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The majority of people on the aspec are aware of favorable, indifferent, etc. when talking about personal stances toward romance/sex. But what about ambivalent? I don’t see people mentioning it nearly as much. I’ll give a brief explanation for those who don’t know what romance/sex ambivalent is.

Since I’m sex-ambivalent, I’ll use my personal experiences as an example. Sex-ambivalent is a personal stance on sex. Your feelings toward sex may fluctuate and be unclear. (Everything I say can be applied to romance-ambivalent as well with some obvious tweaking). Your personal stance could range from the feeling of being indifferent to averse, favorable to repulsed, indifferent to repulsed, whatever. Personally, I fall anywhere from feeling like indifferent to repulsed.

How we feel may vary depending on mood or what types of acts are being performed. For some they may be more comfortable when it’s with fictional characters. Or maybe they’re more comfortable with different people. I may be in a in a mood and be rather repulsed by the idea of anything sexual, but when I’m in a better mood it doesn’t bother me as much. There are many other reason why your feelings towards romance/sex may fluctuate, but this is just a general overview.

I may occasionally read erotic fanfiction and enjoy it, but I can’t even stand the thought of actual p*rn. Sometimes I don’t even want to read any kind do fanfiction like that. While I do enjoy certain types of more erotic fanfiction, I only enjoy it when certain types of acts are performed. Usually I just like a passionate make-out that gets a bit heated. Maybe some stuff that gets more suggestive too. But anything that involves actual more intimate parts on top or bottom gets an immediate “Nope” for me and I suddenly get more uncomfortable. I can’t stand the idea of intercourse or read about, but I can be totally okay with other “less intense” sexual acts.

I also want to point being being greyace is not equivalent to being sex ambivalent. I’m a black stripe ace meaning I experience no sexual attraction, but I am also sex-ambivalent. You can be greyace and sex ambivalent, be black stripe and ambivalent, and even be allo and sex-ambivalent! Ambivalent isn’t just a way to describe aros/aces, it can apply to anyone no matter your orientation.

Romance/sex-oscillating is also another slightly different term that describes how feelings towards the concept of romance/sex fluctuate/change over time. The factor for changing feelings when your oscillating is the passage of time v.s the factor for changing when your ambivalent is going to things like mood, whether or not it’s the written word, fiction or non-fiction, the types of acts being performed, etc. It depends on the person what external factors may change their feelings. Some people use both labels, some people, like me, don’t, and that’s okay. I apologize if I didn’t explain oscillating well enough. I do not identify with the label myself or feel that way, so please tell me if I could improve upon anything said.

“Don’t say that. It’s rude.”

I looked at my physics teacher, confused, until I remembered that “gay” used to be used as an insult.

I couldn’t help but laugh a little which she didn’t take well until I clarified: “I’m literally gay though. The folder being gay is a good thing.”

She didn’t really know how to react and just kinda walked away while my friends and I laughed quietly to ourselves.

Remembering this story makes me appreciate the progress we’ve made, even just within my own lifetime. I’ve been openly gay to everyone in my life except for one set of grandparents, and have faced little to no negative consequences for this. My friends and family have supported me, anyone who didn’t kept it to themself.

[image ID: The decligender pride flag, created by tumblr user mogai-guy, rerendered by Gender (Gender-Jargon). The flag consists of eight horizontal stripes, with the top stripe being much thicker than the rest. At the center of the top stripe is a black, near-equilateral black triangle pointing downwards. The stripes, from top to bottom, are colored light grey, black, white, black, white, purple, white and purple. ./. End ID]

Decligender: a gender identity characterized by repulsion to the concept of gender as a whole.

[PT: Decligender: a gender identity characterized by repulsion to the concept of gender as a whole. ./. End PT]

Etymology

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From English, "(to) decline", modified to "Decli-", meaning "to refuse" + "-gender", and English neologistic suffix indicating genderedness. Coined by tumblr user Mogai-Guy in February 2019 (link) [PT: Coined by tumblr user Mogai-Guy in February 2019 (link) ./. End PT] as a response to this image posted by tumblr user Genderoftheday (now defunct):

[Image ID: The question, "what is your gender?", with a select-drop-down menu, featuring the characteristic down-pointing arrow. The default selections says "Select Gender", followed by "Male", "Female" and "Decline". Decline is highlighted purple. ./. End ID]

Elaboration

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Decligender is similar to, but different from, Apothigender. Both experience involve repulsion in regards to gender (RIN, Ringender), but in distinct ways.

Apothigender involves a sense of repulsion of having a gender applied to oneself. For the apothigender individual, the repulsion is directed at gender in relation purely to oneself. An Apothigender individual does not have a gender, does not want one and finds the thought of it repulsive.

Decligender involves a sense of repulsion directed at the concept of gender as a whole. A decligender individual may lead an existence in which they act unaffected by participation in the construct of gender. A Decligender individual does not have a gender, does not want one, finds the thought repulsive and is repulsed by the concept all-together.

Decligender encompasses and surpasses Apothigender. Decligender is an outherine, atrinary gender. It may also be considered diastine.

This is a repost of my archival of Decligender from Gender-Resource (terminated) (link) [PT: This is a repost of my archival of Decligender fro mGender-Resource (terminated) (link). ./. End PT]. This repost includes a rerendered flag, additional explanation of important concepts and the fixing of broken links.

Pride Flag

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The flag posted here was rerendered by Gent (Gender-Jargon) in June 2024, but was originally posted and designed by tumblr user Mogai-Guy in February 2019 (link) [PT: The flag posted here was rerendered by Gent (Gender-Jargon) in June 2024, but was originally posted and designed by tumblr user Mogai-Guy in February 2019 (link) ./. End PT].

The flag consists of eight horizontal stripes, with the top stripe being much thicker than the rest. At the center of the top stripe is a black, near-equilateral black triangle pointing downwards. The stripes, from top to bottom, are colored light grey, black, white, black, white, purple, white and purple.

The flag is based upon the image of the "What Is Your Gender" drop-down menu included above. The flag utilizes the same color pallet of the image with minor adjustment. Though not directly stated, I presume that the design carries the following meanings:

the top stripe represents the drop-down menu from the image, symbolizing the concept of gender.

The subsequent white, black and purple stripes represent gender norms, repulsion related to the concept of gender itself and a declination of the concept of gender, respectively.

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One high-profile dispute has emerged in Pierce County, Washington, where a civil case involving Defenders Northwest, LLC—a business known for Land Rover Defender restorations and outdoor gear—has captured attention. According to court filings, the company is accused of taking more than $200,000 from out-of-state collectors for a restoration project that allegedly never materialized. The plaintiffs claim they supplied both a donor vehicle and substantial funding, only to receive a rusted-out vehicle shell missing key identifying elements, such as the VIN number.

this blog is about maverique visibility, pride & celebration and anything else related to the maverique identity. vesper's (the person who coined the term) maverique blog has been inactive for a few years, so i decided to make one to give some visibility to something that a lot of people only treat as a hypothetical.

on this blog, you're welcome to ask questions, be proud, be visible, be you.

who runs this blog?

i'm Delta and my pronouns are they/them. i'm bi, asexual, demiromantic, fat, disabled, white and of course maverique. i've been out as maverique since 2018.

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