Sugar Heiress

Customize your character:

Find someone whose styling you admire or "vibe" you want to embody, could be real or fictional. It doesn't need to be someone who looks similar to you, we're just looking at style inspo.

Pick apart what draws you toward that particular style. Color? Cut? Fit? Patterns? Gather a collection of outfits/styles that you like and continue to take note of the common themes you notice between them. You could have a different style inspo for each season. I love emulating DVT's style in the winter, blacks, red lip, jewel tones. In the spring/summer, I love the russian heaux's Nikki Beach-ready style (missoni, bright accessories, white denim).

Shop with an outfit in mind:

When shopping, I mostly try to avoid viewing items as separate from the rest of my closet to minimize impulse buys. Try to think about at least 2 outfits the item could be incorporated into to avoid it collecting dust in your closet.

Sometimes (a lot of times) I do buy the item first then shop for something to go with it later 😂

Wardrobe audit:

Marie Kondo's book helped a lot with getting rid of items I held onto that I knew I wouldn't wear but was keeping due to sentimental value, "might need it later", etc. The results of the wardrobe audit also help to inform what your personal style is/could be based on the pieces you actually love and in turn decided to keep.

Congrats on the engagement btw! love your content 🩷

Set the tone from the beginning. This should be before you've even matched online or before he decides to approach you in real life. Your online profile, appearance, attitude, and attire should already signal that you only accept the best.

Outside of that, you've partially answered your own question. Some men will just naturally do it, and these are the only men that should be on your radar. Don't waste time texting/talking and trying to turn a stingy man into a generous one. Block and onto the next one.

If you're meeting men online, pay attention to where he suggests for the first date location. It should be a $$$$ restaurant. Alternatively, see how he reacts to you suggesting a $$$$ and go from there. A man with money to spend who is generous about doing so won't view a first date at a $$$$ restaurant as high risk. However, stingy men will because they feel it'll be a "waste of money" in the event that you two don't hit it off.

Natural looking veneers

I’ve considered them for years and want to select the best cosmetic dentist. Should look just like my teeth but whiter.

Botox in forehead and crow’s feet

A few months before so it can settle

Chemical peel 1-2 months before

Get rid of any hyperpigmentation or acne scarring

Derma-planing 1-2 weeks before

Remove peach fuzz for smoother makeup application

Touch up Cheek filler

I’ve already gotten light cheek filler to help with the appearance of my smile lines, but would add more down the line

Jet black hair dye, sew-in or tape ins for volume

I haven’t put on a wig in years. I love having access to my scalp and wigs don’t photograph well. For wedding day, hair wise, something natural-looking is the best way to go.

Spray tan or at home tanning mousse

Move to a different planet maybe… lol.

Stay ready so that you don’t have to get ready.

I’ve never understood wedding prep from a beauty standpoint unless you have a lot of work + invasive procedures to do leading up to the date. I have a shortlist of improvements I’d like to make before my wedding date and can share these in another post. I understand weight loss, though, as it isn’t something that happens overnight.

Skin:

Go. To. A. Professional!!! Stop impulse buying viral skincare products. I promise, the boring, non-flashy clinical-grade skincare will do wonders for you compared to the newest Drunk Elephant crap. Have your skin looked at by an aesthetician or a dermatologist if you have issues that need addressing that a traditional skincare routine and monthly facials haven’t helped. Typically, they will suggest a routine for you based on your skin concerns. You must be consistent to see positive changes in your skin. Do an audit of your lifestyle habits (smoking, alcohol, diet, exercise, hygiene, sleep) and see what can be removed or improved to improve your skin health.

Weight:

I’ve been skinny my entire life, so unwanted weight was never something I’ve struggled with, but I’ll tell you what I do to maintain my weight.

Prioritizing movement, no matter how small. Even if it’s just stretching for 5 minutes, this is a tiny step to get the ball rolling. I’m someone who can’t stand lifting weights, which is why I have a trainer to hold me accountable. Otherwise, I wouldn’t do it at all. So, if the finances are there, outsource as much as possible. Find an exercise modality you love, whether it’s Pilates, yoga, or cardio, and stick to it. Look for realistic body goal inspiration based on your Kibbe body type. It’s cliché, but so much of your dream body is made in the kitchen. Learn how to cook healthy meals for yourself so that it feels like a lifestyle, not a diet. One of my daily non-negotiables is to eat a big ass salad every day. Fiber is just as important, if not more than, protein. Or have healthy meals delivered so there’s one less thing to worry about. When it comes to snacking and sweets, I know that if I don’t keep them in the house, I’m unlikely to eat junk out of boredom. I let myself indulge if I feel like it (I love In-N-Out and chicken tenders just as much as the next girl), but afterward, I find myself craving healthy food lol.

Of course, there are shortcuts to weight loss, such as injections, but you don’t want to just be skinny, you want to have some muscle tone as well. So I would definitely go the exercise/diet route before considering more invasive methods, or even better, implement both at once.

Hair:

Experiment with signature styles and see what suits your face shape best. A low-risk way to do this is through wigs, just to see what works vs. what doesn’t. Don’t be afraid to cut a bob and start over if healthier hair is what you’re after. Maybe a subtle color change. I will recommend a professional color analysis until I’m blue in the face because it will save you so much time in all aspects of your styling. I know not to play with hair dye unless it’s jet black because anything else would be out of season for me.

Style:

In the past, I was definitely a night owl. But having a partner who goes to bed early slowly shifted my own schedule over time.

Mornings: