#non-aligned

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Unaligned or nonaligned (non-alignment or non-aligned): ungender alignment or nongender alignment (non-gender alignment); abinary-aligned; not experiencing a gender alignment; being neutrally aligned; not belonging to the gender binary or a binary gender alignment; null gender alignment or neutral gender alignment.

Solstellarian aesthetic! An aesthetic board based on the solstellarian flag. Another moodboard and an explanation of the term can be found here.

Apollonic was coined by Reddit user u/Antogypt on November 12, 2020.

Apollonic is described as “feeling like you have many genders and they are masculine* and non-aligned [...] includes binary male and female, yet you don't need to have these as one of your gender identities to identify as selenic, apollonic or aetheric”

The above flag was posted on Reddit.

You dont have to want to pass to be trans.

You dont have to be androgynous to be trans.

All you need to do is feel a certain way and exist.

Why is it okay for butch cis women to exist and be mistaken as men but not okay for a fem trans guy to exist and be mistaken as a woman?

Yall always say that it's not "trans men" or "trans women" and it's just "men" and "women" but the second you see a GNC trans man who is GNC in the sense that he does not ascribe to stereotypical masculine gender expression all of that goes out the window and somehow the "false identity" of "trans" matters to no end.

And i dont say this in any hatred, malice, or anything. Also, dont come at me with "it's a mental condition!!! dysphoria!!" because I am a complete psychology nerd. Dont even try it.

Navy is nonbinary and non-aligned!

It's okay to take it in steps.

Realizing that you've only been IDing as aligned due to fear is a common experience.

Realizing you've only been IDing as aligned due to your sexuality and fear of losing that language a common experience.

Reach out to other non-aligned people. Listen to their experiences. Be kind to yourself and take your time.

(Tldr at the end)

I'm a completely unaligned person, meaning any attribution in any way shape or form to gender makes me extremely uncomfortable.

So for a long time I've wanted a word for myself, a word that only means completely unaligned, with no ties to gender at all. While I appreciate efforts made by others, it always feels as an afterthought and just not representative of my own feelings and identity.

So, if only for my own use, I'd like to coin a word for my being as a completely unaligned person. The word erebeau is what I've come up with. Erebeau (air-eh-beau [as in beauty]) : Noun. A person who completely and totally rejects gender attribution in any and every way. A person wholely without gender or gender affiliation. An erebeau is a person completely unattached in any way at all ever to any gender.

Ex:

“They aren't ever a boy or a girl in any way whatsoever. They are an erebeau."

"That erebeau is so pretty! I wonder if xie would go on a date with me?"

"That's my cute erebeau! I love you so much."

“Wow, that erebeau did really well on the test! He’s super smart!"

"Oh, you're such a silly erebeau! You're so much fun to be around!"

Other words I've found have been either attributed to partially aligned or gendered people, and it makes me really uncomfortable to be placed in the same scope as a person with gender or gender association. "Erebeau" is my way of being who I am without being grouped in with anyone of any sort of gender and to try to find comfort in who I am without being forced into a gendered association.

Etymology: “ere” comes from Erebus, the primordial deity of darkness. in Greek Mythology. I’m a Hellenic polytheist myself, and using Erebus’ name is a way for me to grow closer with Erebus. However other Hellenic polytheists might not feel the same, which I understand. “Beau” comes from the word beauty. I rarely if ever see positivity for enbies like me, so having such a positive part of my label is really helpful for my self esteem. Beau could also be used as shorthand for an erebeau as well!

Who can be an erebeau?

Anyone who is always completely unaffiliated with any gender is welcome to use the erebeau label! However, people who fluctuate or affiliate to a gender cannot use it. So please, if you use words like lesbian, (demi)boy, (demi)girl, genderfluid, agender boy/girl, (stell)solarian, (stel)lunarian, ect, please don't use erebeau for yourself!! Erebeau is a way of being completely unattached in ANY way at all ever to gender! (Note: pronouns are not gendered, so an erebeau can use any pronoun, even he or she!)