Marxism-Leninism-Transexualism

Like i try to be understand like ohhh big changes! But its always like "so anyway is [s]he (we're still using male pronouns after a year of talking about this she says it's totally fine!!) Being abusive and violating my boundaries by shaving [her] legs? I've been crying and throwing up all morning. Also [she] wants to starts estrogen in 6 months and I feel like that is too fast and I can't handle so I told [her] that she needs to consider how I feel through all this and slow down [not physically transition]. Like im fine with dresses but I will actually kms if I can't smell HIS manly MUSK anymore."

And its like I feel like in any other context this would be considered controlling and abusive behavior is any time one person tried to change their own body the other partner SI'd or melted down or what ever.

And not one person thought to bring it up.

When I was talking about how horrifying puberty felt. When I was cutting myself. When I was in inpatient care. When I attempted suicide. When I talked for YEARS in therapy about how dissociated and trapped I felt in my body. When I felt like I never truly fixed something that was deeply wrong about me that started at puberty.

Not one person said it was a possibility. No one thought "hey, maybe this kid should go to someone trained to identify dysphoria". No one mentioned that trans people weren't some weird other group of people. It didn't have to be pressure. It didn't have to be "forcing" me. Just mentioning that trans people exist and it could be me. That it was possible and it was easy. No pushing, just laying the option out there.

HRT is treated like this last ditch option. This horrific, mutilating thing that I GUESS we can give to you if you have NO OTHER options. Because did you know it's permanent? Did you know you'll be on it for the rest of your life? Did you know the health risks? Did you know it'll make you infertile? Did you know that it's deviant? Did you know that it's an alternative lifestyle for other people?

No one said it was okay to WANT it to be permanent. Or noted that most people are reliant on the medical system in one way or the other anyways (and it's not even necessary for HRT). Or that the health risks are the normal parts of having that hormone, even in cis people of your gender. Or said it was okay to not want kids, or mention that you can just freeze gametes. Or acknowledged that the "deviant" people are just people, living their lives, that have been violently pushed out of "normal" society.

I grew up in an area that Republicans mock for being a kind of "woke central". And even then it's just. Not treated as an easy option. It was never on the table if you don't specifically already know you're going through gender stuff, and no one will help you get to that point. At which point, it's still treated like the last ditch option. Did you know you can be a feminine man? Did you know you can slap a "she/her" in your twitter bio and be done with it? Did you know that you're oh-so-valid without it? Did you know that you shouldn't take HRT? Maybe don't take HRT? Don't take HRT? Don't take HRT? Don't ta-

When you've been in it a while, HRT is the easiest, most casual thing in the world. Just pop a shot on a Saturday as part of your "everything shower" routine and you're done.

As someone who's tme myself, it really opened my eyes to how "progressive" people truly just use therapy speak and surface level supportive statements to hide their ugly personalities. It's exhausting, and I can't imagine what it's like for you.

"unlearning male privilege" is EXACTLY the quiet part when people talk about "unlearning male socialization"

if they took that logic any further they'd realize it's ridiculous. no woman on earth can "learn" male privilege, because performing masculinity as a woman does not confer male privilege. women are punished for the same behaviors that men are rewarded or excused for. that's why men have male privilege

If you feel boxed in and/or trapped by labels, maybe try identifying what your attraction (or gender) is first, and then find a label which accurately describes said attraction/gender. Use them descriptively not prescriptively.

I also find it very interesting how this crowd only seems to emerge during discussions of lesbianism. As in, you're only anti-label once a lesbian is describing her exclusivity towards women. It's very similar to how the gender abolitionost crowd exclusively emerges during conversations surrounding trans women.

Could it be, misogyny? Transphobia? Cissexism? Homophobia? Lesbophobia? Transmisogyny?

Like why do I have to say this every fucking year for the past 15 fucking years.

Most recently in a transmasc space I saw "OH im anyone but cis dudes. Ill date cis women, trans men. And maybe some nbs"

So trans women are?????