speaking from experience, if you're a lesbian and you're attracted to a trans man then two options present themselves to you:
realize that you don't really see him as a man, or :
accept that you can be attracted to a man
a fork in the road like this would be a great place to examine your bioessentialist transphobia, but instead of doing that you can just ascend to a new enlightened plane and reach queer level 100 by deciding "welllll trans men can be lesbians"
what really fucking gets me about the situation you've described is that the easier answer is to just decide that you are bi? But people don't want to do that for some reason. I don't get why.
anti-bi sentiment is usually the reason tbh




















