Unpopular Opinion : Tamlin
He doesnât deserve to die.Â
He does not deserve to die, at all. Wanting him to die for hurting Feyre is more than a bit harsh. Amarantha deserves to die; she terrorized all of Prythian for over fifty years, she raped Rhysand, she tortured Faes, and she held the entire Spring Court under a curse that was pretty much impossible to break. She was evil. She deserved to die. She had no redemption coming for her.Â
Tamlin? No. He doesnât deserve to die. Tamlin? Heâs as broken as everyone else in this series is and just because he handles it a bit differently**, weâre all ready to kill him. Well guess what, you were probably ready to jump on Rhysand for what he did to Feyre in that cell Under The Mountain.Â
Oh well, it turns out he was her mate. Oh well, he did it for the better good. Oh well, he healed her anyway. Oh well, Oh well, Oh well.Â
No. Rhysand still hurt Feyre. But heâs been redeeming himself since the second task, when Feyre couldnât read and he helped her pick the middle lever. Since he gave her a choice. Since he gave her a choice in loving him. Since he gave her friends that understood her. Since he gave her a choice in all this war. You donât see it, but thatâs a true redemption arc and character development.Â
When you forget the bad things they did and what a bad person they are. Because donât forget that even though Rhys is a tiny baby bat, heâs the High Lord of the Night Court, Death Incarnate, and heâs done some pretty bad things over his 500/600+ years of existence. And the year that heâs been with Feyre, weâll all throwing rose petals.Â
Again, donât get me wrong, I recognize Tamlin has done some really, really bad things. But we, as a fandom, donât even put our hate into perspective. I still wonât ever get how you want him to die, but maybe I can break it apart.Â
You want him to die because he hurt precious Feyre Archeron. The main character. Your pride and joy. The character we all relate to. We see it through her eyes. And because Tamlin hurt her, you want him to die horribly.Â
If you donât see that as an extreme, I just, I donât understand.Â
We find out thereâs a reason Rhysand was so terrible to everyone in Prythian, he was keeping up a facade to save Velaris and all the people he loved that lived there. Bam. Immediately forgiven. Of course we get an entire book where we get to know him a lot better, but bam, already forgiven and now weâre just falling in love with Rhysand.Â
If Tamlin got that, you guys would roll your eyes so much, theyâd fall right out of your heads. But itâs clear Tamlin had a reason for doing all that he did. Now, Iâm not going to go back to the book and get sources, because Iâm really just not good at that, but I can list a few things from memory.Â
1. Locking Feyre in the house. Extreme, yes, but understandable? yes. Very understandable. As weâre reading from Feyreâs POV, we understand sheâs suffering from mental illness and being locked in the house is like being locked in the cell all over again. But if you think about it from Tamlinâs POV, heâs suffering from PSTD. The first time he let Feyre go back to the human realm (a very selfless thing) she ended up where he didnât want her, Under the Mountain, going head-to-head to Amarantha. And any reasonable person would know human!Feyre Archeron would die a horrible death. And after three months and Tamlin finally has Feyre alive, a woman who he thought he was falling in love with, as soon as they get from out of the Mountain, Feyre wants to put herself in more danger. Itâs not like sheâs unaware of the fact there are dangers out there, she knows, and she wants to go out. Yes, she is a High Fae now, but thatâs not something you just pick up. Sheâs still navigating that and she wouldnât know how to run when she needed to, or use her strength, or even master her hearing and smell. Tamlin has every right to want to keep her in the house, where sheâs safe. After all sheâs been through, why would he let her go out into danger? He seems stupid and aggravating from Feyreâs POV, but reasonable from Tamlinâs
