[PT: Stop treating fem and masc as the only way to be non-binary. /End PT]

Fem and masc enben are real, important members of the community. I am a masc enban myself. But people *cannot* keep pushing this "are you a masc enby or a fem enby?" concept. People cannot keep treating fem and masc as the only two gender types that exist.

Stop excluding androgynous enben.

Stop excluding neutral enben.

Stop excluding null enben.

Stop excluding genderless enben.

Stop excluding xenine enben.

Stop excluding outherine enben

Stop excluding aporine enben.

Stop excluding culturally gendered enben

Stop excluding unlabeled enben.

Stop excluding multigender enben.

Stop excluding multitrans/multicis enben.

And while we're on the topic of treating enben like they have only two categories - lesbian/uranian and straight enben are completely real, and deserve to have a place in the community. HOWEVER, please stop neglecting enben (and binary people attracted to enben) who don't fall into those categories. Please stop neglecting diamoric orientations [link].

Please stop neglecting feminamoric, viramoric, symmaic, contraic, ceteramoric, tria, etc, etc. Please stop labelling every single NBLNB, NBLW, and NBLM relationship as "lesbian", "uranian", and "straight."

Please stop acting like every enban should be comfortable using the gay-straight identities.

Also, stop acting like every enban uses they/them (or that every man uses he/him or every woman uses she/her) pronouns, and stop calling enben "theys." It's very othering to hear "men, women, and theys" and exclusionary towards enben who do not use they/them. Enby/enban, person, enbies/enben, and people are all *right there.*

not all nonbinary people use they them or even like the set. nonbinary people can use he him, she her, it its, neopronouns, or any combination of these. it is perfectly acceptable and encouraged to default to they them if you do not know a persons pronouns, but the best way to know how to call a nonbinary person is to just ask us.

nonbinary people are not "theys" or "thems" or "they thems" or any term that simplifies us to pronouns. we are not all "things" or "creatures." there are absolutely nonbinary people who are alright with, or even use, these terms, but many of us do not like the dehumanizing aspect of it and find it offensive. the best way to know how to refer to us is to just ask us.

nonbinary people may present any way they want. they can present femininely, masculinely, neutrally, androgynously, or with any other modality. nonbinary people are not required to present "opposite" of their sex and we are not required to present neutrally or androgynously.

nonbinary people can be straight just as they can be gay or lesbian. not all nonbinary people are multisexual. it is entirely up to the person to decide how to label themselves. some nonbinary people use these more well known terms and some use terms made explicitly for nonbinary people such as trixic, toric, enbian, ceterosexual, gai, strayt, uranic, neptunic, and so many more. some nonbinary people use multiple attraction labels and some only use one. some nonbinary people use consistent labels and some nonbinary people use contradictory ones. it is entirely up to the person to decide how to label themselves.

nonbinary people can choose to transition socially, medically, or both. some nonbinary people pick a different name and some use their birth name. some nonbinary people choose a gender neutral name and some choose explicitly masculine or feminine ones. some nonbinary people want to start HRT and some do not. some nonbinary people choose to take typically prescribed amounts and some choose to microdose HRT. some nonbinary people go through the medilegal process and some DIY. some nonbinary people want top surgery and others dont. some nonbinary people desire opposite genitalia and some nonbinary people are fine with their current. some nonbinary people are altersex and desire a mix, combination, or lack of genitalia. some nonbinary people are intersex and many of us are perisex or dyadic.

As much as you may dislike the word queer being used for you, it doesn't mean that lgbtq community doesn't consist of queer individuals, and you have to be respectful to them :3 My identity doesn't hurt nor invalidate anyone

Darkened original image with flags and their names (every label is a link) is under cut!!

[ID: 15 blinkies of different pride flags, with the name of each label written in pixel lettering. In order, they are bxy, agender man, aplatonic, greyplatonic, aplatonicflux (one reading "aplatonicflux" and the other reading "aplflux", disability stutter, genderfaun, demiboy, t4t bi, anifaux, amonab, aporagender, demigirlflux, and neptunic. /end ID]

blinkie requests for @crowinsnow, @kibbleluvr, @slavik-barkink, and various anons!

Asteraflux-✦

[as-ter-ay-flux OR as-teerah-flux- era like the eer in eerie + ah] 

(srry im rlly bad at describing pronunciations)

-could also be shortened to astera but theres multiple things called that already

✦) An aporagender that has fluctuating levels of neutrality and nullness but is always aporine

✦) Null is different to agender and does not necessarily mean genderless, but if it does then it would still be aporine agender due to the general aporinity of this gender

✦) Never male/female/androgyne but sometimes neutral, null and neither (but still gendered) with fluctuating levels of those 3 

✦) Kinda similar to aporyfluid but aporyfluid is moving between aporagenders which tend to have differing levels of neutrality but it’s specifically moving between the labels, whereas asteraflux is just one label that changes within itself

✦)flag:

Orange: aporinity

Yellow: genderflux

Light green: neutrality

Dark green 1: being neither neutral nor null but still gendered

Dark green 2 / stylised black: gendernull