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The average Tumblr blogger has such poor manners that even a pig would be embarrassed to bring them home to its mother.

learned today that one of the hosts of a podcast I occasionally listen to was in the epstein files because of an incident wherein she was being sexually harassed/abused by a man who worked in her field -> she created a google doc for other women in said field to anonymously submit the names of men who had harassed/abused them -> one of these men sued for her for defamation even though she didn’t know him & didn’t even know who his victim was -> he couldn’t afford lawyers & reached out to epstein for funding -> epstein gave it to him -> after 5 years she was forced into a settlement & had to pay him over $100k. the way these predatory men find solidarity with each other is so so so profoundly evil

Ugh I connected with another adult creator and was like "hey if you're ever in Philly id love to connect" and he was like "I only do boy/girl scenes, sorry" and like idk I know within porn, I am going to be a third gender and not seen as a woman but I can't lie, that shit did sting a little, like I conceptualize myself so fully as a woman that it doesn't make sense to be turned down cuz a guy "only shoots with women"

Trans guy into femdom who gets off on being called a birthday boy

bird

the old "all trans people I know are mentally ill to some degree even if I don't believe being trans is itself a mental illness" line is a classic case of torturing you to insanity then torturing you for being insane

like do you have any idea how rude people are about all of this of course I'm insane

Can I still be a leftist if I’m a reactionary conservative

the thing is like. if you see someone complaining about “tmes”. like as in everyone who is described by the term tme (transmisogyny exempt). and the place your mind immediately jumps to is “this person is criticizing an entire demographic of queer people!!” then well. idk. that says to me that, at best, you still just don’t get what tme/tma exist to refer to. that you haven’t been listening to transfeminists when they talk about this. tme is just simply not a descriptor of any one particular queer identity. tme is not a descriptor of any queer identity at all. I can’t emphasize this enough. in fact, the vast majority of people who could accurately be described as tme aren’t even queer. it’s just like really telling to me when people try to turn discussion of transmisogyny into a matter of “queer infighting”. i get that that’s, like, the easiest route to take to try to make transfeminists look divisive and unreasonable. but that, you know, sucks. and it’s wildly intellectually dishonest. these are terms that exist to describe axes of power and oppression.

tme trans people have a way of melting when confronted with the idea that some people might have it worse than them

you truly can't have gimmicks as a transfem, huh.

a child can 100% be trans, but there's no such thing as a cis child under ~10 and i believe this unironically

children only start being cis once they ostracize their trans peers. which i guess in fairness can be younger than 10 in many instances. but point is that before that we just tell them they're cis and they have no frame of reference to really say anything about it (and if they do, they get abused)