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TL:DR; it's totally different when anyone that isn't white wants to make a segregated community than when white people do because wanting to get away from white people is valid but white people wanting to get away from not white people is pure racism.

If you think "children should not be allowed in this space," you HAVE TO reckon with the fact that you are now excluding parents (and very often women specifically) who don't have access to childcare. You are isolating people who are poor, or rural, or single parents, or any number of other factors that might prevent someone from having on-demand childcare. You are cutting them off from being able to exist in public. You are denying parents and children the ability to fully participate in society.

My mom spent several years only leaving the house to buy groceries or take me to school, and even then, people would still come up to her to complain TO HER FACE about how she shouldn't bring a crying toddler to Walmart. Entitled strangers would literally try and demand that my mom leave and come back without the kids.

"Why can't your husband watch them?" Because he was at work, usually working extreme amounts of overtime so we didn't get evicted, because landlords don't like it when you stop paying rent.

"Why can't you send them to daycare?" Because that costs money.

"Why can't your teenager stay home with them and babysit?" Because I also deserved to be able to leave the house for something other than school, and taking me to the grocery store was how my mom taught me to manage a household budget, shop sales, and meal plan.

"Don't bring your kid in public if you can't CONTROL them and make them stop crying!" Kids cry when they're upset, and being dragged around a store is upsetting! Don't be an asshole! Children are human beings who are still learning how the world works, and they don't have a lot of agency. You'd cry, too.

"Spank them until they learn to stop crying!" That's just straight-up child abuse, Jesus Christ.

One of my exes sent the police to me under the claim that I hit her. All it took was an allegation and they showed up so gung-ho about arresting me they didn’t even want to listen. It was just “You’re under arrest.“ 

We’d been broken up for over a month, there were no bruises, no evidence of any violence whatsoever. I hadn’t seen her, talked to her, answered any of her calls, nor replied to any of her increasingly unhinged texts. 

Anyway after about a half hour of me insisting that all they had to do was look at my phone and this will all make sense, they FINALLY agreed. After reading the very lengthy series of text messages where she clearly stated multiple times if I didn’t take her back she was going to get me arrested for hitting her, or rape, or molesting her younger sister, etc. they finally realized what they were dealing with and took the cuffs off and issued a half-assed apology and an explanation that 99% of the time the allegations are true.

I responded with ”But are they, though?“ and based on his expression I think he had an oh-shit moment of clarity where he realized “How many innocent men have I arrested…”

Basically, if there is a fight, the police arrest the person that started it. This isn’t necessarily the person to throw the first punch, but the one to instigate it.

Fandom Problem #15,153:

Inter-fandom rivalries where some people think that you can only like one. No, I can be in multiple fandoms.

Fandom Problem #15,225:

One of my exes sent the police to me under the claim that I hit her. All it took was an allegation and they showed up so gung-ho about arresting me they didn’t even want to listen. It was just “You’re under arrest.“ 

We’d been broken up for over a month, there were no bruises, no evidence of any violence whatsoever. I hadn’t seen her, talked to her, answered any of her calls, nor replied to any of her increasingly unhinged texts. 

Anyway after about a half hour of me insisting that all they had to do was look at my phone and this will all make sense, they FINALLY agreed. After reading the very lengthy series of text messages where she clearly stated multiple times if I didn’t take her back she was going to get me arrested for hitting her, or rape, or molesting her younger sister, etc. they finally realized what they were dealing with and took the cuffs off and issued a half-assed apology and an explanation that 99% of the time the allegations are true.

I responded with ”But are they, though?“ and based on his expression I think he had an oh-shit moment of clarity where he realized “How many innocent men have I arrested…”