#actually antisocial

bitches with npd be like : are you mad at *me*?? (accusatory)

bitches with aspd be like : Are you mad at me? (curious)

bitches with hpd be like : omg are you mad at meeeee (teasing)

genuinely, if you don't feel attraction (of any sort! not just sexual), consider that you're A-spec!! being traumatized does not mean you cannot be A-spec, just like it doesn't mean you can't be gay or trans!

the idea that you need to "fix" your attraction to be "mentally healthy" is an anti-LGBT myth, although one that's unfortunately still common in regards to A-spec folks.

and even if you are actually allosexual/-romantic/-platonic and you'll (re)develop attraction as you recover, there is literally no good in forcing yourself to feel it; forcing intimacy is unhealthy, encourages self-loathing when you inevitably don't enjoy it, and leaves you incredibly vulnerable to abuse.

we're going to hear those words being thrown around a lot over the next few years. more than we already do, which is not an insubstantial amount. i want you to remember that you are not monsters, or fascists, or scum.

as more and more people throw around diagnoses they do not care to understand and words that they do not see as harmful, i want you all to remember that you are not alone and that the entire world is not against you.

there are people out there who care and understand and are not afraid. you are not alone, and you are not unloved.

dont let them make you fearful of yourself, you deserve so much better than that.

Let’s be real: having ASPD doesn’t force you to be cruel for no reason.

​If you have ASPD and you’re a complete asshole, then you’re just an asshole.

The disorder might explain why you don't feel guilt or why you’re impulsive, but it doesn't hold a gun to your head and make you go out of your way to ruin someone’s day.

Conscience and conduct are two different things. Plenty of people with this diagnosis manage to exist without being toxic, if you can't, that’s a personality flaw, not a symptom.

I’m just tired of seeing people use their lack of empathy as a justification for being a bottom-tier human being.

I know it’s hard sometime. I deal with the same impulses, the same problems. But having those urges isn’t the same as acting on them. Not feeling empathy doesn’t remove the ability to recognize harm and choose not to cause it especially when its just free and without reasons.

Cognitive empathy exists for a reason, you can understand that an action is shitty without needing to feel the other person's pain.

If you choose to be a jerk because you think your diagnosis justifies it, you’re just proving everyone’s worst stereotypes right.

Lack of empathy isn’t a free pass. If you understand something is harmful and do it anyway, that’s a choice. You can have zero feelings and still have enough logic to not be a nightmare to everyone around you.