Just Me And My Brain

Okay actually all joking aside, imagine it for a moment. If the first time Rose and Shane had sex she asked if she could peg him, they probably both could have actually been spared the terrible sex - not because pegging him would make the sex good, but because they wouldn't have ended up having sex.

The first time, Rose is like I better come clean about how I prefer to fuck guys now or this isn't going to work. So Rose says okay, there's this thing I usually like to do with guys. You might think it's weird. But I really want to try it if you're okay with that. Not tonight, of course we don't have to tonight, but in the future. And then she says she'd like to peg and explains what that means, and Shane is secretly like wow this is great maybe I'll actually enjoy the sex this time maybe this is the problem wow she really is perfect for me but he also knows that this is not something a straight NHL player would immediately be down for, so he acts like he isn't really sure what it is, and then is like I don't know are you sure you want this oh well I guess fine I'll do it for you.

But then he says let's wait until we have everything, you know, since that's what Rose wants and Rose is surprised but she's like well okay great.

And then another night, they go to do it, and Shane is just not very good at hiding how familiar he is with the process at all. She asks him if he knows how to use a douche and he has to admit that he douched before she even got there. And she goes hmm. Okay then. And then she goes to grab her own dildo but he's like no I have one I bought uhh after we talked. You can use that one. And she's even more like ok um. You - you know already you prefer that one? Okay... And then he shows it to her and it's fucking flesh tone and veiny and huge.

And she goes okay, I guess my boyfriend just didn't want to admit to me that he's done this before and likes it. Right? That must be it.

But then when he gets on his knees in front of her, it's in a very practiced and routine way, and he defaults to situating his ass in the air much higher up then someone Rose's height could reach and looks surprised for a second before adjusting to be lower.

And no shit he does. Because he’s one of them. He “speaks the language” of authoritarian dictators with no regard for human rights because he’s a mobbed-up authoritarian wannabe dictator with no regard for human rights.

And what you need to understand is that this also goes the other way: they speak his language. They can get him to fold as long as they give him big flashy airplanes, and stroke his ego and pad his wallet enough.

He talks rough, and he’ll bulldoze anyone who gets in the way of what he wants, not because he’s actually strong, but because he’s an infantile spoiled brat who demands his way. This is exactly the same reason he also rolls over and barks like a dog the second he’s promised a treat.

What he wants is not what you want, no matter how much he tries to sell you that line. He is out for himself, the rest of us be damned.

And no shit he does. Because he’s one of them. He “speaks the language” of authoritarian dictators with no regard for human rights because he’s a mobbed-up authoritarian wannabe dictator with no regard for human rights.

And what you need to understand is that this also goes the other way: they speak his language. They can get him to fold as long as they give him big flashy airplanes, and stroke his ego and pad his wallet enough.

He talks rough, and he’ll bulldoze anyone who gets in the way of what he wants, not because he’s actually strong, but because he’s an infantile spoiled brat who demands his way. This is exactly the same reason he also rolls over and barks like a dog the second he’s promised a treat.

What he wants is not what you want, no matter how much he tries to sell you that line. He is out for himself, the rest of us be damned.

it took me asking three more times before she finally told me she wanted me to leave the fans where they are instead of moving them to my room or something. and I said oh! I had no intention of doing so but thank you for letting me know what the expectation is.

i universally could not find any details about the disability services that were written as though they were addressed to a disabled potential student. I reached out to one school via email, very politely, to ask if she could tell me some details about how the program worked. disability services can be structured a lot of different ways and in my experience it's important to know how it will be ahead of time, bc some ways of structuring disability services will not work for some people while others might. No way to know ahead of time until you encounter that specific system yourself

Anyway i got a very rude email back telling me there was information on the website and that they 'work with the student once they're accepted,' with the implication that if i wanted to know how they would accommodate a student like me, i would have to go through the process of applying (fee and all) and being accepted. possibly even of enrolling, it was unclear from her phrasing.

i have not applied to any schools since then. i realized that they're all like this on purpose*. they exist because the school does not want to get sued by the department of justice. they do not exist to help disabled students. they exist so the school has something to point to and loudly claim "NO WE TOTALLY ACCOMMODATE DISABLED STUDENTS"

this clarified a lot for me about the way a LOT of institutions work. and made me feel very naive for not having reaalized it before. it seems so obvious now. the reason my inquiries were always met with offended confusion is because their materials are not for me. their materials are for the purpose of looking convincingly as though they provide disability services. it's for the government. it's not for me.

instead they just say “thats normal” or “oh theres nothing wrong with you”. Because in their mind “it wont kill you and i cant fix it” means its not worth mentioning.

You do not get to profit, financially or attention wise or another way, off of a *potentially* queer jew whilst we are banned from pride events.

We do not know if she was questioning her sexuality but ultimately straight or if she was actually queer because she was killed for the crime of existing as a jew before she could come out. Queer rights obviously matter. Anne Franke is not the person you should be using.

You need to protect alive queer jews. You need to love all jews, not just the dead ones.

"But they banned zionists not jews", they banned jewish organizations, who refused to say they disavowed israel. That's like asking a local Chinese diaspora group to disavow the CCP or they can't be at pride.

The only cases of restrictions against Jewish groups at Pride events occurred at Rome (which was universally decried) and Australia at their Mardi Gras event (which was immediately reversed).

There is no effort to ban Jewish groups from US Pride events.

Montreal Pride (it only counts as banning them if it's in America's pride month, I guess- note how they restricted it to AMERICAN pride events)

London Trans pride

That took 3 minutes on Google to find. Imagine if you had actually fucking cared

And it happened again last year:

Here's an article about how JEWS are feeling about being banned from Pride:

Even banning all zionists is…not good.

These same events arent questioning if every attending member is misogynistic, racist, transphobic, biphobic, intersexist, ableist, classist, a republican and so on.

Pride has not required people to write dissertations on their world views in order to attend.

Instead, the people that are causing issues are run out, and the people who arent actively causing issues are free to participate as long as theyre not causing issues.

This isnt because these problems dont matter-its because its impossible to make sure every single person attending pride is on the same page. So instead, if people arent causing active issues you let them be and carry on.

Treating zionists as uniquely more threatening than misogynists, racists, transphobes etc is antisemitic.

If someone is causing a problem, then yeah they obviously shouldnt be allowed to attend. Im not saying any bigotry should be tolerated or allowed at pride.

But it you arent interrogating everyone attending on all of the issues then selecting one group out to hold to that standard is not about human rights, its just bigotry at that point.

This is an argument I would make about any group. Case and point: I dont fucking like christians. Ive seen “jesus loves gays” at pride more than once. Personally? Not a fan. But! I respect their right to be there so long as they arent causing active issues. I simply avoid them. If you were to be like ban all christians Id still be here being like no, lets not do that. They should get to attend so long as they arent proseltizing or creating problems.

there’s sixteen Colorado counties that their most searched was “wolf furry”, plus thirty-odd counties (not counting either Arapahoe or any of the ones marked here as “Insufficient Data”) which may well have had plenty of searches for “wolf furry”, just fewer than for whatever they’re labeled here

and “skunk furry” searches in Arapahoe County outnumbered “wolf furry” searches in the entire state of Colorado