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You know how at 3 AM you get random bursts of creativity? Itās now 5 AM and Iāve written a song. This was not planned.
Inspired by Ignite to the Call by @cannibalisticapple. Probably contains minor spoilers for it? Itās one big extended metaphor, but I wasnāt trying for⦠subtleā¦
Lyrics under the cut.
Horizon in the distance, not a ship in sightĀ
But I keep on shining through the empty night
Gotta keep my fire burning, gotta keep the hope aliveĀ
āCause I know thereās someone out there trying to survive
Ā
And the beacon shines far over the sea
Just waiting for the day itāll guide you back to me
And I donāt know if you can see me, I donāt know if youāre still there
But I know if I stop burning your only guide will lead nowhere
Ā
I saw you off from our home port āround six months agoĀ
Thought it'd be a weekās round trip till we felt those stormwinds blow
When August hit the three month mark the searchers all came in
Said even if you washed up now youād never sail again
Ā
But my beacon still shines over the sea
And I know that thereāll come a day itāll guide you back to me
I donāt know if you can see me, I donāt know if youāre still there
But I know if I stop burning your only guide will lead nowhere
Ā
Iāve used up all our savings, firewoodās getting low
Iāve started feeding furniture to that ember glow
If aid and tower run bare Iāll climb into the pyre
And if it helps to save your life Iāll glory in the fire
And my beacon will shine brighter than ever beforeĀ
And maybe thatāll be the day itāll guide you back to shore
I donāt know if you can see me, I donāt know if youāre still there
But I know if I stop burning your only guide will lead nowhere
Ā
And my voice spreads farther over land and seaĀ
Still hoping for the day that itāll guide you back to meĀ
I donāt know if you can hear me, I donāt know if youāre still thereĀ
But I know if I stop singing, your only guide will lead nowhere
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You should take some time to read @3liza's post documenting the Phantom Report Bug (which she deserves praise for doing, thank you eliza) and see how fucking broken Tumblr's report tool is.
I also want to reiterate something she is once again correct about: no one files bug reports. I have first hand experience working at Tumblr and I remember having to tell web devs on Staff "i saw a post about someone talking about a bug" and they were unaware because no one followed through to file a bug. I have fixed bugs that I saw people posting about that were in my domain (I'm a mobile dev) but were not in the system.
No this is not an endorsement of "complain about it enough and eventually someone will see it", this is an endorsement of "file a bug report directly to computer companies and people will most likely read it and probably fix it". I mean it this is not a Tumblr-only thing. I've seen this at every company I've worked for. Just fucking file a bug report please I beg you, software gets complicated and the devs are just unaware that there's a bug until you bring it to your attention. And they want to fix the bug! I promise!
WHAT AM I ALWAYS SAYING TO YOU PEOPLE. COMPLAINING GETS THE GOODS. YOURE NOT ALLOWED TO GET MAD UNTIL YOUVE COMPLAINED ABOUT THE PROBLEM TO SOMEONE WHOSE JOB IT IS TO FIX IT
And not just computers! It's happened twice now that the walk signal request at the intersection by my bus stop has stopped working, for several days, but been fixed the morning after I left a message with public works about it.
I donāt know if this is an obvious take or a hot take, but I think people need to start re-framing feminism as the fight for body autonomy as opposed to whatever this second wave revival gender essentialist bullshit we have going on right now. Once you reframe it in this way, itās easier to understand intersectionality and why cis women are not the only people who need feminism. The lack of body autonomy effects cis women, trans people, intersex people, disabled people, poc, homeless people, sex workers, etc. and your feminism needs to include and prioritise all of these groups of people (which will include men btw) because feminism is about autonomy, not about establishing a matriarchy. Body autonomy is the biggest threat to the patriarchy, both with reproductive rights, LGBTQ+ rights, and even the right to not be drafted into military services. Once body autonomy is established for everyone, the patriarchy no longer has a leg to stand on.
And body autonomy does include things that you donāt personally like either. I was prompted to write this post after a series of bad takes from progressives, but one of them was re-hashing the Sabrina Carpenter album cover drama with āI donāt think itās conservative of me to think that the album cover is a bad look when weāve seen images of women being abused in this wayā because I do actually think youāve failed to understand feminism by projecting your morals onto a woman who was consensually expressing her own autonomy just because she expressed it in a way that you didnāt like or that made you uncomfortable.
Body autonomy also means unhealthy choices. Body autonomy also means regret rates. Body autonomy also means freedom of sexuality. Body autonomy also means mutilation. If you believe body autonomy has limitations and exceptions, then your feminism is most likely surface level.
TERFs are some of the biggest opponents to body autonomy, and if you find yourself thinking āoh people can do whatever they want with their bodies as long as it doesnāt harm them or make others uncomfortableā then you are far more susceptible to TERF propaganda than you think.
Criminal law is so bonkers disconnected from the reality of everyday life that things are crimes that people just Do.
