(in sex ed class) this is stupid when are we ever gonna need to use this lol

if ryland grace hit me a year ago i wouldve been writing the most emotionally fraught aromantic fics about him and rocky. its the desiring a true and deep bond with somebody while intrinsically at odds with the nature of typical romance. the fear and frustration over what you feel, or what you dont feel and the fact that you have zero control over it. trying to hammer yourself into shape because part of it, the connection and the bond and the forever, is what you want, and it doesnt feel possible to have that and not the other stuff. and rocky being like: i love you anyway. it does not have to be in one way or another. eridian ideas of romance or human ideas of romance are irrelevant to us, so there is no framework for what our relationship has to be. its just us. and grace is like Yeah okay. okay. its just us. species of two bullshit

i remember a post from a few months ago about romance being this huge thing in eridian culture and i went insane about it in a different way than the OP probably intended because its just soooooo. romance being this trap thats sprung on you To Me. suffocating amatonormativity. i need ten stories about romance being evil NOW

listen to me. if youre aro you have to be louder about it. i dont care how loud about it you are already you have to be louder. if we have to be surrounded knee deep by amatonormativity all the time every day its good for the soul to be loud and annoying about your aromanticism

@this-is-aromantic-joy

this is aromantic joy! thank you for the mention

they should legalize polyamory. everywhere. and im not kidding at all. if someone wants to marry multiple people they should be allowed to. for any reason.

before anybody tries to say some bullshit about this, extending the definition of marriage to include multiple people would give members of religions forced into abusive polygamy the same rights any divorcing spouse would have without putting them at risk for being charged with bigamy. this would make it easier for people to leave abusive plural marriages.

Once again, the best way to protect the exploited is through regulation, which cannot be done without legalization.

ship wars are dumb. Polyamory and aromanticism are easy, simple, and effective solutions

I don't see how polyamory or aromanticism could patch up the holes in my hull but if you say so

The fact that people don't think friendship is enough to justify characters doing insane acts of love for each other baffles me. Like have you never loved your friend so so much you want to live in their ribcage. Have you never been really weird about a friend. Have you never wanted to bite your friends parents or shove them down a staircase. Have you never wanted to be buried in the same grave as a friend. Have u never. How do u people live like this.

lowkey i want more "problematic" aromantic and/or asexual representation. i want aro/aces who are unhappily married or in romantic relationships that they abandon for entirely selfish and not necessarily sympathetic reasons. i want aro/aces who are bitterly jealous of their friends' romantic partners for making them happy in ways they never could. i want aro/aces who are corrupted by power because they can't find satisfaction in other people. and i want romantic relationships that are ruined by friendships or even the allure of isolation. i want love to lose.

i want a character in a romantic relationship to sincerely feel like they're cheating on their partner with their friend(s) or their work/quest/whatever. and i want them to break up about it with the same degree of drama and grief that would have happened if they'd actually been having an affair.

as ive said many times i love the dynamic of "character A is in love with character B who is aromantic, and they're both aware of this and function fine with character A just enjoying being close to B even if it means not being able to actually be in a relationship with them". and because i hate allos i dont have to care if thats "unrealistic" or "puts too much stress on character A". WHO GAF!!!!!!!!!!! SECRET THIRD THING DYNAMICS FOREVER!!!!!!!!

i don’t want a ROMANTIC PARTNER. i want a DEAR FRIEND i can use as a HUMAN WEIGHTED BLANKET

[excited about an aro friend getting a boyfriend] congratulations! [remembers that presenting romantic relationships as a universal goal to be achieved perpetuates amatonormativity] I don't care about your relationship at all [trying to reaffirm that I am supportive of aromanticism] and I hope you break up