**Extra : Everyone is suffering from PSTD, depression, and loads of other things. But since Tamlin deals with it differently than our main characters, heroes, and favorites of the story, we donât like him. People deal with their problems differently and Tamlin is a great example of how people can judge you on how you deal with it. You canât say Tamlin dealt with it the âwrongâ way because thereâs no hand book. Plus, Feyre had Rhysand, Cassian, Azriel, Mor, and Amren. Tamlin had no one.Â
2. There are a lot of times when Tamlin just treats Feyre like trash. Itâs mostly at the beginning-middle of ACOTAR where he just treats her like a human china doll and goes on his merry way. This? This is not surprising. The curse is basically, âMake a human girl that hates your kind fall in love with you. Ha. Good luckâ. Feyre walked into that house, hating Faes. Reasonable. Tamlin just let a human girl into his house that killed his friend. He didnât even want to try to break the curse anymore, because he saw how unreasonable it was. Heâs pouting, sure, probably. I wouldnât blame him. And he has to make Feyre fall in love with him. Showing off his abs, and doing a majestic shampoo commercial hair flips isnât enough. He also has his mask as a barrier, so Feyre ultimately ended up falling in love with Tamlin. Just Tamlin. (I mean those abs probably helped). But back to Tamlin not treating women right; all of Prythian donât treat their women right. The whole continent is sexist and only Rhys, Cassian, Azriel, Mor, and Amren stand against it because they have witnessed it first hand and are putting their foot down. Now Iâm not saying because the whole continent is sexist, that gives Tamlin the right to be sexist too, no. Iâm saying this is where he got it from. He never grew up respecting women. Male offspring obviously are attached to their father by the hip, learning and training how to be Heir. (borrowing this quote from @sparkleywonderful, Iâll be using this quote later too)Â
âBetter than Beronâs brood at the Autumn Court. Tamlinâs brothers were equally bad, though. Worse. And they knew Tamlin would take the title one day.â âpg 448, ACOMAF
We learn that Lucienâs brothers are the worst sadistic, anti-feminists, murdering red heads you will probably ever meet and can give the Night Court a run for their money. So imagine Tamlinâs brothers being worse and they (probably) learned that from their father.  Tamlin was raised by the same man so if his father hadnât died, he would have grown up to be worse than Beronâs Bunch. And you canât blame him for that, he was raised to be like that, and he had no one to show him the way. Rhys, Cass, and Azriel spent more time with Rhysâs mom than any other possible Heirs to the Courts ever had (just by what we know). They were shown so much maternal love, they had an undying respect from women from the start. Thatâs not something you can say for all the characters.Â
Those are two of the major things we hold against Tamlin and they also continue through ACOMAF. Mostly in ACOMAF, Tamlin is desperately trying to get Feyre back. So Iâm going to talk about that too.Â
1. I Do Not Blame Him For Thinking Feyre Was Under Rhysâs Mind Control. Go to Rhysâs fandom wiki page and scroll down to powers, or maybe you already remember. But Iâm going to quote it. Daemati Powers. To sum that up, mind powers. He can also change memories, which we saw him do in the Summer Court in ACOMAF and he can also read your mind and memories. Those are the two that are mentioned on the wiki page but itâs mentioned that Rhys can control minds as well. So given that, and given Tamlinâs rocky history with Rhys, and given he still thinks Rhysand is this Big Bad Wolf, I donât blame Tamlin at all. Given Rhysand has these powers, I donât blame Tamlin for thinking Feyre was under his mind control. He doesnât know Rhys taught her how to block it, he doesnât know anything we know. And even Feyre screaming, âI have my mind! Iâm my own person! He isnât controlling me!â that just sounds like someone is controlling her mind to say that. And after all Tamlinâs been through, still having to run a Court with his obvious mental illness, I donât blame him for cracking.Â
2. Joining the King of Hybern. Iâve got nothing for this. That was so stupid Iâm still laughing. I legitimately have nothing.Â
3. Trying To Get Feyre Back. 100% reasonable in Tamlinâs POV and just annoying in Feyreâs POV / Feysand shippers (aka all of us). I can actually explain this by saying it like this. Feyre is now in the Spring Court and obviously Rhysand is going to want to get her back. Heâs the âheroâ is our story and weâre rooting him on to get his High Lady back. Tamlin is the âvillainâ in our story and we just want to crush him under Thorâs Hammer. If you donât get what Iâm saying, think of it like this. If Rhysand was the villain, like we all thought he was going to be when we saw him in ACOTAR, and Tamlin was the love-interest-hero trying to save Feyre, we would have no problem with it. We would be cheering him on, begging him to get Feyre back. In Tamlinâs mind, thatâs what heâs doing. He doesnât know Feyre and Rhysand are mates and he doesnât know sheâs happier in the Night Court. All he knows is Feyre sent a letter and she never came back. Thatâs frightening. That is top-notch frightening, I would have a heart attack. Going back to Rhysandâs Mind Control Powers, that is frightening.Â
