these people want to be able to claim "weirdness" and "avant-garde-ness" without having to actually define whether they are gay or straight or bisexual (probably because they're straight). but thanks for once again lumping same-sex-attraction in with weirdness and unconventional lifestyles when gay activists worked for literal decades to say "hey, we're just like you, we're normal people who just happen to like the same sex". it's funny how all these people all calling david sedaris old, and saying he just doesn't get it. well maybe you're young, and YOU just don't get it. you don't get how queer was and is used as a derogatory slur especially towards gay men, and specifically used to call homosexuality WEIRD and STRANGE, and so maybe david is confused why suddenly non-gay people are adopting the word to call themselves weird and strange for being kinky or having threesomes. YOUUUUU don't it, he gets it more than you, you gen-z spicy straight queer. "maybe I don't want to invoke exactly who I have sex with" okay then don't come out?? don't come out as queer then...? you want to come out at queer, but not tell anyone who you have sex with. good plan. so you want the social cool point and oppression points without actually coming out of the closet, sorry but you can't have both. if you don't want people questioning who you have sex with, maybe don't mention your queerness. that's like announcing that you're a very pious religious person, and then when people ask what religion you practice, you're like "I don't want to invoke exactly what religion I practice". then maybe don't bring it up?? and claiming that david "doesn't want to make space for anyone else"... yeah maybe he doesn't want to make room for spicy straight polyamorous kinksters to be lumped together with him as a homosexual man.... I think that's pretty fair! inclusivity is not always good and positive. exclusivity is not inherently mean, problematic or evil. we don't have to make space for everyone. you can tell most of these people are not actually homosexual or bisexual, otherwise they wouldn't have felt called out by what david said. whatever, have fun with your threeway, but leave gays and lesbians out of it please.