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privilege usually does a specific thing: makes you more ignorant on the axis you're privileged in. you're unaware of the stuggle of the disprivileged group of the same axis, and since this bigotry is something we absorb since early childhood from everywhere and every space and media: you are more likely to also be bigoted about it, it's not a literal guarantee but since your life doesn't depend on it and you won't get aoe blown up by association for standing for, yu're more likely to stand against.

sometimes even when you stand for those who are disprivileged, you can accidentally make a bigoted joke or say something bigoted. this might NOT be a BIG deal for you because it's not something that affects you, not because you're evil, it's not having full understanding of how deeply ingrained it is.

sometimes when you're told what you did was bigoted, you default to thinking you're being accused of being evil. you are not evil, you are privileged.

sometimes when you're told you have relative privilege, you default to thinking you're accused of not being oppressed at ALL. that is unso. being white doesn't absolve you being a lesbian, for example, but a white lesbian can be really violently racist, there's examples!

sometime when you're told you have relative privilege, you think you're being told you have your life good. it's not that. your life might suck because of something you're oppressed for. it just as a rule doesn't suck even MORE because of some privileges you have.

(also no, you can't compare white transfems to transmascs of color, it doesn't work like that, you would compare transfems of color with transmascs of color, etc.)

"um people have definitely mentioned that out loud before lol you are young and therefore stupid and entitled and though i'm not saying it i'm also implying that you (trans woman) are being overly sensitive and nitpicking and nobody cares lmao"

I won't make a post like that because I am capable of recognizing that gender/assigned gender is completely unrelated to someone's ability or tendency to commit assault on others.

Noelle: I feel so stuck in place and unable to deviate from the role I've been assigned that I'm willing to literally kill myself just to prove I can change something about my life

Susie: Even if it's scary, I have to learn to make friends and be myself, and to hope for a better future!

We’re trying to decide which of these is a better option:

or

ummm idk how to get started hi you can call me uhmmm idk i dont wanna use my real name on here for safety reasons🐁🐁🐁 WHAT DO I CALL MYSELF ON HERE

uhm im latino hispanic and uhmmm probably nonbinary im not sure but lets say im a boy

My first conversation about PCOS with my new endocrine/OBGYN was about weight management and how that could improve my fertility when I eventually wanted kids. It wasn't asked what my goals were for my health or if I wanted kids, just assumed.

I was a hormonal, depressed mess. I hated my body. My body dysmorphia was so bad that I cloistered myself away from so much. I wore hoodies and jeans in the 90°F, 80% humidity summers. This was considered fine. I was given metformin and birth control pills and told this was all that could be done. That PCOS wouldn't affect my life until I wanted to be pregnant. I wasn't asked if I wanted to be pregnant, just assumed.

I don't know how many PCOS groups I joined on my early 20s hoping to find community and commonality for body dysmorphia and symptom management, only to be bombarded with fertility treatments and tips and 'inspirational conception' anecdotes. They never asked if I was attempting to conceive, just assumed.

why would identifying who is primarily vulnerable to transmisogyny oppose trans unity? shouldn't it strengthen our unity, as it allows our trans siblings to better understand the problems we face and ensure they don't participate in weaponizing transmisogyny against us?