Haru

Social media has ruined sugaring and sex work. It’s convinced an entire generation of girls that all you need is a cute face and an Instagram account, and suddenly you’re flying private and collecting bags. Meanwhile, the reality is that even if you’re exceptionally attractive, if you don’t have mental game, you’re going to get played and probably traumatized. I won’t even discuss the average looking women who think they can succeed.

This isn’t a fantasy, it’s business and strategy. It’s emotional (and physical) labor. It’s psychology. And some of you are walking in with zero boundaries, no sense of power dynamics, and asking questions that make it obvious you’re not ready, all while thinking someone is just going to hand you a fat stack. A lot of you want the reward without risk.

These men are smart and know how to make you feel like you have the power when you don’t. Women who accept the bare minimum have made bottom of the barrel men believe that they too can have a sugar baby, which is a luxury.

Like yes, absolutely do your research. Those of us who have succeeded had to fail and research in order to figure it out. But at a certain point, the questions need to stop being “how do I bring up money?” and start being “why do I think I’m ready to do this if I can’t even bring up money?”

Sit down and do this right now. This formula can be used by anyone including strippers & sugar babies

A/B=C

A= your yearly minimum salary - (minus) the minimum amount you need in order to live comfortably for the year. This figure should include taxes, all living expenses, and business related overhead. This amount could be larger or smaller than you imagine, depending on how familiar you are with your own finances.

B= the realistic number of billable hours per week you think you will work, multiplied by the number of weeks in a year you think you’ll work (be sure to include vacation time, or time off if you don’t intend to work during your period). Again, this number might surprise you. If you’re starting out, you have no real idea of how popular you will or won’t be. A goal of one billable hour per day (multiplied by how many days you think you want to work) is a reasonable starting point. If you’re going the high end route, total the number of billable hours per week you think you’ll have, whether with one client or more.

C= minimum suggested hourly rate. Even if you know you want multiple hour appointments, the suggested minimum still applies (multiply the number C by the number of hours in your minimum).

The formula in action:

If your goal is to make $70,000 a year (A) / 250 (B= 5 * 50) = $280. This means your minimum per hour needs to be $280.

$100,000 (A) / 260 (B= 5 * 52) = $385 c

$250,000 (A) / 520 (B= 10 * 52) = $481 c

$250,000 (A) / 320 (B= 8 * 40) = $781 c

The number C is to start you thinking. Your rate structure should not be something you pulled out of thin air or what everyone else is doing. If you want to create a certain image with your rates, then adjust accordingly.

Here’s a quick example of a rate structure:

As a full time sugar, I have a lot of things to keep in order.

So, I thought I would share my checklists with you lovely ladies if you 

A) Wanted to know what a full time sugar does 

B) Needed a reference

or 

C) Wanted direction of some kind

So enjoy.

Daily Checklist:

Shower

Leave-in hair conditioner

Lotion

Eyebrows on point

Check websites (SA, WYP, EM, SD4M)

Respond to POTs privately (private email, phone, skype)

Watch news or read up on current events

Workout (I use the 30 Day Challenge workout app for iPhones)

Update calendars (There’s one on my apple account for devices and I keep a whiteboard calendar)

Yoga

Every Other Day Checklist 

Run with Lucky (very fat dog of mine who’s getting in shape with me)

Top coat of nails

Shave/wax

Clear out trash in room and car

Record weight (only to make sure I’m within a healthy 5 lb fluctuation range)

Update POT/SD information (details about them, what they’re offering, how much I’ve gotten from them)

Weekly Checklist

Exfoliate

Tan

Record finances (where my money is going, where it’s coming from, planned expenses)

Check on goal progress

Go out with friends at least once for sanity reasons

Weekly day off for sanity reasons

Actually clean everything that needs to be cleaned

Laundry

Plan for next week

Rock climb

Monthly Checklist

Bills paid

Correct amount of money put into savings, emergency, etc.

Check closet organization

Car check up 

Read at least 2 books (1 for pleasure, 1 for knowledge)

Lunch with sisters 

All POT/SD details updated 

Hopefully this is helpful to other SB’s, feel free to add anything or change it to your personal life if you wanted a template. Most things are general, but some (rock climbing, closet organization, sister lunch, etc) are personal.

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When trying to get your shit together as a stripper, it can feel defeating. Almost as if you feel smaller or less than others. But the important part is doing it anyways.

My makeup is running low and I had a meh night at work. It was quite tiring despite having not done much. Some bitch stepped on my toes for whatever reason.

(any combo)

Morning Skincare (with list)

Night Skincare (with list)

Brush your teeth

Oil pull

Floss

Self massage

10 minute Morning Walk

10 minute yoga session

Green tea / ginger tea / chamomile tea

20 minutes technology free

Journal

Sketch

20 minute tidy session

1 hour productivity block

20 minute study session

15 minute Freerice session

10 minute gardening

10 minute meditation

10 minute workout

1 gallon water

Fruit and veggies plate

Protein shake

Protein smoothie

15 minutes instrument playing

10 minute news browse

1 chapter of a book

1 documentary

Eat veggies with every meal

Eat veggies with every 2 meals

Affirmations

Compliment someone

Swimming session

Write 1 thing to be grateful for