I answered an anonâs ask and you can find that here. I said Tamlin was slowly becoming my favorite character. I should have said âone ofâ but I didnât, and oh well, opened myself up for hate on that one. But you know what, he is slowly becoming one of my favorite characters, and thatâs what makes this whole post an unpopular opinion.Â
For a while now, Iâve sat down and Iâve thought about Tamlin, and Iâve thought about his redemption. Iâve thought about his past and Iâve thought about his traumas and what could possibly make him like this. What damage could possibly make him snap, could possibly make him want to get a stone heart, could possibly make him do everything heâs done.Â
And I keep going back to the conclusion:Â Rhysâs sister was his mate. Everything slowly ties back to this, if youâd let me explain.Â
Iâm going to call her Chiara, because I have many fanfics in which I do that. Pain, Rhysandâs Parents 2, Wings Returned, and more.Â
Iâm going to borrow another quote found by @sparkleywonderful (you can find all these in The Bond That Haunts Us and I recommend checking out her other posts filled with easter eggs and mind blowing discoveries)Â
Tamlinâs father, brothers and Tamlin himself set out into the Illyrian wilderness, having heard from Tamlin where my mother and sister would be, that I had plans to see them. I was supposed to be there. I wasnât. And they slaughtered my mother and sister anyway. âpg 448, ACOMAF
Iâm not saying these guys arenât amazing trackers, Iâm not saying itâs impossible to find the Lady of the Night Court and her daughter, but all Iâm saying is itâs incredibly hard. Those mountain ranges are huge not to mention all the forest and all the nooks and crannies. It might as well be the Maze from TMR. On steroids. It would have been a lot easier with some tracking magic, and in that case, it would have been easy for Tamlin to get some of Rhysandâs blood, orâŚa mating bond.
Also, why would the Spring Court even bother with killing them? Itâs not like they pose a threat to the Spring Court. Maybe, they hated the fact a daughter could be Heir, but given their sexist ways, I find it unlikely the High Lords would even think for a second a female would be stronger than any male.Â
So why in the world of Prythian would they even bother themselves with this when the High Lord of the Spring could have been training his sons harder, preparing them for being High Lord.Â
Oh maybe because she was Tamlinâs mate and they all expected Tamlin to be High Lord. Canât have the High Lord of the Spring Court mating with the Daughter of Night.Â
Back tracing a little, it is highly possible for them to be mates. Rhysand mentions that when he was younger (for some reason the number 100 is stuck in my mind, so maybe he gave an exact number, but I donât remember) he used to train Tamlin in the Illyrian war camps. (More quotes from @sparkleywonderful)
âLucien never cared about it, never expected to be crowned High Lord, so he spent his youth doing everything a High Lordâs son probably shouldnât: wandering the courts, making friends with sons of other High Lordsâ a faint gleam in Tamlinâs eyes at that â âand being with females who were a far cry from nobility of the Autumn Court.â Â Tamlin paused for a moment, and I could almost feel the sorrow.â âpg 160, ACOTAR
(Iâll be using this again later). But itâs canon that Lucien was skipping between Courts, making friends with sons of other High Lords. Obviously, his friendship with Tamlin was stronger since theyâre all buddy-buddy bromance⢠in ACOTAR. Tamlin did the same with Rhysand. He let the son of the High Lord of the Night Court train him. He made friends with him, and Cassian, and Azriel. He took Illyrian sized beatings just to be better. He also probably just wanted friends that werenât his god-awful brothers.Â
And with three Illyrian brothers, comes a cutie Illyrian sister. And with liking that cutie Illyrian sister, comes three Illyrian brothers knocking you into the dirt. âNot my sisterâ. So I think itâs highly possible that Chiara may have gotten a little crush; first time seeing a boy, first time itâs not a stinky Illyrian, oh my god heâs even apart of another Court. crush mode activated. plus Tamlin was either probably sleeping over or just winnowing there every day. Itâs possible they fell in love and itâs possible a mating bond came into play. (this could be another case for SJM to show that while the mating bond is a wonderful thing, it isnât always rainbows and sunshine)Â
Here comes that quote again :Â
