tboygirl era

not paid for via taxpayer dollars

thrown in celebration of love and happiness

had people who earnestly wanted to be a part of the event planning

my worst relatives try to sneak meat or meat products into my food despite the fact that I'm a vegetarian

my ex's brother gave his mother an edible without her knowledge and when she got freaked out and paranoid they laughed, and people I've told that go "yeah that's shitty but it's just weed"

when I go to the doctor and ask them to describe what they are going to do before touching me they get frustrated

when I ask a friends of a friend who is a small influencer to keep me out of frame in videos they film for social media in public they look at me like I've pissed in their cereal

informative post i made for instagram regarding the catastrophic earthquakes here in my country but i thought i'd share it here too

🆘🆘🆘PLEASE REBLOG IF YOU CAN'T DONATE!!! we are DESPERATELY trying to get more people to talk about this!!

I think I hate tumblr.

Side note: Small penis appreciation NEEDS to get more popular.

Mesospadias

"Mesospadias," a term created within the intersex community by me and @yourfaveisintersex , describes a urethral positioning on ambiguous genitalia where both the terms "vulvar epispadias" and "penile hypospadias" are applicable.

This can mean the urethra is anywhere ranging from just directly underneath the phallus/clitorophallus (as that is where vulvar epispadias is described in its lowest position) to just below the tip/head of the phallus (as that is where penile hypospadias is described in its highest position).

I will not gatekeep this term heavily. I think it can be applicable to anyone with ambiguous genitalia, including those with "milder" forms. People with clitoromegaly, micropenis, any form of having both a vagina/vulva and a penis, pseudophalluses, and all other forms of ambiguous genitalia are welcome to use this label if it accurately describes their urethral positioning. Keep in mind that while anyone with any form of ambiguous genitalia can use the term "mesospadias," it was especially made with people who have both vulvas and penises in mind.

i believe people have free will and can choose to make decisions that don't lead to the harm of another person, regardless of how they feel. and if you're confused, i am saying that as a survivor of CSA/SA myself:

i hold no ill will to people who experience attraction to minors, have not abused a child, and refuse to ever abuse a child. i believe these people who feel attraction contrary to their morals exist. i imagine they don't want to be seen out of fear people won't believe in their humanity.

if there's one thing my trauma has taught me, it's that no one, not a soul, deserves to be punished for simply existing as they are, in ways they cannot control. i don't believe in punishing people who haven't hurt anyone and agree that it's wrong.

the only people i hate in this world are the ones who harm children and innocents. i.e: people who have decided to do inflict emotional or physical harm on someone else, when that person poses no real threat to anyone.

a threat to me is the intent, plan, or act to harm a person who isn't actually acting harmful to others. not someone who experiences an attraction that not even they want to be feeling.

i can imagine what sort of hell it would be, trying to go through life with a secret, knowing that no matter how much of your true, genuine self you are, no matter how kind and just you are, if anyone were to know what you carried, they would hate you.

i have lived it a thousand times, for many different reasons: im disabled, queer, autistic, plural, emotional, integrity-driven, and have kinks myself. i have no reason to hate paraphiles. i have every reason to hate child abusers.

i nor anyone else is the judge, jury, and executioner on an entire neurotype. paraphilia lacks any sort of realistic and grounded understanding in the general population due to misinformation about how child abuse even happens in the first place.