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A reminder to always keep your tales backed up... Until I cleared my cache and storage on Google Docs, I couldn't open up one of my stories. That could have been lost progress, so please... Don't ever hesitate to back up files and whatnot however possible!
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white people shouldn't care if everyone likes you bc some people are racist or misogynist or homophobic or transphobic or ableist or treat service workers like shit and you should not want their approval
white supremacy targets all of us in different ways
the need to keep peace and make waves is sometimes what keeps us striving for acceptance. (for me it was also daddy issues)
deprogramming and decolonizing your mind also has so many positive benefits for your mental health. i can emotionally regulate better and i'm happier, even if there is always a silent rage pulsing inside of me
You haven't failed;
your journey is starting to unfold.
I wish someone had told me about restaurant supply stores when I was 21 and needed to stock an entire kitchen for the first time ever.
they have everything a cook could possibly need, including oddities like pastry brushes that can be hard to find in a "housewares" store. they also have a whole bunch of stuff that you don't need, but is fun to look at and imagine why a restaurant needs it. all the prices will be reasonable for what you're getting. the kitchenware might not be pretty but it will definitely be durable. there will be at least one plain-but-cheap and one nice-and-not-that-much-more-expensive option for dishes. more generally, whenever they have more than one option for some item, the reason for any price difference will be obvious. and they won't stick you with buying sets of things when you only want one specific thing.
I don't know who needs to hear this, but never eat corn on the cob in front of your monitor
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Include Yourself In Your Compassion
Tip 4: Always Look On The Bright Side Of Life
another song reference there. let me know if you recognise it
So, your whole world has blown up and you’re a fucking mess. You don’t know what to do, you don’t know how to be. All those little things you took for granted are completely gone, away in the wind, and you’re starting to suspect they’re never coming back. You’re denying, you’re grieving, you’re mourning, you’re raging.
And that, my friend, is a lot to handle.
When you feel so much, so suddenly, with your once-stable ground cracked beneath you, it’s too much.
So… you need to look for other, little things. Things that don’t just go away or haven’t gone away. Talk to a friend, family, a stranger. Gaze up at the stars. Listen to a new music album. Branch out in the books you read or the games you play. Watch your favourite streamer. Buy that really exclusive but mouth-melting coffee from that one coffee shop.
I suppose this part is about finding the hope and joy. You need little things to get you through the horribleness, and then you can find the bright side of life. Maybe this new reality isn’t what it used to be, yes. Maybe it’s confusing and scary, yes. But maybe there will be good parts. Maybe, that secret that got out will help the people around you open up and be more honest. Maybe all those past mistakes that caught up to you or the people around you will help everybody learn from them. Maybe all those people aren’t worth your time and now you get to choose a new, found family. Maybe this will help you grow, make you realise how strong you are. Maybe the skills you get from this experience will pave your way to a new career.
People are messy because the world we live in is messy. People break rules and hearts, they stab loved ones in the back, they go down malicious rabbit holes of bad thoughts and decisions. That’s how people are. It sucks… but isn’t that a little comforting? To know that, although it feels like you’re dying, you’re actually… still alive! Be proud of yourself for that, I am! Although everything feels shaky and unsettled, the ground beneath your feet isn’t actually crumbling. It’s solid, and you can feel the rain on your face, the bird song in the swaying trees or the sunlight warming your skin. You can hear the hustle and bustle of the street or your neighbours. You can overhear friends chatting and laughing.
This world is brilliant and beautiful as it is messy and scary. Don't close yourself off from the light.
You can bask in the sun.
Sincerely, A Certified Mess
