#attachmentstyle

and, if that's the case, they set you up for consistent failure in relationships until you teach yourself that familiar is NOT healthy and break the habit of seeking out people who treat you the same way they did.

idk who needs to read this, but seriously: your parents are not perfect. the dynamic they have with you is not the only way relationships work. it is not your job to make excuses for them. they decided to bring a kid into their lives & it shoukd have been their responsibility to give you a good upbringing. and if you are constantly faced with people who treat you poorly, odds are it's because you were raised into being treated badly and are so used to it that your mind is literally seeking this out because it's familiar. your subconscious mind is an idiot and naturally works to sabbotage you & hold you back! the comfort zone is not comforting at all. . .it's just what your mind knows to be familiar and it doesn't know good from bad. and while it's not your fault that you were raised into it. . .it's on you to recognize and change it.

Anxious Yet Avoidant? | Understanding Fearful (Disorganized) Attachment 🌉

Do you crave closeness in relationships while also feeling the urge to pull away? You may be experiencing fearful (disorganized) attachment.

In this Bridge the Gap Guide learn what fearful/disorganized attachment is, how it develops, and why it can create a confusing push-pull pattern in relationships.

You'll learn:

What fearful (disorganized) attachment is

Common signs and behaviors

Why you may feel both anxious and avoidant

How attachment patterns affect relationships

Practical steps toward building more secure relationships

Reflection:

What happens inside you when you want closeness and distance at the same time? What might change if you responded with curiosity instead of criticism?

Bridge the Gap Guide 👉https://www.btgcoaching.com/understanding-fearful-attachment

You loved them so much it scared you. The relationship was chaos — hot and cold, push and pull, incredible highs and devastating lows. Everyone around you could see it was wrong. You could see it too. And yet leaving felt impossible. Coming back felt inevitable. What if that wasn’t love? What if it was something your nervous system manufactured — a powerful, chemical attachment that had nothing…

​(Singing in Hindi) ​Kagaz ke do pankh leke ud chala jaaye re (With two wings of paper, it flies away) Jahaan nahi jaana tha ye wahi chala haaye re (To the place it wasn’t supposed to go, it has gone there) ​Umar ka ye tana-bana samajh na paaye re (It cannot understand this web of age) ​Zubaan pe jo moh-maya, namak lagaye re (The worldly attachments on the tongue, it tastes like…

How to Have “The Talk,” According to a Couples Therapist

Welcome to Figs & Teale, your space for real talk, real love, and real tools for healing. In this video, couples therapist Figs shares what truly matters before couples jump into hard conversations about prenups, moving, money, or careers. Before problem-solving begins, there must be emotional safety. This is what Figs calls the connection conversation — or simply, “the talk.”

In this session, Figs breaks down the three pillars of relationship repair: Attachment Theory, Systems Theory, and Experiential Therapy. You’ll learn why we fear being abandoned, why we fear not being enough, and how two people can get stuck in painful cycles without realizing it. These patterns don’t mean something is wrong with you — they mean you learned how to survive.

🤍Attachment Style Planner🤍

Discover a gentle, guided way to understand your patterns, build emotional awareness, and create healthier connections. The Attachment Style Planner is designed for anyone who wants to explore their attachment style—anxious, avoidant, disorganized, or secure—in a practical, supportive, and empowering format.

Inside, you’ll find:

✨ Self-reflection prompts to help you understand your emotional needs ✨ Daily and weekly check-ins to track your inner world ✨ Psycho-educational pages that break down each attachment style in simple, compassionate language ✨ Exercises for emotional regulation and improving communication ✨ Goal-setting pages for building secure habits in relationships ✨ A comforting design that encourages slow, mindful self-growth