#favors

Our neighbors are very frequently asking us to do favors for them - taking in mail/packages during frequent trips, taking out garbage cans, borrowing tools or other household items, etc. They were once having issues with their water heater leaking and asked us to go into their basement for an entire week to dump out the bucket it was dripping in while they were gone.

These all seem very small and like not a big deal, but it feels like it adds up. Not to mention, we have NEVER asked them one single favor. We are lucky that we have family nearby so we don’t need to ask our neighbors.

We are getting super irritated but also wonder id we are overreacting??

Reddit consensus: NOT OVERREACTING (NOR) (91% confidence)

Top comment: “NOR - 2 things: you are allowed to say no. That being said, even though you have family you can rely on I would come up with one or two small favors to ask of the neighbors to gauge their willingness to help you out. If you find you can depend on them from time to time that's a nice safety net to have if you can't get family in an emergency.”

Notable comment: “NOR but have a conversation with them, ask for a small favor, try to develop a relationship, maybe connect them with other neighbors. This could turn into resentment & a bad relationship that makes living close miserable. Or it could be an awesome neighborhood community. They may be dealing with something super difficult & this is a rough phase & it won’t be forever.

I live in an apt building where several of us are intentional towards building community. It’s so awesome! I had a next door neighbor that offered to help when I shared my medical issues - he became dispensable, taking care of my cats & apt when I was hospitalized, a lot. I felt bad asking for so much (but I expressed that unlike your neighbors) but because we became friends, he was happy to help & I felt better about it. He felt good helping a friend. We also have a text group for the building & are constantly helping each other & have a lot of hangouts.”

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My friend borrowed my car for “just one day” while hers was being repaired.

Three days later, she still had it and kept saying she’d bring it back tomorrow. When she finally returned it, the gas tank was almost empty and there was a small scratch on the bumper that definitely wasn’t there before.

When I brought it up, she said I was being dramatic because “cars get scratched” and that I should be happy she returned it in one piece.

I told her I won’t be lending her my car again. Now a few mutual friends are saying I’m overreacting and damaging a friendship over a scratch and some gas.

Am I overreacting?

Reddit consensus: NOT OVERREACTING (NOR) (85% confidence)

Top comment: “NOR she's not your friend and your mutuals are only saying you're overreacting because they don't wanna hear the other person bitch and they don't want to lend them their cars either.”

Notable comment: “NOR. If you weren't within your rights to end the friendship over the fact that she put your life on hold by taking advantage of your generosity (and acting like you should be grateful for the opportunity to serve her when she couldn't even be bothered to return the car in one piece, let alone make up for her extended use by filling the tank), then you're certainly justified to end it because she saw fit to assassinate your character after you gave her some deserved feedback about her shitty behavior.

The best way to test someone's character is to trust them with something valuable. At this moment, you're seeing hers. She's a user, and she saw fit to malign you to your mutuals once you called her out for being one. Whether you choose to keep her around now that she's shown you what she's about is entirely up to you.”

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When you're planning a bridal shower, it's all about celebrating love and having a good time. Good favors help everyone remember the day. When you're looking for bridal shower favors, try to find things that are personal, nice to look at, and actually useful, instead of just the usual stuff.

Candles with a personal touch are always popular. They're classy and remind people of the party. Little succulents or seed packets are great too, as they stand for new beginnings, perfect for a couple starting their life together. If you want something more fun, custom cookies, macarons, or chocolates wrapped to match your theme are a sweet treat guests can enjoy right away.

Useful favors for bridal shower ideas are in right now. Keychains, small mirrors, or reusable tote bags with initials on them are both practical and thoughtful. People won't just toss them in a drawer. If the bride likes self-care, small spa kits with bath salts or lip balms are a nice idea that most people will like.

To make your shower special, try to match the favors to your colors or theme, whether it's bohemian, garden-inspired, or super modern. A little thank-you note or a quote from the bride adds a special touch that guests will really appreciate.