âLucien never cared about it, never expected to be crowned High Lord, so he spent his youth doing everything a High Lordâs son probably shouldnât: wandering the courts, making friends with sons of other High Lordsâ a faint gleam in Tamlinâs eyes at that â âand being with females who were a far cry from nobility of the Autumn Court.â Â Tamlin paused for a moment, and I could almost feel the sorrow.â âpg 160, ACOTAR
Iâm high-key crying right now. If you werenât convinced Tamlin was in love with another female from a different Court, aka Chiara of the Night Court, I hope youâll think about it now. Chiara is definitely a far cry from nobility in the Spring Court. Sheâs nobility in the Night Court. Itâs basically like being Crown Prince of one country and falling in love with a Princess from another. The original⢠star-crossed lovers.Â
Iâm not saying this is some Capulets vs. Montague butâŚ
Neither Chiara or Tamlin would have told their fathers, I mean, duh, Grade A stupid right there. But I think Chiara would have told her Illyrian brothers and then for headcanon, âOur sister!?â âCanât really control these things..â
They probably fell in love, unlike some mates of the mates we know (Rhysandâs parents for one). They appreciated the small moments they got to have, and they appreciated their mating bond. And they probably waited to actually mate, just to see if they would survive the next day. Iâm not saying they would have been killed but⌠*sips tea*Â
This also explains a few things that Rhysand did. I forget when, @sparkleywonderful is so much better at finding quotes from the books, but Tamlin, Lucien, and Feyre found a head skewered on a fountain.Â
And either Tamlin or Lucien said âThis is typical Night Court fashion. They find pleasure in these things. Bunch of sadistsâ and while I believe thatâs true (The Court of Nightmares), Rhysand obviously did this. No one else was let out Under the Mountain except for Rhysand, for reasons we already know.Â
By why a head? Iâm sure there are other ways to terrorize the Spring Court, for Amaranthaâs bidding, reminding them that their curse was slowly coming to a deadline. Why would Rhysand choose the way his mother and sister died? The High Lord of the Spring Court cut off their heads and sent them down the river.Â
Why would Rhysand remind Tamlin of that, like a secret message. Why would Rhysand put himself through the pain. To remind Tamlin, even after all these years, Rhys would never forget he had his sister killed, had his own mate killed. That he didnât fight. That he let her die, probably screaming for him, her brother.
And then again, a faerie whoâs had his wings chopped off, finds his way to the Spring Court. Iâm not saying Amarantha isnât cruel enough, but what a coincidence, Tamlin is reminded of how he had to watch Chiaraâs wings get ripped off. What a coincidence, amiright? Really, what are the odds, these two messages would happen so close together, and it would be exactly how Rhysandâs sister and mother died.Â
Tamlin was also thrusted into a position he never wanted. Where as Rhysand probably eventually came to terms with the fact he was going to be High Lord and he just ended up becoming High Lord a lot sooner than he wanted, Tamlin never came to terms with it and he never wanted it. He figured he had enough brothers to have a slim shot at never being High Lord, but no, they were all killed, along with his parents.Â
âBut my powers kept growing, and I couldnât hide it â not among our kindâ -pg 177, ACOTAR
So much for not being Heir. But why wouldnât he want to be Heir then eventually High Lord? I mean sure, itâs not an easy job, but he was practically born just for this purpose. Why would he choose he didnât want it? Why would Tamlin rather have one of his brothers âworse than Beronâs broodsâ be High Lord instead?Â
Maybe being High Lord insured he wasnât going to ever be with his mate.Â
âThe shadows that flickered in his eyes as he nodded his thanks told me there was moreâstill more that he had yet to tell me about his family, his life before theyâd been killed and this title had been thrust upon him.â âpg 219, ACOTAR
At this point, I think Tamlin told Feyre how his family died. But Feyre could sense more, she could sense more of a story than âOh Rhysand and his father just slaughtered them all. I became High Lord. The Endâ. Sure there are probably a lot of reasons, but Rhysand has always been mamaâs baby bat and he just lost his mother and sister. He hasnât turned into this two sided person, struggling between High Lord and Himself. I think he was just following his father. Sure he wanted revenge, he probably just wanted to kill Tamlinâs brothers. But it was his father who slaughtered the High Lord and Lady and I donât blame him. The story of how these two males became High Lords is a lot longer than âWe killed each otherâs families. The Endâ and Feyre has always sensed that.Â
