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I bring a real 'actually people who are pregnant do deserve some special consideration because they are effectively at least temporarily disabled if not permanently after some complications' vibe to the party that a lot of people don't seem to like

This is real. Also, I had periods for about a decade pre-transition, and those can be debilitating, too, and should be given special consideration if the person having them experiences things like severe pain, heavy bleeding, issues with things like cysts, extreme nausea or fatigue, etc.

I bring a kind of “and stripping away the word ‘woman’ erases WHY people react so vitriolically to the assertion that special considerations should be given in these situations” that tumblr REALLY doesn’t like. You can call yourself a man all you want but the moment you’re pregnant or get your period you’re treated just the same as the rest of us.

I have so many reasons for believing transfeminism targets children but especially mentally unwell children, which is probably not news to anyone but I'd like to elaborate on some specifics. I think part of what is so damaging about gender ideology on kids is the very concept of a "gender identity." It is extremely common for all kids but ESPECIALLY kids living in unstable, unpredictable, abusive and/or chronically traumatizing environments to have little to no sense of identity. One of the tricks transfeminism plays on you is by instilling in you the belief that having a "gender identity" means "feeling" like a boy or a girl. Identity is not a set of beliefs, experiences, personality traits and preferences, but something you feel. When you feel good you are right gender, when you feel bad you are wrong gender. Gender identity is a feeling everyone is supposed to have. You know you are a woman because you feel like a woman, or whatever. And most traumatized kids don't feel anything about themselves except a sense of disappointment, confusion or outright self-loathing. Their identities are at best blank slates, because what they've undergone hasn't really allowed them to form any coherent sense of self yet. This is interpreted as there being something wrong that needs to be fixed. If society tells you that you are a woman but you don't FEEL like one, then clearly something must be amiss. You try on various presentations and the only thing that approximates comfort is androgyny or masculinity, because at least it gets you away from some of the shame of femaleness. The gap where your real identity is supposed to be has instead been filled in with aesthetics and consumerism, and while you've been trying to figure out your "gender identity" because you have now been convinced that it is the source of all of your suffering, you have been neglecting forming a real one. In my opinion this is part of why so many of them are so immature, under-developed or obsessed with superficial things like collecting objects. Most of them were once children in unhappy situations who were confused about who they were, and instead of receiving the care and support they needed to discover themselves their lack of a coherent identity was taken advantage of, prevented from developing and replaced instead with materialism and weird sex stuff.

can't believe this used to be the male tears website but now you have to be careful bc half of the "man-hating" posts on here are actually just trans-identified males punching down at transmen

why not keep it and have fun with it? acknowledge how malleable and subjective and potentially fun it can be lmao let's have feminine men masculine nb butches androgynous lesbians who are also trans like what's the harm in it

asking the “genital preference” crowd what they think happens during conversion therapy is always fun because you get to see them completely short circuit

ive actually never seen one of them attempt to answer

Male loneliness this, male loneliness that. Have they tried lobotomies? Tranquilizers? Being fingered by medical professionals? Tearing the yellow wallpaper off the walls of the attic room where your husband keeps you locked up?

Contrapoints, Jimquisition, Philosophytube… Male left youtube transing is kinda confirming my little theory that leftist men will do literally anything before questioning their own role as an oppressor in patriarchy. Why question your consumation of porn, your ignorance towards feminist issues, your misogynistic fetishes, your liberal stances on feminist issues despite calling yourself “socialist” and your deafening silence on how harmful gender roles are when you can just call yourself “a woman” or “nonbinary” or “literally anything else than a man”? Leftist men love to be the hero, the smartest person in the room, the one who “gets” it. And with most other political issues they don’t need to change their day-to-day life. Sure, they need to read stuff and learn stuff and not say some stuff. Checking your privileges is always uncomfortable to a certain degree and leftist men are at least doing it to some extend. But feminism is different. It actually needs men to change themselves, their material day to day life and their behaviour drastically. It’s extremely uncomfortable. But why stop watching porn, stop making fun of feminists, stop ignoring the harsh reality of being female on this planet when you can just go trans and say “actually everything I do is feminist and empowering <3 If you say otherwise you are a misogynist for taking my choices away. Oh and you are also a transphobe”. And those three aren’t just a little youtube thing that happens on the internet. So many men in the leftist activists groups I’m in are calling themselves “nonbinary” lately. One even said “Men do so much harmful shit, I don’t want to be identified with it :(”. And that’s… extremely honest in a scary way. Because if you are a man and you realize that men as a class do horrible things you shouldn’t go “Guess I’m not a man then”. You should go “Oh maybe I contribute to this somehow? Better question the way I live and act”. Imagine white people going “Yikes white people as an oppressor class are causing horrible things. I’m not horrible, so I can’t be white. I’m calling myself non-race or black now so every critique directed at white people can’t be about me and I don’t need to question myself whatsoever” (yes I’m aware that some white people are actually doing this shit). Also the cognitive dissonance between “I’m a marxist/socialist” and “The social construct of gender is real and extremely important to me <3 In fact, changing my gender changes how you are allowed to address my material past, present and my privileges” is just so telling. And I’m speaking as someone who liked the content of all three of those people. But believing that gender is real and that transing changes their material reality in the oppression dynamic of our society is the most liberal, the most capitalistic and anti-progressive thing to do. And it discredits everything else they ever said

A big thing in so-called progressive spaces is criticizing women for being suspicious of random men, and insisting that there must be a racist/ableist/classist/anti-homeless bias at play, while conveniently forgetting that the woman in question (any woman) is a marginalised person doing what they can to avoid being hate-crimed (assaulted, raped or murdered) by a member of an oppressor class.