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My sincere belief is that allowing men to 1. hold power, and 2. maintain significant numbers is an active disservice to all women.

there were an overwhelming amount of men, and little to no women at all. there were no separate dormitories either.

i asked staff why this is at multiple places.

it's because there's such a high rate of sexual violence, sometimes just assault in general, threats of murder towards homeless women in these shelters, that they'd rather sleep outside, spend their time OUTSIDE. even in the freezing cold. and it gets really really cold where i am in wintertime.

genuinely these people think that lesbian is a social club, an identifier of your social group and interests similar to identifiers like metalhead, skateboarder, etc. “you’re not a true metalhead if you don’t protect women when you’re moshing” “you’re not a true skateboarder if you don’t clean up your skate park”. these people do not see lesbianism as an inborn innate immutable trait, they see it as a social identifier, that can be identified into or out of at will, that grants you access to the social club of lesbianism. this is very clear when they accuser lesbians of “gate keeping” lesbianism, as if that’s even possible. you either are or you aren’t, regardless of who accepts you and believes you to be a lesbian.

whenever lesbians bring up the conversation of "genital preferences" & homosexuality, we usually get a gaslight-y, disingenuous response about it being "totally okay and valid (just don't be a transphobe)"

but when you examine what actual TIMs & TRAs say, it becomes very obvious that there is an elephant in the room. and it's coercive language. it's co-opting lesbian sexual terms, bringing morality, again, greatly coercive language & plain accusations of bigotry.

it's actually, a very common phenomenon. but when homosexual women bring this up, bring their experiences up... it's always: "this doesn't happen."

it does though.

"gender abolitionist" used to be the cool hip thing, that even hasan-i-hate-women-abi & vaush-i-fuck-horses-vidya (or just about any & every breadtuber) called themselves. just what, two-three years ago? gender being a social construct & the abolition of it used to be thee argument FOR TRAs.

but now it's somehow a terf dogwhistle?

AFAB & AMAB used to be completely acceptable language & even other TRAs used it in conversation.

but now it's a terf dogwhistle (that got me banned from a lesbian subreddit)?

& again, gender being a made up social construct used to mean that anything goes & you can transition and identify however you like, was the main argument!

but now, when i say "gender is a social construct", i'm dogwhistling to terfs & spouting transphobic rhetoric?

i recently learnt that many nuns were not the devout and chaste women that males would love us, and have continuously forced us, to be — and, for a non-trivial amount of women, being a nun had very little to do with submission to a male “God”

in many medieval and early modern European societies, women (and particularly lesbians) became nuns because it was one of the very few ways to escape marriage, (marital) rape, childbirth and a lifetime of exploitation by her husband — though, of course, the vast risks of male violence by religious men in the church remained

convents were one of the extremely rare places where women could access formal education and intellectual communities. here, women could learn how to read and write, and gain a broad education in theology, philosophy, music, languages, medicine and other areas

certain nuns, particularly abbesses of wealthy convents, had considerable authority which she could never have achieved in the outside world — including managing estates, controlling finances, and negotiating with political and religious authorities

in other words, it was more desirable for many women to pay a religious dowry and sell herself to “God”, than to pay a marital dowry and be sold by her family, and by society, to a man

of course, many convents were extremely abusive institutions, and the experiences of women differed greatly dependent on her social class and the historical period in question

What The Telegraph said:

but in all seriousness, the systemic issues OP says make women "infantilize themselves" wouldn't apply to trans women, because they are male and have been raised, socialized, and treated as men...

The other day I had a man openly admit to me that when I said I would not like a dick pic, it made him want to do it more. When I asked why, he responded "idk, just made me want to pick on you".

Research has shown that men are far more likely to develop PTSD due to a standalone traumatic event compared to women who — as stated — are more likely to develop CPTSD due to prolonged traumatic events.

While different studies or papers will report slightly different numbers, all agree that women are more “tormented” by daily life than men and thus develop worse mental illness due to it. This study in particular even states that “cisgender women are 2 to 3 times more likely to develop PTSD and CPTSD than men, even when exposed to similar trauma types.”

TLDR; being a cis woman in the world is so traumatic we are 2 to 3 times more likely to develop PTSD than a man by simply living in the world with them.

male gaze under patriarchy changes the brain

objectification diminishes brain capacity