âBut darkness flickered in Tamlinâs eyes, and his shoulders seemed to curve inward ever so slightly.â âpg 177, ACOTAR
This is when Tamlin tells the story. Look how his body reacts. Iâm crying again. Of course this is a natural fetal position, wanting to make yourself smaller, to be able to protect all of yourself. But I canât help but stress âhis shoulders seemed to curve inward ever so slightly.â Iâm sorry but this just seems too much how Illyrian wings curve inward, especially when youâre trying to protect yourself. Especially when someone is about to cut off your wings. It just seems too close for me not to add it in here.Â
(all of these quotes have been from The Bond That Haunts Us - @sparkleywonderful)
âWherever heâd had to go in his mind to endure the fight with the Bogge. I met his feral and glowing stare. âpg 106, ACOTAR
the Bogge doesnât have a wiki page, and if it does, I couldnât find it. But if I remember correctly, it shows you your worsts fears and memories. When Tamlin fought the Bogge off, he turned feral. His guards dropped, his shield fell away, and he became feral. Whatever the Bogge showed him (*clears throat*) turned him feral. What could possibly turn his feral? Mmm, mm, hold on, itâll come to me, watching his mate be brutally murdered all over again.Â
Back to his stone heart. I think all of this is enough for Tamlin to find away to make his heart of stone. âI failed you. I failed my mate. And I will never love anotherâ While yes Tamlin was forced to find his mate and forced to watch her be killed, he still did nothing. And I think heâs punished himself ever since, making sure he never fell in love with anyone.Â
I want Tamlin to have a redemption arc.Â
Iâm not saying what heâs done isnât completely wrong, Iâm not saying he isnât an abuser, Iâm not trying to cancel out any of that. Tamlin has done what heâs done and thereâs no changing it. I gave possible reasons for him doing so, but I understand it doesnât change what heâs done.Â
Which is why I want redemption not death.Â
Death = Redemption, is just not true. When Lord Voldemort died, did he redeem himself? When Kronos died (Percy Jackson) did he redeem himself? When Valentine Morgenstern died (The Mortal Instruments) did he redeem himself? When Gaea/Gaia died (Heroes of Olympus) did she redeem herself? When Amarantha died did she redeem herself? When Arobynn died, did he redeem himself? When Maeve and Erawan, and the King of Hybern die, HA, they wonât be redeemed. When any villain in any story ever died, ask yourself, did he or she feel redeemed in your eyes?Â
All the characters I listed, have something in common. They are the bad-guys. They are the villains in those stories. Tamlin is not the villain in the ACOTAR trilogy. Heâs just a male, who has made some horrible mistakes, and has become some what of a bad (SPACE) guy. That doesnât mean he deserves to die for it.Â
Imagine someone who has done nothing but terrible things. You know this person, theyâve hurt you, and so on and so forth. Do they really deserve to stop breathing because of it?Â
Death does not equal Redemption. Tamlinâs redemption could include apologizing to Feyre, explaining himself, going deeper into his past, turning against the King of Hybern, playing a double agent, putting himself in danger just to give everyone a heads up.Â
Cauldron, it could even start at the beginning of ACOWAR. Feyre notices a difference in Tamlin right away. He lets her go outside. He asks how she is, asks if Rhysand ever hurt her, he asks about her well being.Â
His redemption isnât all about Feyre either. He could ask Lucien how he is after having to face the woman who tore out his eye. After being in a small space with his brothers. After almost dying in the Second Task.Â
He could go to Cassian, Azriel, and Rhys, and just for that moment, they can share that pain. They know heâs sorry, but they havenât forgiven him. He could work towards that forgiveness.Â
There are so many small things that could happen in such a long book to redeem Tamlin instead of : Right before my eyes, the High Lord of the Spring Court dropped dead.Â
Unfulfilling, not redemption, sure youâll probably cheer, but Tamlin wasnât redeemed. He was just killed off.Â
Donât get me wrong, Tamlin could die a heroâs death, but we all know our Queen Maas, and she tends not to do the cliche tropes and plots. So I donât think sheâll do that to Tamlin.Â
And at the end of the day, Sarah said Tamlin is getting a redemption arc.Â