#plural questioning

(for colour refference reffer to this post)

If you experience any changes in body control (switching, possession, etc.), then establish some form of consistent, asynchronous external communication with your system. External communication has a major benefit: you can still talk to each other across switches (asynchronously) even if the inside of your mind is a mess.

You might set up a journal, whiteboard, calendar, a "single user, multi-account" app like Mytter or Antar, sticky notes, etc. Anything goes as long as your system knows to check it occasionally (or at the least, in an emergency).

We recommend choosing an analog method for your fallback communication method if possible, as a power outage could take out a lot of digital methods. A spur-of-the-moment piece of paper left on a table is better than nothing, but it's less likely to work than a pocket notebook or bulletin board that every system member knows to use for communication if needed. You can always add an app or program once everyone knows where to go for your analog fallback.

Discuss how you want to treat each other. Keep it loose and informal for now- don't make any absolute Laws just yet. Think of it more like the quick agreements that roommates make with each other for practical reasons: "I'll do the dishes if you do the laundry".

A few classics: "try not to die, don't kill anyone else, don't get any tattoos as an impulse decision, and don't throw out things that don't belong to you."

Don't force agreements on anyone. If someone disagrees, then stop and discuss their concerns to find a better agreement. See: Consensus Decision Making.

Map your system, if it feels right. This can help you learn about each other, but it can also be soothing to feel like you have some understanding of who's in your head when you're being flooded with new system members.

Again, keep it simple. What do you actually need to know? What would help you in a practical sense? Start there, then branch out if you'd like to get to know each other better.

Consider making a simple guide to your life. If someone had to handle a day in your life with little to no prior knowledge of it, then what would they need to know?

Where should they check to see if you have any appointments? Are they responsible for feeding any pets? Where can they find money if they need it, and how do they know how much to spend? Do you have a job, and do they need to work it? Etc.

Hopefully you never need this guide, but it's a lifesaver for any unexpectedly amnesiac system members.

a singlet wouldn't question this so much.

okay we have @velvet-dragonfly and @leafwing-life both currently questioning plurality fuuuuu

ANYONE ELSE WANT TO COME OUT AS PLURAL QUESTIONING TO ME????? ANYONE????? at this point I should just start a plural support group with all my plural moots to help plural questioning friends lol

Okay, doing a little test. Coz I suspect I'm plural but my amnesia is real bad so I can't tell yet if I have alters or if it's just memory gaps, I'm gonna put this post up on my page and if I switch to different alters, I can reblog the post and introduce myself. I'll go first.

It would probably help with a lot of things, but also I'm lazy.

I also don't know what to name my collective. Does anyone have any ideas?

Edit: Okay, if this post gets 50 notes, I'll make the side blog (no more than 4 notes per user). Feel free to use some of those notes for name suggestions. I kind of need new names for my facets and headmates anyway.

My Simply Plural is that_ryebread in case you wanna check it out I guess.

Edit 2: We have a collective name! The Mechanical Void :)

I also didn't go through all the exercises and steps for dissasociation and association, but I tried a bit of meditating/grounding and I think managed to get Cyan to front for a bit. I was aiming for Magenta but when I "asked" for them they weren't there, and I heard Cy's voice super clearly instead, so he switched in instead, and "I" (I've started thinking of myself as J. Prime lol) became a voice inside "my" head, and also sort of a physical prescence in the top right of my head? Cy's the only one so far I've had deliberately 'front' in the past, since I ask him to help us do important things or self-care tasks, so I guess it makes sense it's easier to get him to front than the others.

Some things I've noticed about 'being' Cy so far:

Feels like I should be taller

I talk out loud a lot more- in a slightly lower voice, or when I slip up and talk in my usualy higher voice it feels more wrong than usual (Not in a british accent btw, that seems to just be an inside the head thing)

Way better executive functioning

I don't feel as much of a need/want to listen to music or podcasts while doing things