Being homu is suffering

It can be very effective, and it can be really hard to learn to second-guess it, especially if you come from an environment where you couldn't check or trust people to be honest with you. But you have to learn to second-guess that instinct -- because it's not empathy, it's projection. You don't "know" what someone's feeling, you're assuming, based on an assumption that's kept you safe in the past.

You're not gonna hit false positives on assumptions that someone is happy with you when they're actually ticked off. You're going to hit LOTS of false positives on assumptions that someone is annoyed with you when they actually actively like you or are simply indifferent.

We, the viewer, get to see what Hazelnut got to see! Yay!

they held your hair back. they lent you lipstick. they held your hand at the train station and got you home safe. they rounded on your bully, got loud, said get fucked, spitting-mad in your defense.

they also cut the hair off again. told you that you should really think twice before wearing something like that. took you for granted. took your insecurities and threw them in your face again.

you know logically it should be easy. all the internet advice comments always read it will feel better. like an equation - if a person is rotten, you just remove them. you pull the tooth that's hurting.

but it was never a big flare-up moment. you don't live in a sitcom. they never tried to take your boyfriend or steal from your apartment. they showed up to birthdays and they wrote songs about you and bring you water without you asking. once you found out they carry an emergency inhaler for you, even though you haven't had an asthma attack in years - just in case.

where is the line? people fuck up. sometimes they fuck up badly. sometimes people have raw personalities, like a powerline, and being around them is dangerous. addicting. sometimes they can't help themselves, but you know they're trying. sometimes they are just rough-around-the-edges. sometimes they don't even realize how they sounded when they said that. sometimes it's just - you've both loved each other for so long now, the way this thing hurts goes back to the root.

and that's the fucked up part. you have pushed your fingers against the sweetheart of memory. things these days are electric, tense, harrowing. they didn't used to be. there were a lot of good days in there. sometimes you want to just close your eyes and say can this be over yet? do we still need to be fighting?

doing that would give up any chance you get of getting an apology, but you don't always know that you need an apology, you love them. once they flaked on your birthday party. once they told you to get over it, people are always dying. they also let you crash on their couch for a week after the breakup, handfeeding you when you were so sad you couldn't eat. they are judgmental about everything, occasionally react to banal statements with an attitude that is weird and fiery. they also love you like a lighthouse sometimes, so strong they cut the storm like lightning.

but the problem is that you might be storm. you might be the thing that needs breaking. what if you are two forces who are desperately, horribly drawn to each other, shaped by the other person's passions, and good for each other and bad in equal measure.

what if you're both just people, and you're no saint neither.

just cut them off! swallowing the saltwater, you catch yourself in the mirror. you've been shaking more than usual. there's an ache in you that is oblique, loud, impossible to soothe. is this what it looks like? when life is "easier"?

have a hole, is the thing, if

you remove the tooth.

Literally no one who follows me is going to know what this means, but HBomberguy, a Youtuber known for Video Essays about pop culture and gaming made a promise that he would live stream himself playing Donkey Kong 64, in its entirety (including picking up every single banana) and all money would go to a UK charity for trans youth (Mermaids) and his initial goal was $3,000 and now it’s been 26 hours into the stream and he’s already over $51k. I just need people to know about this https://m.twitch.tv/hbomberguy

so the national lottery here in the uk donates a bit of their money to a few designated charities, so basically every time you buy a lottery ticket some of that £2 or £3 goes towards charity. mermaids just so happens to be one of those charities and of course, a lot of people are not happy about that. more on that later

for those who don’t know already mermaids are a brilliant bunch. it was founded by a woman with a trans daughter (she made a ted talk about it here) and it helps trans kids who are looking to transition, trans kids who have unsupportive parents or may have even been kicked out, and has resources for the parents of trans kids and places like schools on how they can support a trans student/worker

enter graham linehan. he wrote a few shows like father ted and the it crowd. he’s also notorious for being incredibly transphobic and never shutting up about his hatred for trans people on his twitter.

so, what did he do? well, with his army of mumsnet dwellers, he got them all to spam the lottery with about a fuckton of emails telling them to stop funding Mermaids. not because they want them to think of the children, but rather they want them to stop thinking about the children. and in all their can-i-speak-to-the-manager-hair glory, they got the lottery to reconsider their grant.

mr hbomberguy (you may know him as the man behind hits such as Sherlock Is Garbage (and here’s why), and Fallout 3 Is Garbage (and here’s why)) sees this, thinks “graham what the everliving fuck” and also thinks “oh yeah i never finished donkey kong 64” which is where we are now.

so his goal is to 101% donkey kong 64. which, to my knowledge, takes around 33-36 hours to do. at the time of writing this he has had one sleep break and has just started another

may i also note the 10k goal was to erase graham linehan from existence

in short, fuck graham linehan

The first recognized victim of child abuse was a girl named Mary Ellen Wilson. In 1874.

There was very little protection for minors before then. Children were considered the property of their parents and barely anyone intervened when they were mistreated.

Mary Ellen was rescued from unfit parents only after the American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals (ASPCA) stepped in on her behalf. ASPCA advocates pointed out that if Mary Ellen were a horse or a dog, her mistreatment would be prohibited by statute. 

A judge agreed that the young girl deserved at least the same protection as an animal.

It is morbid enough that animals were legally more protected than children and that this very comparison was used to extend legal rights to children.

Most shows I’ve seen that mention fan fiction readers/writers portray them as kinda oddball super-geeks with no lives or social skills.

So I wanna take a moment to appreciate the fact that in Parks & Recreation, the character who writes fan fiction is the intelligent, successful, and good-looking primary love interest of the main character.

Here we have Terry from Brooklyn Nine Nine. He’s an Absolute Unit, father, police officer, black, intelligent, kind, a main character……and writes fanfiction from The Good Wife.

B99 - breaking stereotypes all over the place.

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