#work relationships

"Of course. If I can do anything for the Ti--"

"Will you be going to Harry King's daughter's wedding on Saturday?"

To his secret delight, the look that Vetinari gave him seemed to be blank because the man hadn't got anything to fill it with. But Drumknott leaned towards him, and there were a few whispered words.

"Ah?" said the Patrician. "Harry King. Ah, yes. A positive incarnation of the spirit that has made our city what it is today. Haven't I always said that, Drumknott?"

"Yes indeed, sir."

"I shall certainly attend," said Lord Vetinari. [...]

"In return, however," said the Patrician, "I must ask you not to upset Commander Vimes." He gave a little cough. "More than necessary."

There’s a difference between inclusivity and domination. At no point should anyone dominate by means of excluding others. But at the same time, inclusivity shouldn’t aim towards domination.

There’s a sweet middle-ground that creates a balance where everyone can be content and stories can be told wonderfully while maintaining the source material and character essences. 

Ignore This Advice at Your Own Peril

Refusing to act on advice from a respected colleague or mentor can backfire and damage your working relationship, a new study says. Hayley Blunden explains the career implications of seeking counsel from others.

Professor Karen Arnold at Boston University

PART 2 I do try to sit with them at lunch. I have never been in a relationship so I'm very new to this. I also have the feeling that I don't think anyone will ever be attracted to me. He's perfect and I'm just well me. (I've grown up with anxiety and my self esteem can be pretty low) Sorry if this doesn't make much sense. I just feel like if I could have the chance to know him better we could atleast be friends. don't know how ask for his number without itout of place as we work in a busy job.

okay turtledove, first things first- he’s not perfect. no one is. the dude’s got flaws and keeping someone up on a pedestal is always going end up crashing and burning. not to say you shouldn’t date him, but remind yourself tht you’re both just people. maybe this will turn into a relationship, or a friendship, or both or neither, but there is no outcome which means you’re not worthy.

hopefully, you’re what he’s into romantically, but if not tht doesn’t mean no one will find you attractive. just cuz something hasn’t happened yet, does not mean tht it won’t. i mean it sounds like you’re pretty shy and reserved so maybe guys thought you were unavailable or uninterested? i dunno, but what i do kno is tht you can ask anyone out to coffee or lunch w/o it being a big deal.

just toss it out there in passing. say something like, you seem cool wanna have lunch at Sandwich shop tomorrow? or hey, you wanna meet up for coffee on tomorrow’s day off? be casual and if he’s interested he’ll say sure, if not, he’ll decline and you can go find a guy who is into you. 

dating is a lot of dead ends, as every relationship ends until you find the one tht doesn’t. ‘course... even tht one ends when someone dies, cuz everything is temporary, but i digress. you’ll never kno how any relationship will develop, but i think it’s better to kno someone’s not an option, tht to sit around wondering forever if something could’ve happened.