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hiya anon :)

yes, individual needs are going to vary greatly among partners in relationships and D/s dynamics, but i would definitely agree that there are some very common needs of a submissive, which i see as:

structure

accountability

a calming/focus of their mind

to be guided/led

praise

underneath those, there are going to be a hundred different ways for these things to manifest and flourish, it all depends on the person they are, how the relationship has been negotiated, and what any goals are to be met. a good Dominant will want their submissive to thrive and do all they can to help them achieve that. (and please note that i did not say “will do all they can to *provide* that” because it’s a very important distinction. i do not believe that healthy dominance is “saving” or “doing for” or repeatedly “picking up their partner from the floor”. that’s co-dependence, not D/s, and that becomes a serious concern to both parties if those kinds of things become a pattern, not to mention a potentially dangerous hinderance to the submissive.) 

i realize that relationship dynamics in bdsm vary *immensely*, but i also believe that a certain strength has to exist in a submissive to be able to even consider entering into a power exchange relationship. and i promise you that i say every bit of that after hard lessons learned. 

but going back to the five bullet-pointed things i included above, underneath those is where the needs specific to the submissive and are going to be, and those are discovered and discussed within their individual relationship dynamic. perhaps the best way to articulate that with a personal example is that although @belovedsangi and I are submissives who belong to @lovemysub, she and i are also different kinds of submissives in many ways. does that make sense?

finally, i realize as i’m finishing answering this that i didn’t include one thing related to sex in this (or sex toys, or denial games, or masochism, or anything remotely about play, as some examples, not all of which every sub in the world is going to be about), and there’s a reason for that.

in D/s, sex is merely the window dressing. and it can be goddamn beautiful and exciting and messy and depraved and sometimes sweet and gentle and soft, and depending on what your relationship is, it can be an amazingly integral, connecting part of it. god fucking knows it’s all of those things for me. and some D/s relationships don’t incorporate sex at all.

but sex? it’s just the bells and whistles of this, not the foundation.

i hope some of this was helpful and answered your question. :)

cheers,

Thank you, @danipup , for taking the time to answer this so thoroughly. I am, as always, immensely proud to call you “mine” ❤️

You don’t know what your sexuality is

You don’t want to put a label to it

You haven’t come out to anyone/you aren’t able to come out safely

If you’re in a m/f relationship with someone of the opposite sex

There’s no sexual attraction or romantic attraction to anyone

You exist.

and first off, I’m 5'7, 5'11 in dance shoes, 170 pounds, broad shoulders and big hips and not small in any dimension. For a ballroom dancer, this means a lot of time spent learning the men’s parts. Especially in lifts.

I’ve had years now of guys kinda just going “lol heck naw” when told to lift me. I don’t admit this part much, but it makes me want to sink into the ground and die when every other girl can be lifted, but I’m just too big.

So this guy, smaller than me and really cute, shows up at auditions and I see this girl across the room getting tossed about like the beautiful pixie she is, and apparently I looked a little wistful because this boy asked me if I liked lifts.

“Oh. I… Uh… I’ve never really done the girls part. I’m a little big, haha…” (laugh it off, as usual.)

He looked me dead in the eye and then picked me up like a movie princess, bounced me in the air a few times, and set me down effortlessly while telling me whoever refused to lift me before was just being a lazy wimp.

Followers:

Many of you have been following along with this amazing thing that has been happening over the past couple of months between @danipup, @belovedsangi and myself.

We have fallen madly in love, and have recognized that is the “forever” kind of love between the three of us. Many of you have been watching as our relationship began and grew. Hundreds of you have written in to express your love and support for it and it has been beautiful to see.

As most of you know, @danipup lives quite a way away from @belovedsangi and me. The time has come to change that.

Visits are great and all, but being away from one another most of the time has been very hard on all of us, Dani especially.

We need your help to get Dani here, with her Forever People, for good.

We have started a fundraiser to help make this happen. The funds will be used to help Dani break her lease and for moving expenses. If even a small portion of our followers donated 5$, the fundraiser would hit its goal today.

I tested it myself- it takes 30 to 60 seconds to donate. Donations can be made anonymously (just click the “hide my name” button) if you prefer, but if you want, you can also put your blog name. Anyone who donates with their blog name will get a very public “thank you” and a blog promo from 3 well-followed blogs.

Even if you can’t donate, please consider taking a second to reblog this to help get the word out. Getting more eyes on this will help us reach our goal, and I will personally make sure I follow every single person who reblogs this if I don’t already. I always want to follow people who operate with love and positivity.

Good luck to you all. 🤗🤩

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