Have you ever had on your person a prescription drug for someone else? Held for them, brought to them, picked up for them? If it was on the controlled substance list, you opened yourself up to a felony.
Ever pulled your siblingās hair? Gave them a nougie? Hit them, tripped them, grabbed something out of their hands? You could have been charged with domestic battery.
Did you play with fire as a kid? Most people do, at least a little. Hope it wasnāt in a place with grass, because burning grasses is a felony here.
Your parents leave you in the car while they went into the store? Felony child neglect, these days.
Ever had a pet die from something that made them lose a lot of weight? I had a client convicted of felony animal abuse resulting in death even though the only veterinarian witness testified he didnāt know what caused the animalās death and did not do a necropsy.
Ever thrown something at a car? Empty soda bottle, snowball, water balloon? Felony missile at occupied vehicle.
People can be convicted of brandishing a firearm for having it in a holster. For concealed carry of a firearm if itās on the other side of their body from an officer observing (and therefore āhiddenā). Got a knife in your pocket or a brass knuckle keyring self defense device? Thatās a concealed weapon.
Did you know that child protective services safety plans are sometimes taken out as protective orders? My client didnāt, when she went to try to buy a firearm to defend herself against an abusive ex. She was under a CPS protective order to not have the ex around her children. Charged with felony fraud in firearm affidavit: attempting to buy a gun while under a protective order.
Had a kid convicted of arson for burning some variant of nerf darts in his room and not even trying to set anything else on fire.
I have seen convictions and charges for everything on this list.
And always remember, almost half (45%) of people are in prison for probation or parole violations, huge swathes of that number for doing things that would be legal and fine for you and me but are not fine because theyāre on probation.
This is why overpolicing matters: because normal shit gets regularly criminalized for certain populations.
Forgot a big one! Have you ever shared painkillers or anti-anxiety meds or other controlled substances (obtained with a prescription) with other family members?
That is in fact drug dealing. The defense to it is āaccommodationā ā as in, I was accommodating someone, not dealing for profit ā and accommodation, uh, slightly reduces how bad of a felony it is and does nothing else.
The person who is accommodated also has committed felony possession of controlled substance.
This is why people with Adderall prescriptions only use the original pill bottle. Because they could get charged with a felony at any point if they donāt, just because an officer thinks itās not theirs.
I work with kids who are on probation and a big one for then is about 'affiliating with known gang members.' Which is difficult to manage when you've been placed in a school for expelled students - many of whom are on probation for gang-related charges. Or...hey...not sure how a kid can avoid associating with gang members when their neighbors and uncles and siblings and parents whom they live with are also gang members. What precisely is a teen supposed to do when their mom is the one driving them around town at night to do shit?
I had a student get arrested and incarcerated for months because his probation officer found a bag of thc candy in his room. We're in California; he shares a room with an older brother. Everyone in that house uses marijuana. And now this kid is shouldering all the blame and guilt for that.
I had a student get arrested for talking back and being 'disrespectful' to his probation officer. An angry, traumatized teenager shouted at his P.O. and the result was him getting hauled away from school in cuffs.
Two students at my school got into a mutual fight - no one was injured. One was on probation and one wasn't. The one not on probation was suspended for a couple of days, and when he returned he's enrolled in our anger managment group. The one on probation was hauled away in cuffs and now he will spend Thanksgiving and possibly Christmas in juvenile hall.
I dont know what I'm concluding with all this except, yeah...so many people get labeled as 'criminals' as kids and it is damn near impossible to shake off that label once it's been assigned. The system we have is horrifyingly unjust.
Hi! Are you cis in the UK and you'd like to support trans rights? Great!
How: buy a trans flag pin and wear it in public.
Why: chaff is an overwhelming amount of false positives so that when a missile gets close to the plane, it hits the chaff and not the plane.
In practice: the goal is to make it DIFFICULT to identify trans people to target with bathroom bans, and to create many FALSE POSITIVES for businesses.
Basically, you might get accused of being trans and kicked out, because of the badge. You say: I wear the badge because trans rights matter.
You follow up with a letter to the business saying you're fucking furious because some nosy dipshit just tried to play fucking genital police with you in the loos. You know lots of trans people (don't name any, if you do) and you wear the pin in support and you're disgusted at them for allowing this.
Blame the business for allowing the behaviour.
Businesses see that their cis customers are getting bothered over a badge and may clarify trans-inclusive policies, so they can kick out the bathroom botherers instead of nice cis allies.
You only need to buy and wear the badge, and you are protecting trans people. You can be genuinely heroic. Even one cis person doing this helps, and everyone you get to join in helps even more.
