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FAQ: What happens if you drop a stitch all the way down to the cast on edge? 🧶🧶🧶

Insert a crochet hook behind the lowest strand, turn it to create a loop (i.e. “make one right”), then knit up the ladder.

This works with the long-tail cast on. In garter stitch, you should do this from the side where you have a line of single strands at the bottom rather than a purl ridge.

To pick up a stitch in garter stitch, either you turn your work around every row and pick up a knit stitch on each side or check out my relevant video.

One of the most valuable skills a knitter can develop is learning to read their stitches. Once you understand how they're constructed, fixing any issues becomes much more intuitive.

And then all the other Sesame Street character accounts joined in:

And now I’m thinking maybe we’re gonna be okay… 💗

"So, boss... I may have messed up."

"What did you do, Ray?"

"Well, I made a post for Elmo saying 'Hi, how's everybody doing?'"

"I mean, that's kind of what we pay you for."

"Yeah, but.... <sigh> it turns out pretty much everyone is hanging on by a thread, badly enough that they needed to tell Elmo."

"Oh."

"God help me, boss, I think Elmo needs to be there for them."

In this world where women are already subjected to the sexual whims of their male partners and their own desires are often ignored or belittled, I very decidedly don’t wish to read about that exact same thing happening to the FMC. Now, if the FMC is living her best life whilst being subjected to these tropes and shadow-daddy MMCs, then good for her!

I just really wish that the FMC’s pleasure and desires would be centered, rather than just assumed to be submissive and then executed as such without first asking.

But for things happening between the characters, if the FMC is scared-AND-horny or whatever, that's what the fantasy is supposed to be and you as the reader are expected to do some basic suspension of disbelief in order to engage with the idea that (just like in a kink scene!) this is not real, this is just for pretend, everyone is safe and no one is actually getting hurt. On account if it is fiction.

Now, if you're not into that, that's perfectly fine, I am not saying you have to be into reading things that you don't like. If you want to see some kink negotiation, that's cool. Sometimes, there are books that are about diagetic kink, and they do include those negotiation scenes. But for non-diagetic kink (aka the thing you're "taking issue" with), I don't think that it's fair to say that it's wrong for those books to be written that way. A woman's desires ARE being centered -- either the author's own desires or what the author is envisioning the reader will desire. If you're not into it--again, that's perfectly fine, it's just not the right book for you or the right genre for you. Read something else.

You missed the point of the first post, @atinymekanie, so let's read it together again:

women, especially straight women, have so few outlets for their sexual desires, especially if they have a partner who doesn't share them, and i will never understand why "someone ELSE'S private sexual fantasy makes me uncomfortable and therefore they should not be allowed to engage with it, even if i am in no way being affected by it or even aware of it at all" is such a popular party line among allegedly progressive young people.

Lovers 1909

Like, I think of something that needs to be done or I want to do, and I can do it right then and there or make plans to do that thing in the future. I am very aware this does not work for all brains. I'm just letting you know that knowing that I am in control of my own actions/permissions is extremely useful information for me.

I posted this because I thought (for the 10,000th time in 20 years) about getting a tattoo and then was like, well then go get one?

So I did