, so good for your mental health and moral OCD. i swear to god. realizing that you don’t have to live your actual life like you’re being hunted for sport because the average tumblr user will hunt you for sport for wording something slightly weird or engaging in the wrong stuff or whatever is so incredible. like no you’re actually not fucked up and evil for not donating or for watching that one indie cartoon or questioning a post that everybody is agreeing with. that’s just tumblrs georg making you feel that way

Trans men’s desperation to distance themselves from women has got them diagnosing female socialisation as a sex-neutral form of OCD and framing other neurotic young women as triggers of that neurosis instead of fellow victims. Tumblr is Like That because it’s full of progressive young women and progressive young women are Like That because the whole of society wants women to be the world’s caretakers and young women are extra vulnerable to pressure about that because y’all have less life experience. This problem won’t go away until we all name it as a feature of misogyny. Sorry

I'm looking through some anti genital preference posts made by trans people right now and I'm genuinely baffled. These people love fetishes and kinks, right? They think it's completely okay to have any kind of fetish, and that no fetish is inherently bad? Right??? And yet they're going on and on about how being a homosexual is a genital fetish and that's it evil and disgusting. It makes no fucking sense lmao

i think this situation w men using the twitter ai to request that random women and children have their clothes stripped off of them really goes to show exactly the point that feminists have been trying to make for a long time that ppl have ignored. which is that men inherently view women as sexual objects and dehumanize them regardless of how the woman (or child even) is presenting herself bc the fact that she exists in a female body is enough for a man to feel entitled to sexualize her. and this type of thinking has been massively reinforced by the growing porn industry and particularly onlyfans which further reinforce that women are sexual objects to men and that they are entitled to access to a woman’s body whether she is willingly providing that access or not. when women’s bodies are sold as sexual objects they become commodities and that does not only commoditize that specific woman but every single woman and girl as a result. as long as one woman is a product all women are and men are at the point where they feel so entitled to access any “product” they want that they will openly in public request a fully clothed woman be sexualized against her will for his own pleasure. porn addiction has worsened male entitlement to sexual gratification to such an extreme extent. it isn’t enough that men can go online and get easy access to women who will sell their naked bodies to them. men need 1. access to any woman that they want bc it is their right to view that woman sexually and 2. the power of knowing that they are able to violate a woman and there is nothing she can do abt it. they are performing the digital equivalent of sexual assault at this point and they are doing it shamelessly. and they will face no consequences for it. it is beyond sick the state of the world we are in.

if you need any proof that the patriarchy can persist and thrive without men, just look at the TERF witch-hunt culture around all-women’s colleges

Are they actually all-women these days? If you know what I mean

Men with sissy fetishes have never been funny in the history of sissy fetishes

femaleness is the only thing that makes me a woman and being a woman is nothing other than my femaleness. anything and everything i do is feminine because i am a woman doing it. there is so much freedom in letting go of gender stereotypes may every woman in the world rid themselves of these chains

There’s no such thing as feminine anyway. Femininity and masculinity were made up to enforce the hierarchy of men over women. TIMs are fetishising the trappings of our oppression.

“patriarchy hurts men just as much as women” let’s not lie. this irritates me so much because men “not being able to cry” or whatever will never compare to femicide. it will never compare to the amount of women brutally assaulted and murdered. it will never compare to the mistreatment women have faced in every aspect of their lives. don’t fucking even.

I’ve seen this guy’s TikToks and he hates women. In one video he makes fun of a woman he’s sleeping with for being upset that he doesn’t want to be her boyfriend. He said just because she’s qualified for the position of situationship, doesn’t mean she’s qualified for the position of relationship