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Genuinely one of the most important things I could talk about: there’s a difference in supporting a legitimate partner through struggle, versus slowly training yourself to accept chronic inconsistency, neglect, low effort, emotional unavailability, etc from a man because you think enduring it makes you more valuable to him somehow. Especially when there's no reciprocity.

A man benefiting from your patience is not the same thing as him respecting it.

for years, i tried to enter into this world externally through clothes, trips, performance.

but internally:

my sleep schedule was unstable. my hydration was inconsistent. my gut wasn't regulated. my appearance required effort instead of just maintenance. i was never prepared to travel on short notice.

so when the opportunities came, my mind said yes —

but my nervous system experienced it as stress.

so this phase isn't about doing what i did before.

it's about building the foundation that will allow my body to remain in the lifestyle instead of just visiting.

there will be changes. there will be systems. there will be a new baseline.

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