Everyone Is You Pushed Out (EIYPO)(+ My Personal Experience)🐈
One of the most misunderstood concepts in the Law of Assumption is Everyone Is You Pushed Out (EIYPO). Many people hear this phrase and immediately think it means they're controlling others like puppets—but that's not what it means. EIYPO simply suggests that the way you assume people are, and the stories you consistently tell yourself about them, are often reflected back in your experience. In other words, your assumptions shape how you perceive and interact with the people around you.
Think about someone you constantly label as "annoying" or "rude." The more you hold that belief, the more your mind starts looking for proof that it is true. You may notice their tone more quickly, interpret their silence as attitude, or focus on every small action that seems to confirm your opinion. Even when they are being neutral, your assumption can make their behavior feel negative. But if you begin assuming, "They're actually kind and easy to talk to," your attention shifts in a different direction. You become less defensive, more open, and more likely to notice the friendly or respectful parts of their behavior. Over time, this can change the way the interaction feels. The shift begins with the story you're holding, not with forcing the other person to change.
The same idea applies to every relationship. If you assume your friend never understands you, you'll naturally expect disappointment. If you assume your teacher dislikes you, you'll interpret many situations through that lens. But when you consciously choose a new assumption—"People enjoy talking to me," "I'm respected," or "Others are naturally kind to me"—your experiences often begin reflecting that new perspective. Your assumptions influence your expectations, your behavior, and the way you interpret other people's actions.
This doesn't mean you have to ignore reality or pretend difficult situations never exist. EIYPO is an invitation to become aware of the stories you're repeating and decide whether they're helping you or holding you back. How people react to you is usually the assumption you hold about them. If you assume someone is cold, distant, disrespectful, or hard to deal with, that is the version of them you will keep meeting in your mind and often in your experience. If you assume they are kind, loving, supportive, and easy to connect with, you begin to notice and experience that version instead. In that sense, different versions of people can exist in your awareness. One version may seem good, another may seem bad, but all of that is shaped by the assumption you choose to repeat mentally. Your job is not to force people to become someone else; your job is to choose the version you want to experience and stay loyal to it in your mind. The solution is to change the assumption on purpose. Notice the old story you keep telling yourself about them, then replace it with a new one that matches the experience you want. Repeat that new assumption mentally, and respond from it consistently. The more you practice this mental work, the more natural the new version becomes, and the more your outer experience begins to reflect it.
I experienced this in a very personal way with my cousin sister. Ever since I was a child, I had two completely different images of her in my mind. On one hand, I always looked up to her because everyone said she was academically brilliant and an amazing painter. She became my inspiration in both studies and art. But on the other hand, many relatives would say that she had a lot of attitude and was very distant. Without realizing it, I accepted both stories. I admired her deeply, yet I also assumed she was cold and difficult to approach.
After many years, she finally contacted me, and even then, she seemed a little quiet and detached. My immediate thought was, "See? She really does have attitude." That assumption had been living in my mind for years, so I never questioned it. Then, a few years later, they came to our house for a family wedding. I was honestly nervous because I'm not someone who can fake being friendly. I'm very straightforward, so I expected the meeting to be awkward.
When we all sat together, she was very quiet. She spoke very little, and for a moment I thought, "This is exactly what everyone meant." But then I paused and looked at her differently. I thought, maybe she's not rude at all. Maybe she's just calm. Maybe she's just reserved. So I started talking to her, told her how much I admired her, and even said that she had always been my inspiration. As the day went on and everyone joined the conversation, she slowly opened up. She smiled, laughed, talked with us, and I realized she wasn't cold at all. She simply had a calm personality and a resting face that made people misunderstand her.
That experience made EIYPO feel very real to me. Today, she is one of the most down-to-earth people I know. Whenever I need help—whether it's studies, advice, or anything else—she is always there for me. The image I held about her as my inspiration is exactly how she shows up in my life. At the same time, many relatives still think she's an "attitude girl" because that's the image they continue to hold. It made me realize that we often experience the version of people we consistently assume to be true. Sometimes, changing the story in our own mind changes the experience we have with them.
So, how do you actually practice EIYPO? Start by becoming aware of the story you're telling yourself about a person. Ask yourself, "What do I constantly assume about them?" If the assumption isn't serving you, replace it with one that reflects the experience you want. Instead of thinking, "They're rude," try, "They're kind and enjoy talking to me." Instead of, "They never understand me," assume, "They always understand and support me." Repeat the new story, imagine interactions from that perspective, and stay consistent with it. EIYPO isn't about forcing people to change—it's about changing the assumptions you hold, because that's the version you're most likely to experience.
