antisocial antipathic anemoiac

sometimes low empathy makes people say unintentionally cold, mean, or downright cruel things

sometimes low empathy leads to a lack of care for others causing people to behave in hurtful ways intentionally

sometimes low empathy means that someone lacks understanding of why something is hurtful leading them to double down when confronted about it

sometimes low empathy makes attempts at offering sympathy clumsy and upsetting

sometimes low empathy can lead to attitudes about bullying such as "well I'm just telling [what I think is] the truth" without recognizing that certain comments can be hurtful even if you believe them to be true

while these actions are not acceptable or productive the big thing about them is that they can be learned from. not everyone can learn empathy- that's okay. everyone can learn to be a kinder, more considerate person.

denying that low empathy can lead to harmful behaviors does us no good. it erases many of us in favor of appearing respectable to the people who do not respect us.

​But I’ll also add the loneliness.

Like, it’s not really an emotional loneliness, but more of a self-centered one ? It’s more like awareness of isolation, like understanding that nothing and no one is significant enough to reach me.

​I don’t feel it often; I usually don’t care and am very good alone with myself. But there are times I think about it and feel it, usually when I'm very tired, or deeply into the boredom cycle.

​I can have people around, but no one is significantly important enough to warrant a special place; there’s a big wall between people and me. Nobody knows me or understands me; every relationship is either transactional or utterly lacking in depth. I’m just alone, and nobody is good enough to spark any real stimulation or attachment.