Males DNI

My friend who left her Amish order at age 19, who was the eldest daughter to a family of nine, who never had a birthday party, whose days of cooking and cleaning and farm labor and taking care of her younger siblings started at 4:30 am, has never felt the urge to do ageplay 

My coworker, who raised her violent younger brother and fended for herself in a filthy double-wide trailer where her parents were either gone or raging drunk at home, who couldn't even dare to invite a friend over because of how horrifying her home life was, has never felt the urge to have a slumber party pillow fight

My neighbor's mother, who grew up as a house girl in southern India, who was born into a life of drugery and hiddenness and abuse, who wasn't allowed to even touch the toilet or dining utensils of the house she was forced to work in for 10 hours a day as a child, has never felt the urge to drink out of a Disney princess sippy cup 

Just remember that "princesses," contrary to the stereotypes about their pampering, were mere bargaining chips. They were artificially pushed out of power, driven back to tea parties and dress fittings, because their primary function was to be sold and then regularly subjected to sexual and reproductive violence.

"look, i know the stereotype is that men don't use mascara, but it just so happens that i also separately think that me stopping mascara use is a way for me to signify everyone else that i am a man, just, you know, personally, outside of the vacuum, and it has nothing to do with anyone else's decisions, although of course i know that this is how they also recognize the significance, because they are also raised in the same culture and are affected by the stereotype, but anyway, to each their own and this is just about me"

I’m not saying anyone should or deserves to get hurt, I’m just saying there’d be a lot fewer women pretending there’s no difference between getting hit/tackled by a male vs a female in contact sports if they’d actually experienced it

Like, literally irl around. It was hosted nearby, even, and I spoke with Morgan Page, one of the people presenting it.

It distinctly referred to the underwear of lesbians who refused to find trans women sexually attractive.

But hey, don’t take my word for it! Let’s hear from Avory Faucette, a trans activist involved with the Cotton Ceiling:

[T]he cotton ceiling [is] us[ed] to challenge cis lesbians’ tendency to support trans causes generally but draw the line at sleeping with trans women or including trans lesbians in their sexual communities.

Drew Deveaux, the originator of the term, is even more specific:

“The cotton ceiling is a theory proposed [by trans porn star and activist Drew DeVeaux] to explain the experiences queer trans women have with simultaneous social inclusion and sexual exclusion within the broader queer women’s communities. Basically, it means that cis queer women will be friends with us and talk day and night about trans rights and ending transmisogyny, but will still not consider us viable sexual partners.

The term cotton ceiling is a reference to the “glass ceiling” that second wave feminist identified in the workforce, wherein women could only advance so high in the workforce but could not break through into positions of power and authority. The cotton represents underwear, signifying sex.”

So right there from the horses’ mouth–

The cotton ceiling represents underwear, signifying sex, and the underwear in question refers specifically to lesbians’

Well, here’s something to ponder on: The Glass Ceiling was proposed by feminists who saw that women, as a class, were missing out on opportunities in the workplace. It is a term meant to represent women in the workforce as we fight against prejudice, so that we can finally gain access to something we want. It is a term proposed by those who are missing out, to enable them to fight against a system that is disadvantaging them. 

Who, exactly, is the term ‘cotton ceiling’ meant to represent? Who, because of the existence of this supposed barrier to equality, are the people missing out? Because it doesn’t make sense to propose a theory like this from the standpoint of those who supposedly hold all the power in the situation. If lesbians wanted to break through the cotton barrier then we would, but we don’t want to, which is exactly why this tacky, rape apologist, mess of a ‘theory’ was proposed in the first place. 

To illustrate my point: A visual representation of the Glass Ceiling - ‘the unacknowledged barrier to advancement in a profession, especially affecting women and members of minorities’

See how the barrier is stopping the disadvantaged group(s) from attaining what they want.

Now contrast this with the Cotton Ceiling - “theory proposed by trans porn star and activist Drew DeVeaux to explain the experiences queer trans women have with simultaneous social inclusion and sexual exclusion within the broader queer women’s communities”

For most slurs, reclamation is considered an individual process. What one person may be comfortable with is not safe to presume everyone will be comfortable with. Additionally, reclamation is normally done within a community, not outside of it.

Yet for sexual minorities, we're meant to suddenly be okay with straight news anchormen calling all of us the "Queer Community," who gave him the right? Lesbian authors are suddenly listed under "queer authors" by articles even when the woman herself has only called herself "lesbian."