obvs it can be annoying for others when people don't understand something "obvious"
but I do wish people would hold more grace for people who are "stupid"
as my cognitive & memory symptoms get worse I'm seeing myself in these stories more and more
the woman who is visibly confused in public and doesn't see the sign right next to her and asks the same question multiple times because she doesn't understand the answer or is failing to communicate the question she actually means to ask.
the person who enters a building and has to ask if she's found the right place, because she's too overwhelmed to put together the "obvious"
the person who is polite and respectful but who still needs something explained three different ways before she gets it.
and I get the frustration, I really do.
but the next time you see a "total idiot" in public who clearly genuinely has no idea what's going on, please just try to remember that it sucks to be that person too.
and as someone who has no choice about being that person, it sucks to see post after post ripping into people for just being confused in public. Not rude or entitled, just confused.
Obvs I'm not saying people shouldn't vent or laugh online at anonymous strangers who will never see it. Especially when they ARE rude or entitled!
I just feel like I'm seeing a lot more posts about "stupid people" recently and half the time "being stupid" was the only thing they did to piss ppl off and...
Idk sometimes it just comes across as really mean.
If you knew that "stupid" person was confused bc they're disabled, would you be just as mean?
If not, please consider: why on earth would you expect to always know when a stranger in public is disabled?
People are generally trying their best. Even those who aren't disabled—u don't know what their day is like!
Do you think YOU could think clearly on the worst day of your life?
Have you ever been so upset you barely know what's going on? Ever had to run errands while coming off anaesthesia or while a loved one is dying or while your scary newly-ex is blowing up your phone with threats or god, even just when you'd been up all night and feel like shit?
Giving people grace when and how you can is an incredibly rewarding practice. I want us all to be given that grace when we most need it.

















