unsafe space

Now that I am a trans man, I am still told to be quiet.

This is all I can think about any time I read someone say that transandrophobia is not real.

also, many people engage in CNC because it makes them feel desired and safe. it helps many people with emotional processing, trust-building, and stress relief. what's unhealthy about that?

Comparing CNC to martial arts is inaccurate at the very least because in martial arts, nobody sets off playing the victim from the very start, the whole idea is that it's two people of similar strength and ability going at each other with rules that are the same for both people. And after being defeated in the struggle, the person who lost still gets treated with dignity and respect, and not violated and degraded (though it's fair to say the winners, esp if we're talking about men, probably often have the desire to continue humiliating and hurting their rival, but that's why you have other ppl there to break them up in case that happens).

All the other comparisons are even worse though...Video games don't involve real people (sure there's some motion capture going on, but all the gore is digital), haunted houses are based on things that don't actually exist in real life (ghosts, zombies, etc.) and horror movies are meticulously crafted through props, choreography, camera work and montage to create the illusion of horrible things happening. In CNC, a person actually does get forcibly penetrated and often beaten up. In a horror movie, an actor does not actually get beaten up/maimed by zombies/have to cut off their foot or whatever, and if the occasional punch does land on smb instead of missing them, it's considered an unfortunate accident and not the point of the whole work. CNC would only be like a horror movie if the parties pretended there was penetration while there really wasn't any, and the "rapist" tried to not actually land any violence on the "victim" while the latter imitated a reaction. (Though that situation would still merit the question: why does the person playing the "rapist" want that anyway? In acting, it's just a job that's part of a larger narrative story. But why would a person want that in their personal life? Why do they want to see their loved one cry and struggle and succumb?)

Inevitable libfem: Excuse me this really hurts the feelings of women who enjoy suffering and make it their personal choice, ((don't even post this shit at all, you insensitive prick! There's nothing to examine here, just let it go, let it be.))

there would be encampments, huge protests, everything you see with palestine but probably a hundred times more extreme. We’d be listing the stage of genocide this is, and calling it a second holocaust.

I mean IMAGINE a certain racial group’s voice is made illegal in public, and they have to wear a HUGE, ridiculous, uncomfortable garment like that. They aren’t allowed to leave the house without an (oppressor) escort. Banned from education or employment. No protections from violence and rape, basically less than an animal in law. IMAGINE IF ALL THAT HAPPENED TO A MINORITY RACIAL GROUP. this IS what’s happening to women.

They truly cannot conceive of masturbation without pornography, they're stunted in the imagination and memory department to the point where they can't even replay porn scenes in their minds for help

And if you point out that you can use your mind to facilitate jerking off they react like the crybabies that they are with 'b-b-but what if somebody has a poor imagination boo-hoo'

Short answer: Because they killed all progressive movements.

Long answer: Trans activists hijacked and colonized the women's movement and the gay community, and even other movements such as BLM and disability rights, so now every protest has to be about "trans" people. No group can protest, fund-raise, or advocate for just themselves without pasty Gen Zers with neon hair and creepy middle aged men in wigs screaming about how they're the most oppressed people ever and it's their right to rape and kill anyone they disagree with.

"Trans" people and their allies have spent the past decade bullying everyone into submission, ostracizing and threatening anyone who questioned or criticized them, making every march, movement, and slogan about themselves, and destroying women's rights and the gay and lesbians communities from the inside.

This left the door wide open for conservatives to come in and finish us off. If it wasn't for "trans" people and their allies, we would've likely still had a solid defense (class/female/gay solidarity) against the rise of the far right, and Trump may not have been elected a second time.

But instead we have tribalism, insane amounts of violence, hate, and censorship, struggle sessions, and fractured movements that are mere shadows of their former selves, and it's all thanks to "trans" people and their allies.

They tore our communities apart, stripped us of our hard earned rights, spaces, and resources, and then mercilessly beat us until we lay on the ground, unable to defend ourselves from the MAGAs, who finished the job by simply walking up and setting our bruised and bloodied bodies on fire.

And instead of putting the fire out, "trans" people and their allies are watching us burn while insisting they're actually the ones on fire.

The Democrats are not spineless. They're not cowards. They're not fighting back (much) because they don't care what the Republicans do to this county or its people.

They embraced "transgender" crap because they were paid to. They killed much of solidarity between and progress made by women, gays, working class, etc., because it was profitable. Even if they're elected out of office, they have enough money to be just fine. That includes your beloved AOC, who wouldn't piss on any of you if you were on fire.

And also, about the conservative normies: I believe it because I have also seen it. I live in a red state. I know conservatives who are indifferent to homosexuality but up in arms about "transgender".

A few replies on this have mentioned the gradual conservative acceptance, and they're right. Conservatives were slowly coming around, viewing us indifferently at the very least. I noticed the shift after same-sex marriage was legalized. It was begrudging, but most lost interest in protesting it.

Until "transgender" became a thing.

So we have the liberals, standing on their soap boxes promising to expand the reach of these types of men, allowing them access to vulnerable women, telling children they're in the wrong body, calling exclusive same sex attraction transphobic, and promoting bullshit female erasure in medicine.

We also have conservatives, promising to remove males from women's sports, prisons, and shelters, that they'll enforce proper sex markers on legal documents, and remove perverted lessons from schools. While also fighting to get rid of abortion, birth control, no fault divorce, and gay marriage.

So if you're a woman or a gay man, where are you supposed to go, politically? Both sides are against you. So some are voting conservative on the idea that the can win back abortion, birth control, and gay marriage, while others are voting independent or abstaining.

I might shock some people (should I throw in a joke about americans?), but anorexia existed even before Ozempic. Yes, it most often plagued models, singers, and actresses, but, okay, even from that point... have you ever considered that not every woman involved in the modeling industry is a high-paid celebrity? During my early teenage years, modeling agencies for children, mostly for girls, were everywhere, and many parents living close to the poverty line tried to steer their daughters in that direction. And no, I’m not using a euphemism for prostitution here. The logic was: what else could your daughter become, a great scientist, an athlete, or a politician? Naaaahhh put her in dance or ballet or singing, and let’s add modeling, why not. They will have higher chances to find a rich husband. Sexual harassment? Well, that’s just a basic fact of life; it’s everywhere, whats next? [just think back to the 2000s].

And besides that, many women of my age [who had / have anorexia] I know weren't even directly involved in this; they simply fell into the same trap of social expectations. And, importantly, anorexia can often morph into other forms of disorders, such as bulimia. That supposedly "fat" girl everyone bashes for "promoting obesity" might well be the very same person as the "most beautiful [emaciated] girl in the school photo." The thing is that you cant observe random strangers' lives as closely as when it is about popular women.

men just love to run their fucking mouth about what women do or do not want without even once considering consulting any actual women on the matter