goldenboy

Okay so clearly I've underestimated y'all

So how about we make this more interesting?

Us:

When I made this post, it was supposed to be a joke

I mean, none of my posts ever get more than 20 notes if I'm lucky, so what are the odds of one reaching 666k? Impossible, haha

But then, something happened, something I didn't expect

People actually began to... like it? And... reblog? And comment?

Before I knew it, my notifications were swarmed with comments after comments after reblogs after comments all on this one post

Then, still in the mindset of this being a joke, I realised I'd made the goal too easy, so I upped the stakes

But... the notes just got more frequent from there

And it started to hit me just what was happening

For a while, I was overwhelmed with a feeling

A feeling I wasn't used to

It was like... all of a sudden... I mattered...

My existance was actually noteworthy

People actually... cared?

It wasn't a game anymore, it was a race to assure a stranger on the Internet that they were actually worth something

Hundreds of people all gathering in one online place to help out

Leaving messages and well wishes

Making me smile

Making me laugh

Funny comments

Jokes

Fun facts

Even simple comments

It all suddenly felt so real

This was never a joke to you

This was important

And I won't let any of that go in vain

So... stay tuned I suppose

I'll look after myself, and I'll post proof of it too

I'll catalogue every time I put my health first

Physical and mental

I'll acknowledge my bad days and celebrate my good days

But most of all

I won't forget this

Any of this

Ever

(Tagging all the people in that screenshot)

Look at how casual it is in our society to promote female abuse towards men. We think nothing of it. Imagine if the genders here were reversed. Imagine if this was the gamifying of abusive and control behavior of men towards women. It would be a fucking shitstorm and the gaming company would have to apologize but this? Nah because society is HYPOCRITICAL when it comes to toxic behavior. That’s why I roll my eyes hard at all the “toxic masculinity” talk because it’s pretty damn clear that overwhelmingly those who are quick to say that shit only have a “toxic radar” that works on men. If males are doing dirt, they are ready to yell to the mountaintops but women and suddenly they are deaf, dumb and blind. suddenly all those stances just go away. suddenly all those belief just disappear. that’s when the excuse parade starts marching in. fuck that. and  don’t give me that bullshit excuse about men cheating cause guess what? WOMEN CHEAT AS MUCH AS MEN (here, here, here, here and here)! So unless you’re ready to tell me that as a woman you expect and welcome the invasion of your privacy, the destruction of your personal property and/or other likewise behavior because women cheat, shut the fuck up.

Dudes if you find yourself with a girl or woman like this, dump her toxic ass immediately. Do not even waste your time trying to make her see how fucked up and abusive this behavior is. Get the fuck out of there and find you someone who is secure enough to not freak out cause you have other females in your life besides her and your family. And if you’re about to enter into a relationship with a chick, have the talk. I always tell chicks straight up “I have many female friends and some are among my best friends in the world. We talk, chat, hang, go out and etc. I am NOT going to jettison them for you. They are my friends and they are going to remain my friends. Tell me NOW if you can’t handle that and we will go out separate ways no hard feelings.” I ALWAYS MAKE THAT SHIT CLEAR! Girls and women will fucking demand you get rid of your female friends for them but try asking them to do the same with their male friends for you and they fucking lose their shit. Fuckouttahere! 

“Toxic femininity” is too fucking real and the fact that we don’t call that shit out is why “toxic masculinity” is mostly an exercise in misandry.

EITHER CALL ALL OF IT OUT OR SHUT THE FUCK UP!

but notice all you can do is leave. you can’t actually give a reasoned response because you know you don’t have one. 

THAT’S FUCKING WHY!?!?!

i’ve seen my boys get caught up with crazy ass controlling evil chicks doing shit like this and yet our society is hellbent on giving them a pass. we never call them out. we never put their feet to the fire. we never roast their asses but we always got something to say about men tho. always. yet women are carrying out all manner of abuses in relationships. shit is disgusting. and when we sit back and allow for the above and we don’t call it out, we normalize the idea that abuse from women to men is okay. this is how you normalize an idea and a concept. you keep repeating it in as many mediums as you can until people see and/or hear it so much that they accept it as fact, as logical, as normal. think about how we talk and treat domestic violence in this country. 

remember these domestic violence experiments to understand how differently we act depending on how the aggressor is? 

Shocking video shows strangers ignoring domestic violence in the street - but they rush to help a female victim

how do we get to a place where we think abuse and/or domestic violence against women is unacceptable but abuse and/or domestic violence is funny, entertaining and thus acceptable? we normalize the idea that it is so and the above is one of the ways we do it. and it’s all funny until you realize 40% of domestic violence victims are men at the hand of women.

i had a friend who was in physically abusive relationship with a girl who was the mother of his son and it was as fucked up as anything i’ve seen happen to a woman. the scratches to the face, the punching, having things throw at him and shit… it was fucking crazy. but it’s all funny right? we’ll put in everywhere that if a woman is mad at a guy, it’s okay that she slaps him. in games where it’s funny that a woman invades your privacy or wreck your personal property because “some chick texted my man.” however we all know if the genders were reversed it would be all types of shit! this is called normalizing and it’s fucked up. that’s why i’m mad. fuck @amandaseales. hotep. the fuck does this have anything to do with hotep? fuckouttahere with that bullshit!! bunch of fucking hyprocrites. 

‘In a mad ass rage at my partner. Just want to punch him in the c*ck and stab him in the leg with a fork. Bad b****es, I want to know what is the craziest thing you’ve done in a fit of rage?’ one woman posted on Friday.

The post garnered hundreds of likes and prompted a colourful discussion about domestic violence. 

‘Threw a chair at him through a glass door. Door smashed and cut him the f*** up. Needless to say he didn’t smart mouth me again,’ one said.

The post and the ensuing comments were shared with all 173 thousand members of Bad Girls Advice. 

I mean here’s some more. Think this is going to get notes?

Saw this ad on the train today, Crowded train, couldn’t make it all out but I liked the colors and the art style (the first photo is the one I took on the train the second is the one I found online when I got home). In this ad we have a woman thinking about hitting a man because he wanted to pay her on a net90 which is NOT illegal or wrong. It’s common business practice. However because of her displeasure with this arrangement, she wants to physically harm him.

Just another way we teach females of all ages that hitting a man is okay and acceptable. Messages like these are everywhere. Then you wonder why men ask if gender equality means they can hit back. Imagine if the genders were reversed. It would be fucking armageddon but it’s a woman hitting a man? No problem. Let’s put that in ads all over NYC. In no universe would it be acceptable for an ad agency to use the visual image of a man hitting a woman TO SELL INSURANCE but those same people who would swear up and down they are feminists and believe in gender equality, think this imagery is totally appropriate and the right way to send this BUSINESS message.

Shit like this I am NOT feminist. Fuck that. No one (with a dick, a vagina or otherwise) gets to hit me and walk away unbruised. Fuck that shit. Also I think about this as someone who is going to have sons and daughters in a few years (if everything goes according to plan). I want to teach my kids that regardless of gender, no one has a right to your body. No one gets to hit you because they’re upset, in a bad mood, don’t like what you said, don’t like what you’re wearing, don’t like what you did or otherwise and gets to walk away. Defending yourself is your basic human right however society’s norms would have me teach this to my daughter but not my son. Or at least put some caveats in their when teaching my sons that it applies to everyone except a woman. Yea, a woman gets to slap you around because they don’t want to be paid net-90. That’s totally fine. SMFH.

Feminists love this shit. White, Black, Asian, Hispanic, Native and everything in between. Fuck y'all for real. Imagery speaks volumes in our society and this is unacceptable.

119+ abusers just waiting to fuck with their boyfriend. remember… 

In court that day, the judge asked the boy, “Are you afraid?” No, the boy said.

Pipes says the judge seemed surprised, and asked, “Why not?”

Chief’s thesis was that a child who has been abused by an adult can benefit psychologically from the presence of even more intimidating adults that they know are on their side. “When we tell a child they don’t have to be afraid, they believe us,” Arizona biker Pipes told azcentral.com. “When we tell them we will be there for them, they believe us.” ( Article)

They go on runs to protect the child if they feel even the slightest threatened no matter where. If the child needs them to go on vacation with them, they do. Bikers come from across the nation to watch over and take shifts for these kids. And the best part is once you’re adopted into this family as a BACA kid, you’re always one. Even when you’re 40 and the perp gets released from jail, they’ll come meet with you and find your best options for avoiding the person and maintaining the life you’ve built for yourself. Once a BACA child, always a BACA child. In Florida, there’s 100% rate for identifying the perp based on the child’s testimony. Why? Because BACA stands with the child and supports the child so they feel comfortable enough to point out their attacker.

They’re in Canada as well and probably other countries. I met and talked with a native guy who runs the place near me. His name is Shaman. I got in, and I’m considered a BACA child now. Despite being 17, turning 18 when I talked to them. They spent time with me when my abuser was over, they gave me therapy resources. They give you something called a ‘level 1′ where they go to your house with as many bikers as they can, i shit you not a solid 20-40 bikers came from even out of province, and met me. I got to choose my biker name and I got a vest with patches on it and my name on it. They all hugged a Teddybear before giving it to me, and told me if I ever felt the BACA bear was running out of love, to give them a call and they’d refill it for me, and then I got a ride on one of their bikes. Just a day or so ago I went to an annual party with them and they we ate food one of them cooked and had a lot of laughs. 

I’ve never felt as loved as I did being a part of the BACA family. They also gave me dog tags with the names, and phone numbers of my 2 workers.  So I can call them whenever I feel scared. 

BACA is an absolutely wonderful group that will do everything in it’s power to help any child whos been abused. 

And it doesn’t end when you’re 18 either. As long as you get in contact/get your level 1 before you’re 18? you’re ALWAYS a BACA kid. I’m 18 now and they still invite me to parties, ask me if I’m okay, and are there for me. They’re still trying to find me resources for therapy. 

BACA has changed my fucking life. 

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B.A.C.A’s Byline: “Keepers of the Children.” B.A.C.A.’s Motto: “No child deserves to live in fear.”

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