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you don’t need to be thin to be successful in sw

you don’t need to be thin to be successful in sw

you don’t need to be thin to be successful in sw

Long story short, 17 year old me stumbled upon the world of SW and outright decided I wanted to try stripping one day. At 20 I decided to say fuck it and go for it, moved halfway across the U.S. and went to an audition.

I don’t recommend it to anyone, but I also don’t say that they shouldn’t. I love dancing but the industry is fucking BRUTAL. I’ve watched good girls become felons from drug charges and a plethora of other things. It really depends on if you WANT to dance and if you have the skill set. There’s a massive skill set needed to dance, if you don’t have it or learn how to build it you won’t make anything.

Absolutely, In no particular order, if you have these you might want to reconsider:

(People with/who:)

Jealousy issues

Little to no self esteem

Money management problems

Past drug addiction issues

Past alcoholism

Addictive tendencies

Fear of rejection

Little to no stamina

Low pain tolerance

No rhythm

No variety in music taste

No social skills

Little concept of being seductive

No makeup skills

No hair skills

Can’t handle being touched

Don’t like being judged

Have bad hygiene skills

This is a small list of things you may want to consider going in. You have 100% certainty to be judged for your body, skin, teeth, hair, voice etc. You WILL need money management skills (send an ask if you want a list of mistakes and advice). And you absolutely cannot avoid being rejected, laughed at, touched in some cases, bruises, scraped, and in pain.

put simply, I think they’re wrong.

I think many of them are coming from a good place in an attempt to look out for others. some of them may have even been part of the scene themselves and may want to educate others on the dark side of hypergamy to keep them from getting hurt, but they often do so in such a way that demonizes hypergamy as a whole, and holding views like that doesn’t help in the way that they think it does.

both sex work and the act of marrying for status, network, and wealth have been going on for a very, very long time. no amount of fear mongering or swerf ideology is going to change that. there will always be sex workers and there will always be hypergamy. they aren’t going anywhere, and vilifying those practices will only hurt those who turn to it rather than discourage anyone from doing it.

so long as sugar blogs and sw blogs operate on honesty and safety above all else, there is absolutely nothing irresponsible about it. I will always take educating others on the good, the bad, and the ugly of this lifestyle so that they can decide if this path is right for them over some watered down, repackaged purity culture meant to keep people sheltered and in the dark. but that’s just me.

Look I understand that white people have stolen a lot but copying them when it comes to historical revisionism is UNETHICAL.

History should be told truthfully. Cinderella was a white woman, but her prince wasn’t white.

Her name was Rhodopis, and she was a sex worker/slave, a courtesan to a black king who married her.

(Speculation on which pharaoh this was varies, the following photo is lightly inaccurate because Ahmose is from the 18th dynasty)

This “marriage” likely her status upgrade from common heaux to royal courtesan etc, is said to have been instrumental in led to the fall of Egypt, leading to a power exchange from the hands of POC and ushering in the Ptolemaic dynasty filled with white Greeks, Thracians and Macedonians and was the final Egyptian dynasty, which coincidentally is the only dynasty or time period that is typically shown in usually in Hollywood, aka the story of Cleopatra - who was a multiracial or biracial half black/half Greek woman. (They found the bones of her sister Arsinoe and did tests, yes she was biracial etc) Black women don’t need to reclaim this story.

If anything white men erased this story because they were embarrassed by its true orgins and what it said about white women, and their original place in the ancient world’s social heirarchy, in other cultures. They whitened it up. Misogyny + the Madonna/Whore complex made them embarrassed that it wasn’t just war, that helped them conquer & colonize kingdoms. They sold white women into sexual slavery and pimped them out to other races. White women weren’t seen as the bastions of purity and sanctity back then. Black and other races of men used them for sexual gratification etc.

This story is about a white woman who transcended those social barriers and was granted legitimacy. This increased white women and men’s social value and worth. Her elevated status, as a royal consort to the king, meant she could bend, influence and help her people. White women were not seen as marriage material back then, they had the same status in the social hierarchy as black or darker skinned women do today and were considered the lowest on the totem pole.

The Rhodopis/Cinderella story is a story between a white woman and black man. I would like to say it’s a love story but it’s highly likely this is a survival sex work sucess story. This story is does NOT need to be claimed by black women, This is a white woman’s story, that white and black men tried to whiten and black wash because they are both too embarrassed to admit what actually happened.