one voice for many

 [ID: Digital art of a flying robot holding an aroace flag and saying, "Be gay do crime". The aroace flag has five stripes of orange, light orange, white, light blue, and navy blue. End ID.]

At first, I wasn’t sure I liked it much, but I sat with it, studied it, thought about it and came to the conclusion that, yes, I did like it.

I visited it many times until I grew to love it.

I love the flat, simplified look of it.

I love that it looks like a painted polaroid.

I love that it’s a moment suspended in time and Peter is forever on the cusp of getting out of Nick’s pool.

David Hockney is an artist whose work crept up on me and got under my skin without me even realising it had happened and I feel like the art world has lost something significant with his passing.

And do you know what makes me incandescent with rage? I tried to add an image of the painting to this post and fucking Tumblr censored it as mature content.

They censored art.

 [ID: Digital art of a flying robot holding a gay flag and saying, "Be gay do crime". The gay flag has seven stripes of dark teal, turquoise, sea green, white, light blue, dark blue, and navy. End ID.]

The majority of men are basically, like, fine, but it's a well-documented observation that people will tend to stick around with people who hold similar values etc. This is called "homophily" in the social sciences.

So you get these calls for men to "call out" their friends who make misogynist jokes but well... most of the men who will actually hear that message are already not friends with the men who make those jokes, BECAUSE they find men who make those jokes odious.

Decent men and scumbags tend to self-sort into distinct social scenes. This isn't absolute, there are mixed groups, but it can lead to specific scenes or subcultures where all the men are shit heads. If you are finding yourself surrounded by such men consider taking up new hobbies and expanding your social circles. You may have to go out of your comfort zone.