#roommate

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I don’t really post like this but I don’t really know how to find people who are looking for roommates so, I’m just scattershot posting everywhere!

My name is Freya, I’m a trans woman, and I’m 21 years old. I’d prefer a roommate that’s around my age and not a man. If you have a room in Racine and looking for a roommate, or just looking for a place in Racine and would be willing to team up and get a place together, please shoot me a DM!

so me and my roommate split a 2 bed apartment for almost a year now. things were fine until couple months ago i started noticing small stuff missing from my room, like a phone charger, some snacks i bought, my bluetooth speaker. i just figured i misplaced them at first

then last week i catch her literally walking out of my room with my hoodie on. when i asked about it she just said "oh i needed something warm real quick, i was gonna put it back" like it was normal. i checked and my charger and speaker are both in her room too, been there for weeks

i brought it up calmly, said i dont mind sharing stuff if she just asks first, its not that deep. she got kinda defensive and said im being uptight about "material things" and that roommates share stuff all the time, its not like she stole anything permanently

now shes acting a bit cold towards me and i feel bad but also still annoyed cause this has happened multiple times and i never said anything before this. my friend says im in the right to want basic respect for my space but part of me wonders if im just being that petty roommate everyone complains about

am i overreacting here or is this a normal thing to be bothered by

Reddit consensus: NOT OVERREACTING (NOR) (94% confidence)

Top comment: “NOR, it is normal to be annoyed by something like this. You just have to set a boundary and most importantly, stick to it. Personally I'd just preempt the entire extended feud and put a lock on my bedroom door to lock it when I wasn't there since she's proven herself to have poor boundaries about touching other people's things.”

Notable comment: “NOR: please get a lock or keypad lock for your door. A speaker & hoodies could turn into something much bigger, like a laptop or more expensive like jewelry or something that is absolutely priceless to you. The reason your roommate probably got defensive was either because she did this to someone else and they confronted her about it or her family is like this and it’s the norm + people/relationships probably told her it’s weird. Set a FIRM boundary. If she does it again, Put the lock on your door WHILE she is in the common area. Show her you are doing it because of her & because you don’t trust her. Set clear boundaries. You pay for rent, you pay for your own things, she doesn’t have the right to take anything from you. It’s YOUR paid space.”

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