NARCISSISTIC VAMPIRE

Me: My pills make me not want to die tho

They: You shouldn’t want to die, that’s not normal

A guide to dealing with these wild creatures in a safe and responsible manner

Feed them cupcakes and admiration to build trust. All creatures do better around those who provide them with sustenance. Do this from a distance at first as to not spook them.

Only carry a narcissist with permission, and do so bridal style. Do not scruff or attempt to pick a narcissist up by the limbs. This will injure your narcissist and cause them to feel threatened.

Wrap your narcissist in validation and a nice warm blanket so they feel safe from predators. This makes the narcissist docile. They are less likely to feel attacked this way.

Make your narcissist hot chocolate and let them tell you stories about themselves. This is the narcissist’s main source of enrichment, and they love it when others engage supportively in their play time.

Narcissists are creatures with low self-esteem. They are prone to anxiety and depression as a result. In order to build your narcissist’s self-esteem, make sure you compliment them daily. Each narcissist will have a unique set of insecurities and things they are proud of. Be sure to get to know your narcissist and what forms of comfort they prefer.

As I said before, narcissists are anxiety prone creatures. They have a tendency to overthink and be perfectionistic in nature. To combat this, give them a little forehead kiss and start discussing all the great things you love about them in detail. This will trigger an instinctual response that will cause them to gain more confidence in themselves.

a flag with 11 stripes, colored magenta, purple, dark purple, black, dark red, red, dark red, black, dark purple, purple, magenta

my take on an aspd flag for a headmate! there's nothing wrong with the current aspd flag, but i wanted to make my own for fun!

the stripes don't have meanings, it's just colors that look nice together

“Are you comfortable with me ranting about my day for a few minutes?”

“Oh, this is your poetry? Would it be okay if I read it?”

“Do you mind if I use your phone for a few minutes?”

“Wow, your meal looks awesome. Could I try some?”

It will save a lot of grief, especially in a developing relationship. Eventually, with consistent “yes’s” and “no’s” you can figure out more permanent boundaries and guidelines.

A gender related to having NPD and being a freak, it is a freakgender.

This gender is exclusive to folks with NPD

Freak in this instance is not used in a demeaning/negative way, it is simply to reclaim the term in use.

If reblogged please add a trigger warning for the freak slur to the tags, thank you 💚

Coined by me, request by also me

Flag colors based on this NPD flag

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When I was a kid, I broke a ceramic soap dispenser. I burst into tears and was terrified that I was going to be in trouble. My mom told me that it was okay, because accidents happen sometimes, and the important thing was that I didn't do it on purpose and apologized.

When someone else I know was a kid, they broke a dish on accident and got screamed at and guilt tripped. To this day, they have to push down a panic attack at the sound of broken glass, and have had to actively work on healing from that trauma. They will always have to carry that.

I think maybe it's not MY mom who fucked up in the "how to discipline your child" department. Quite frankly, I think the idea of "disciplining children" is fucked up and deeply harmful on a fundamental level.

When a kid does something wrong, you have to teach them how to fix it and do better. Humans are messy and complicated and we don't know everything there is to know just by being born. Children are learning how to be human beings, and that's a really hard thing to learn.

Kids question and fight back against authority that mistreats them, but someone treating them like a human being with human emotions is usually going to have a lot of success. Kids just want to be respected, and it's our job as adults to give them that basic human dignity. The world is utterly terrifying, and made scarier when all the grown-ups seem to hate you and wish you would just shut up and go away, even the ones that claim they want you around.

Kids can be mean, because they're still learning how to socialize and communicate and collaborate. Sometimes you have to give them time to cool off, and sometimes you have to redirect them. Sometimes you have to be firm. Sometimes you have to be an adult, and hone your conflict de-escalation and resolution skills. None of that requires punishment.

Resources

Giving you food and clothing is the bare minimum

You don’t owe gratitude for food and clothes you needed as a child

You had the right for basic resources

Parents shaming you for costing money is ironic and stupid

What it means when they say ‘This is MY house’

My house = my rules is blackmail

Children don’t owe absolute obedience for being fed and sheltered

Physical abuse

You are allowed to refuse any touch, not only violence

If they ‘don’t know they’re hurting you’, why do they ignore or punish you when you protest?

Hitting children is irrational and doesn’t work

You cannot ‘provoke’ your parents to abuse you if they’re not abusive

Why do parents hit, manipulate and traumatize children

Blatant Lies

Care, nurture and affection do not make you weak

They’re lying when they say it ‘wasn’t that bad’‘

You wouldn’t have grown up spoiled if not for abuse

You got too affected by it’ is a lie

Your parents are not ‘just too emotionally immature’ to understand abuse

‘You’re not living in the real world!’ is nonsense

You’re not worthless, a burden, ungrateful, or stupid, and your parents know that.

Constant undermining of your accomplishments is abuse

Not being allowed to talk about the past is symptom of abuse

Parents who want you to be happy vs look happy

You are not abusive for resisting abuse

When they claim ‘they didn’t mean it’, it’s still abuse

Your parents are responsible for their own actions regardless of how badly they try to shift blame on you

Psychological abuse

Blind Obedience is not required in a healthy upbringing

Disgust is a weapon abusive parents use on their kids

If they say they love you, but walk all over your feelings, they don’t 

Parents don’t have the right to enter your room to scream at you

Parents insisting for you to be ‘tough’ are doing it to hide the trauma

Even if a kid acts like ‘they can take it’, it’s still abuse

Pretending abuse is discipline will leave children permanently scarred

It’s inhumane to control and shame children’s reactions to abuse

Why don’t you already know this? vs Teaching you necessary skills

Acting like they’ll change is escape sabotage

Parents are responsible for protecting children from harm

References to how healthy parenting looks like

Not being allowed to be angry with your parents is psychological abuse

If parents want you to act the way you did when you were little, they’re dangerous

Threats about how hard your life will be later on, are bad for you

Lack of continuity and ever-changing rules will cause anxiety

Forced obedience will lead you to abusive relationships

Parents acting like you’re a ‘bad child’ is a shame tactic to control you

There’s healthy and abusive ways to give children chores

Revisioning the past and insisting you remember it wrong is gaslighting

If your parents make you suicidal, they’re abusive

Parents threatening ‘they could be worse’ is abuse

Always assuming the worst intentions for your actions is wrong

Keeping children hostage in abuse is torture