#tucute

I fear you guys just don’t get the life experience of being a trans man (who used to be perceived as a woman and still is by some people) who likes only women. I am never going to be a cisgender man and I don’t want to be. I am a man in most social scenarios but in romantic ones I am a butch. Living in our heteronormative society, being on T but with no surgeries, I feel more aligned with the butch romantic experience than cisgender men.

Women who are attracted to me still like female bodies. I haven’t had any surgeries and I don’t want them. I’m simply on T, which means I am seen as a man by society…with all my clothes on. I’m a man with a female body. Both of these things exist at the same time, it’s just part of my lived reality. This means I’m seen as a man to broader society, which is my goal, but I still have a female body which effects how I navigate the world. This includes in healthcare/reproductive rights and also sexually.

If you don't support pre everything transfem butches you don't support trans people.

If you don't support pre everything transmasc femboys you don't support trans people.

there are two types of dysphoria. social and physical. fairly straightforward, physical dysphoria is a discomfort with one's body because it has sex traits (voice, genitalia, breasts or lack thereof) that don't match one's internal perception of themselves. social dysphoria is a discomfort with one's gender presentation (hair, clothing, accessories) and/or other people's perception of them (pronouns, name, gendered terms)

you need some level of one of these to be trans. it can be mild or it can be severe, it can be just social or just physical, but you need some level of some form of dysphoria to be trans.

dysphoria is an automatic response to ones gender identity (internal self perception) not matching your body, the gender presentation you are forced into, or how people see you. if you have zero dysphoria of any type it's extremely unlikely that your gender identity differs from those things.

gender euphoria only exists as a response to dysphoria. if you become extremely happy upon wearing a skirt, then you must have some level of unhappiness or discomfort wearing only pants.

if you don't have dysphoria, then you are entirely happy and comfortable living as your assigned/biological sex and have zero discomfort. unhappiness, or dissatisfaction surrounding any of it. because if you aren't, that is dysphoria. if you don't have dysphoria then you have no motivation or reason to transition. dysphoria is the natural response to a gender identity that's different from your socially imposed gender and natural sex traits, and if you don't experience it then your gender identity probably doesn't differ from your biological sex traits and socially imposed gender.

if you don't experience some level of social and/or physical dysphoria, then you aren't trans.

you can transition if you want, I believe in bodily autonomy. but you aren't trans, and it'll only make you more miserable because then you will actually have dysphoria. and just changing your name and/or pronouns is not social transition. social transition requires more than that, like changing your hair and dress and actually living as the gender you're transitioning to. being called different pronouns is not living as the gender you're transitioning to. as someone who has socially transitioned and stayed that way for years, just changing your name and pronouns is not social transition. medically transition if you want, doom yourself to dysphoria. you aren't socially transitioning by any reasonable definition anyways, so that's irrelevant. you aren't trans if you don't have some form of dysphoria.