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the thing about representation (I'm thinking about ace identities but it applies broadly) is that. okay. a lot of what people talk about these days is wish fulfillment: the character who can simply exist without their identity causing them any hardships. sometimes this is because they live in a setting without the relevant axis of oppression, sometimes it's because of lucky circumstances, sometimes it's just an authorial choice. this feels the safest, in a lot of ways. it's comforting and can be very fulfilling: what if this character was like me, but they didn't get hurt for it?
but wish fulfillment is not catharsis. when you are someone whose identity *has* caused them pain, there is a value to escapism but there is also a value to reflection, to stories that show characters who have been hurt learning to be happy despite that. (and, yes, there's even value in stories where people don't get to be happy; they just don't tend to be something that I can personally read)
for me, a story that grapples with the complex realities of being marginalized but achieves catharsis can be a lot more powerful than a story where those realities don't exist. the problem is that the range of human experience is vast, and so a story that will be blisteringly cathartic for one reader could just be triggering to another. the solution isn't to say that only wish fulfillment narratives are allowed, it's to acknowledge that many different people will need many different stories.
You gotta be able to take an L if your moral and ethical belief systems are to be capable of guiding you. Otherwise you just have an idealized self where you get really mad and scared when anyone points out it isn't actually you. How the fuck are you gonna walk the walk if you can't handle being told when you are not, in fact, actually walking it
you cannot just socially transition into being a good person you are going to have to settle for being a messy human being who has to try and fail and keep trying to get better like everyone else. yeah even when it's embarassing and sucks for you a lot.
You're a doctor. You've been taught the phrase "first, do no harm."
A patient comes in with a flesh eating bacteria that is rapidly spreading up their leg. The only way to save their life is to remove their leg.
So what do you do? To help the patient is to accept that you must also harm them.
You're a good doctor. Of course you remove the leg and save the patient's life, because trying to exercise a choice that will result in no harm is impossible where there are only two bad outcomes, but one is unquestionably worse.
This post is for for leftists in the US who still think either not voting or going with a protest vote in the next two major election cycles is an acceptable choice, when you know full well the Republican will cause more harm.
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Every time I see some joke about Star Trek-style teleporter technology I'm like "I should write a story about the potential of this technology re: the whole 'killing and copying people' thing and the ramifications of being able to essentially print people" and then I remember I already wrote it. Every single time.
#my grandpa liked your story#he says you have a marvelous imagination and developed a very unique story#and said the ending was poignant#I agree with him#great story
You guys heard it here first, mysterious-corpse's grandpa liked my story.
The Mamdani cult of personality is fascinating because 80% of his achievements thus far have been things that were either already in motion by the time he was elected (the rideshare lawsuits) or done in collaboration with the Democratic state government (balancing the city budget) but any post about it acts like Sexy Internet Campaign Man did it all by himself with One Weird Trick and the Corporate Neoliberals Hate Him meanwhile it wouldnāt be possible if he didnāt have support from other Democrats, who it turns out actually are in alignment with him and not the villains that his base thinks he is.
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As we barrel into another Pride Month, we will inevitably all see the stupidest, coldest, most reductive, exclusionary, assimilationist nonsense discourse simmer to the surface of social media again like scum foaming up on a long simmering soup.
And when that happens, whether it's garbage takes about trans people, or ace people, or nonbinary people, or neopronouns, or he/him lesbians, or bi women with boyfriends, or furries, or *what the fuck ever*- remember-
You do not need to quibble over the details. You do not need verbally spar on every hill that dipshits want to die on.
Just stop and ask- hey, does this fucking matter?
Does it matter if some queer people do _____? Does it cause any actual, measurable, material harm? Is this *actually* a problem? Be specific. Beyond just 'it makes me uncomfortable' and 'but that doesn't make sense' - does it actually *matter*?
Because if the answer is no, then who the fuck cares?
I don't care if something is confusing, or illogical, or weird, or makes you uncomfortable. Does it actually harm anyone? No? Then mind your fucking business.
Its not your responsibility to Lincoln-Douglass debate every overzealous puritan and under-informed tween on the complex nuance and inherent political context of the queer experience. Focus on what matters . Ask them what, if any, harm does ____ actually do, and THAT is all you need to address. (Oh you wanna defend ___ spaces? Which spaces specifically? What are you worried about happening? Oh is ____ normalizing ____? Does it? Does that...matter?)
Because even if other people dont like it, Queer People will continue to be weird, messy, confusing, contradictory, illogical, and strange as we all do our fucking best to be ourselves as best we can be. The way we survive and grow and thrive is by giving each other the grace and space to do so, whether or not we deeply, logically resonate with whatever others have going on.
And we don't talk shit about each other. We don't take pot shots at the queers who are queerer than we are. Throwing other queer people under the bus has never made things better.
So. Circle the wagons, close the ranks, and get comfortable rubbing elbows with people who are, you know, freaks and weirdos.
the podcast iām listening to just said āif no one else says it to you this month, let me be the one to say it: happy prideā and that really hit me so uh
if you have no one to say it to you, or if youāre in a situation where itās not safe for you to say it to anyone else: happy pride š³ļøāšā¤ļø
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