Been pursuing a diagnosis for some chronic issues but like way way before this moment it was like "ok maybe there's nothing wrong but would x help?" "hey doing y gives me relief even though it's advice from someone with ___ and I'm not sure I have that" and in those moments going "okay do the resources help? Does the advice of ___ seem to apply?" and trying these things and finding advice and resources and learning from people's lived experiences has given me more vocabulary to then figure out my specific situation and hey wouldn't you know it that's kinda my gender and sexuality policy too.
"Idk if im trans but x showed me this and it makes me feel good." Awesome! "i dont think im gay but this space makes me feel very safe about myself" cool! "this tool my trans friend uses helps their dysphoria and i tried one then suddenly i don't feel so bad about x anymore" superb!
There are so many people living in a space where community and resources would give them immediate help and relief and the language will come later.
Not binary trans but nonbinary? Cool! Not gay but ace? Cool! Still cis but much more gnc about it? Cool!
Forcing people to have the words to describe the experiences when they are having experiences now is a backwards ass approach to support. Having good experiences instead of bad, having relief instead of pain, is much more likely to make people have an oh moment than asking to see their card first.
Try on the dress, try out a packer, USE THE CUSHION
